Flakes and other rants  

Dvlsdaughter 39F
38 posts
3/26/2005 12:56 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Flakes and other rants

I have to say, I'm a pretty genuine person. When I say that I'll meet someone, you'd better believe I'll show up. Unfortunately, not everyone seems to share the same philosophy. I've always had a problem with getting stood up and stood on. Thats the trouble with taking people at their words. I'm too trusting and honest for my own good (not that I would change that about myself). Now, I'll never promise to have sex with someone simply because I agreed to meet with them. A description of a "flake" I've found floating around in men's rants includes women who don't put out when push comes to shove. Frankly, thats a bunch of bull...attraction is a fickle thing, and one crummy webcam picture isn't enough to convey a person's appearance accurately. If I meet someone in person and I find that there is no chemistry, I don't feel obliged to follow through on some imaginary implied promise, nor would I expect anyone else to. Lets be realistic here, shall we? No one EVER has an obligation to have sex with anyone, at any time, for any reason. Thats coercion, boys and girls.
And on a final note, for the men who might possibly read this...a woman who is hesitant to meet without knowing much about you or havin seen many pictures is not a flake, she's being careful. While there are certainly many psychotic women out there, its an unfortunate truth that we gals have to be more cautious about who we choose to meet. Some of us (probably many, as the current national statistics for are 1 in every 4 women in the U.S.) have had experiences with sexual violence, and have VERY good reason to be concerned. So have a little patience with your ladies, be considerate of their requests to meet in a public place, and be realistic about the laws of attraction...take rejection with gracefulness and good sportsmanship. We're all here to play nice (or naughty), lets be adults about it!

ishmiel 37M
1 post
4/30/2005 10:35 am

a shame u got stood up.
i think its smarter if no one promises sex. thats just common sense

mkb284 46M

5/31/2005 6:58 pm

I agree with Kitty, I think that it is rude to be stood up, but at the same time everyone needs to be very cautious about who they meet. Be sure to get to know the person a bit before you go and meet them. I always make sure to ask for sure what they are looking for and if it is the same as you then you can pursue it, if not then move on. Sex is fun yes, but be patient. if it is meant to be it will cum!! LOL

tomtflashman 66M
1 post
7/8/2005 2:24 am

hi there wold love to me u when u in sac mmmmmmmmmmmmm email

grizzguy4u 58M

7/21/2005 2:15 pm

i have been stood up more times than i can count and always try to be upfront - and honest...about who i am and what i'm looking for...
how can one meet this kitty...she sounds too good to be true...am i allowed to cum on to u here???

rm_saintlianna 46F
15466 posts
8/3/2005 12:13 pm

Thank you for saying that. Its true that when you go to meet someone new with no idea of their past criminal history you might end up with a night of great sex, or the cops pulling your dismembered body parts out of the Allehgeny the next morning. Personally, I think I'm going to start setting up meetings at the local police station.

Treadwell3 53M

8/28/2005 9:55 am

Iam often amazed at the ammount of personal information people give out so freely. I am also amazed at the lack of civility and manners. Just because you're meeting a stranger for a discreet liason doesn't mean you can't do it with style.

rm_rdynwilin69 49M

10/23/2005 7:14 am

good for you girl, for telling it like it is. sex is the attraction BUT you have to remember what else goes along with that.it seems so simple to just meet someone with or without hooking up.but just showing up is half the battle!!

chotu00 43M
1 post
1/1/2006 12:04 am

i agree with her ,its fair to be cautious as situation demands

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