Last post for the evening before I head to bed....  

Djeeper1987 48M
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5/16/2006 9:39 pm

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5/19/2006 4:19 pm

Last post for the evening before I head to bed....

The weirdest thing happened to me this afternoon. Now I realized lately I been getting the weird gnomes coming by.
Anyways, I got this invitation to attend a wedding up north.
And out of shock I could not believe who it came from.
My ex.
I haven't heard from her or seen her in over 4 years.
Now why all the sudden am I getting a wedding invite?
I had a load of mix feelings rushing over me.
Angry....Really angry..
I could go on and on....
However, after the shock I was happy for her. When she and I were going out together and almost living together at the time she was going thru a bit of a patch in her life.
Emotional and life Baggage, then again who doesn't....
I am not going to go into details as to what happened, but she just picked up and disappeared on me taking some things that didn't belong to her.
Funny things is I still have some of her stuff she never took with her.
Don't know why I kept it, should have just thrown it out or given it to GoodWill.
Oh yeah, my point about realizing why I am happy for her.
She once told me she didn't think she was ever going to amount to anything in life.
And now she is getting married.
She has a 2 year son.
Along with the invitation was a letter. I will not go into details about that. I will keep that to myself. However just to the point...
Stating she was apologizing for leaving me and that she wanted to reconcile with a friendship.
Boy that burned me a little matter of fact ly.
Well as I go off to bed, I got a lot of thinking to do....probably won't get any real sleep.
Just something that hits you as hard as it did and makes you really THINK!!!
Shit all I am doing is babbling....

Have you ever had something like this happened to you? Were you angry? Were you Happy for that person?
Did you just not care to deal with it and move on or perhaps go make peace?

Carpe Diem

sexyariesgirl 59F

5/17/2006 5:00 am

Follow your gut.....I've learned to trust my gut instincts! Take care sweetie.

Power To FOK

Djeeper1987 replies on 5/17/2006 3:56 pm: gut is actually growling. im hungry!! not bad, i think im pretty good at this instincts stuff. hahaha
Thanks hun. You take care as well!

clitalicious67 50F

5/17/2006 5:20 am

Well I have had similar things happen in my life although it wasn't a lover but a good friend...just up and ended the friendship wouldn't talk about it...wouldn't tell me what was wrong...just over...I tried to understand or talk to her...but no....then at a class reunion this last year I ran into her and she acted as if nothing happened...and wanted to pick up the friendship...she walked out of the friendship at a time when things were chaotic and painful in my I thought to the reunion...I will be civil but I don't need you in my life...and she invited us to her house and to call her and that was last July 05...and I still haven' regrets...

Sometimes it is best to let sleeping dogs lie...just my thoughts...

Sorry you were hurting and wish you would have said...

Tight hugs...C~

Djeeper1987 replies on 5/17/2006 3:56 pm:
Interesting, a friend does that to you. This one was an ex-lover. I am cool, just rather shocked from the invitation.

imLadyBambi 59M/51F

5/17/2006 8:29 am

I sent a congaratulations cards and was done with it.

Haven't heard from him since.

Lady Bambi

Djeeper1987 replies on 5/17/2006 3:57 pm:
I might do that, or I could go crash the party!!


5/17/2006 11:20 am

You need to do whats best for you...I always try to make peace.. but sometimes when you just can't find the true forgivness in your heart its better to close the door.

under the stars
We choose to write
you choose what you comprehend.
read twice and be nice
every key stroke... has a heart beat

Djeeper1987 replies on 5/17/2006 3:57 pm:
I am trying to find it, the wedding isn't for another 5 weeks. So who knows?

rm_PurryKitty2 49M/51F
9753 posts
5/17/2006 6:16 pm

Honestly, I say what a bitch!!! It would be one thing if you talked, but not hearing from her in 4 years and her sending the invite is just down right bitchy!!!

Shred it up and move on.

Purry {=}


Djeeper1987 replies on 5/17/2006 9:13 pm:
I like the way you think!!!

blondietickler 44F
295 posts
5/18/2006 2:11 pm

does she still have that connection to you that after four years you are still hurting? i have tried to end all my relationships on a friendship basis, not that it always works. just curious. as usual. sorry for your shock doll.

Djeeper1987 replies on 5/18/2006 5:01 pm:
I don't think so, as far as being friends...well lets just say after 4 years I don't think so.

alisa_d 39F

5/18/2006 11:54 pm

Maybe she just wants a last roll... LOL! Who knows... But agree with Lady Bambi though... just send her a congrats card and close that door.. later

Djeeper1987 replies on 5/19/2006 5:05 am:
Thats probably what I will do.

MaggiesWishes 61F

5/19/2006 5:19 am

Maybe she needs a priest for her confessions and not you.
Sorry if this sounds a bit manly, but fuck her!
She didn't have the decency to face you then, why put you out to finance a trip to see her?
Would be different had she been civil about it & parted as friends in mutual manner.

*runs to corner, just in case pillows start flying my way*
{=} warm huggies from me

Djeeper1987 replies on 5/19/2006 5:30 am:
Don't run, I ain't going to throw pillows at ya. Not unless you want a pillow fight in bed.
All I am going to do is send a card and leave it at that.

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