Stalking 101  

Divinitydesires 47F
4872 posts
1/17/2006 7:07 am

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Stalking 101

Stalking has been on my mind since the Kimmers incident when she posted that she needed boundaries. When someone comes onto the net you open yourself up to a world full of crazy people. People who often don't know what limits are. Now granted not everyone is crazy but how do you know who to trust and who not to trust? Trust seems to be a big subject as of late in the blogland due to the 'Todd' incident. And often times people exaggerate their stories to get more attention...

But there are limits and should be limits on contacting another human being from the Internet, regardless if they are from here or any other site.

So... let's talk about those limits, Men and Women.

1. When you know someone's name, keep it to yourself. Don't use it on the net, use their handle, use pet names like 'sweetie', 'hun', 'babe', etc. etc. etc. Putting someone's information up for the whole world to see is WRONG!!!! And people if you give this information out think twice about it. Certain things should not be talked about... for example: KIDS, place of work, Social Security Numbers, Driver Licenses... etc. etc. etc. Think twice before giving out this information. Think about who you are endangering! I don't care how sweet the other person is or how safe they seem, think about what they can do with that information if they get a wild hair up their ass.

2. Back to the name thing. Never is it okay to surf for someone's name to find more information about them. NEVER! I don't care how bored you are, or how fun it might seem. It's just wrong. And it's not just surfing the net, but calling different places around their hometown trying to find out where they work or live. This is stalking people! And it scares me and other people! So stop!

3. NEVER... and I mean NEVER is it okay to show up at someone's house... or place of work without the other person knowing. It might seem like fun and games, or something cool to do, IT'S NOT! So get over your bad self and call the person up and let them know what your up to. Don't have their number?... go to #4.

4. Never is it okay use information to get someone's phone number or other personal information on another person. If they aren't willing to give it to you then leave it be. It's not for you to hunt down, but for them to give. Now I know I have a lot of phone sex and I've been very lucky with the individuals that I've given my number out too. All have been gentlemen to me and I appreciate that. But I get the same lecture all the time and they're right.

You need to be careful, men and women. Think Fatal Attraction before you give someone information about yourself.

The proper way to contact people...
1. Emails through AdultFriendFinder.
2. Here on the blogs.
3. Through other mutual friends.
4. Through the magazine here on AdultFriendFinder.

There are right ways to go about contacting someone and wrong ways. You may feel an attraction toward someone, but remember to keep yourself in check. You may want to spend more time with the other person, but think twice, help them think, keep them safe.

This announcement is for both men and women alike! I have found no boundaries or preference for sex. It disturbes me greatly that some people think its a game to find out all the information they can about another person. It's not! It's a very serious matter.

If anyone has anything they can add to this list please do so...

fantasylover_05 63M

1/17/2006 8:42 am

You have phone sex?? Hmmmmmm where do I sign up?? LOL LOL

All kidding aside.... you have a very serious topic and I am sorry if I am a cad making light of your post....

You are indeed correct..... we must have boundries and limits and you make several very good points..... I do not give out personal information which can "identify" me until and unless I am as certain as I can be that I am talking with a safe and sane individual... I would NEVER use ANY KIND of personal information about another individual to inappropriately contact them.... and by "inappropriate" I mean in any way they have not EXPRESSLY approved FIRST!

Stalking is a HUGE this in this day and age.... there is so much information about each of us out there already!!

One last thing.... to me.... "no or stop" ALWAYS means EXACTLY THAT.. it is not open to discussion or negotiation... it can not be "interpreted"..... it is ABSOLUTE!! And that applies to simple contact (meaning email phone etc) and well as the more obvious things!!!

dasher121 37M

1/17/2006 9:17 am

This is great and well thought out miss D yes, as much as i like the peeps that ive met and my freaky darlings one must show a level of guardedness when dealing with folks on the net. it doesnt mean you cant be friends, or enjoy what eachother has to say, just be careful is all.

good times, good times.......cheers to all.

oldman1776 80M
3164 posts
1/17/2006 10:58 am

Right on the mark dear. No one can be to careful on this site or any site on the internet where people interact with each other.

fantasylover_05 63M

1/17/2006 11:37 am

Thanks Divinity for cutting me a bit of slack for the comment.... (I honestly deleted it once as I was concerned.... but decided I am a cad anyway so what the hell LO

It is TRULY a very serious topic and in need of serious discussion!!

I have been fortunate in that I have not had any trouble and have been extremely blessed to have met a three incredible women in the past 3 years (not this site though I have no reason to believe it is not also possible here... as there certainly seems to be quite a number of very beautiful, sexy, sensuous and intelligent women here... and I would count you amoung them!)

Lastly... WHERE DO I SIGN UP?? LOL LOL Call me!

aascrompn 43M
6444 posts
1/17/2006 12:28 pm

Very true! Great post...

digdug41 50M

1/17/2006 1:30 pm

I feel ya it can be quite insane and we dont know who we are dealing with so its better to be safe than sorry good post and for those of us who take this lightly they should read this

roaming the cyber streets of blogland

im_curious_4u 51M

1/17/2006 9:48 pm

I totally agree. You made some great points.

Keep up the good work Ezmorelda, opps I mean Div.

redmustang91 58M  
8935 posts
1/19/2006 4:19 pm

Good points DD! More of a problem for females I assume as most men are not stalked by women, at least not many in my situation! Still it makes sense to be careful.

romeoMEETSjuliet 53M/53F
162 posts
3/22/2006 9:16 pm

Thank you.

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