Lasting Longer  

Divinitydesires 47F
4872 posts
2/2/2006 5:56 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Lasting Longer

I was reading an article this morning about men wanting to last longer while having intercourse. It said that most men can’t last as long as they would like and feel inadequate because of it. Once before I asked the question of Stamina, how long can you go? Many of you had some impressive answers (some of which I know are an exaggeration, but I've come to love that about AdultFriendFinder. ) But in reality are you happy with how long you can endure? Please don't answer that question outloud to me. The article said "The first thing that needs to be understood is that the state of mind a person is in has a huge effect on their sexual performance. Aaaaahhhh okay, if a man believes he has good stamina then he is a better lover.
Wooooo Hooooo SCORE!!!

Anything I can do to help men last longer while having entercourse, then I'm game! Here's what the article suggested.

The first principle behind the techniques and suggestions listed below is the man’s ability to know his own body. By understanding how his body works and how his excitement rises, he should be able to learn how to pace himself better. It is key to know when to slow down to allow your excitement to drop enough so that you can “re-group” and then pick up the pace again. The second principle has to do with decreasing the sensitivity of the penis. By decreasing the sensitivity, it will take more stimulation to achieve the excitement necessary for climax. The following techniques and suggestions should help boost his sexual stamina, but they are not miracle cures, it will take patience and the right attitude to make things better.

Start & Stop Technique

The primary principle of this technique is to stimulate the penis until near ejaculation, and then stop stimulating to allow the level of excitement to drop. This exercise can be performed alone, or with a partner, and should be repeated 3 to 5 times per session. After 2-6 weeks of using this technique you should notice an improvement in your sexual stamina and will eventually not even have to use it to outlast your partner.

Squeeze Technique

Right before you feel you are about to ejaculate, approximately three or four strokes away, stop stimulating and squeeze the base of your penis by wrapping your thumb and index finger around it. Apply firm pressure, focusing on the urethra, the tube running along the underside of the penis. This lessens the tension and holds back the ejaculatory response. Be sure to apply pressure a few strokes before ejaculating … if you wait too long, it may be too late! You should be able to apply this technique anywhere along the shaft of the penis, as long as it squeezes the urethra.

Regular Masturbation

A great method for boosting sexual stamina and releasing sexual tension is regular masturbation. By masturbating more often, you can train yourself to become more used to the stimulation. As you get more and more used to it, it should start taking you progressively longer to climax.

Wearing Condoms

Many couples have claimed that wearing condoms significantly reduces the stimulation of intercourse for both partners, but especially the male. If you are not already using condoms to protect against STD's and pregnancy, try wearing them to increase your stamina. If necessary, consider wearing a thicker condom, it should make a large difference in the amount of stimulation that you feel.

Sex Toys

Following the same line of logic as in “Regular Masturbation” above, you can use sex toys to help you become more “immune” to the pleasure. Sex simulators are recommended over regular vibrators, but both should work.

fantasylover_05 63M

2/2/2006 9:15 am

Exageration??? What exageration?? LOL LOL LOL

I will admit to utilizing the first technique listed.. teh start and stop method.. but not the others.. I have never had a complaint with my stamina..

Perhaps... to just disprove the exageration theory... I need to prove it to you in person????? LOL

aascrompn 43M
6444 posts
2/2/2006 10:36 am

I need to get laid before I worry about the stamina... I do use stop and start. I've also squeezed. Stop/start works best for me, as I can attend to the female on other areas while my excitement drops off a little. I then resume.


2/2/2006 12:02 pm

I remember being overly conscious of stamina issues when in my teens because it seemed to be the most complained about issue in Penthouse Froum and other such reader-write-in sex columns. So I made a resolve that I absolutely would not and could not ever be a premature ejaculator and set off on my way to attempting to make that a reality for myself.

What I began doing was timing how long it took me to reach orgasm when I masturbated. The first results were consistently around 5 minutes and then I began simply trying to push that time ceilin upwards. Gradually I got so I was regularly hitting the 20 minute mark without it being any big deal and at that point I felt I had enough control of the matter that I simply stopped the "training" and almost forgot about the issue entirely.

But occasionally I see this topic rear its head again like now.

And it makes me kind of want to have quick ones just for the variation of it.

If I have not emptied the cajones in awhle I sometimes feel the tendency to lose it early but somehow I've nearly killed off that feeling urgency. And I think it might actually nice to have that more often. When I am feeling that urgent i also know that I can recharge for another session quite rapidly but my tendency to mentally squelch the urgency has nearly become hardwired into the system.

I wonder if anyone has ever reverse trained themselves so that they are moved to orgasm quicker.

PS. I never use the idea of any period of clock time as being "the correct" one to be using but instead just play the whole thing "by ear" (so to speak) or intuitively. Such militaristic and regimented prescriptions and parameters tend to take the soul and spirit out of it for me.


expatbrit49 64M

2/2/2006 1:27 pm

Oh I know my body very well and I know exactly how my cock works........ see a naked woman, get a hard on

Thank You for Your Time and Attention

toothysmile 52M
16517 posts
2/2/2006 1:31 pm

Wanna test your theories?... ...

rm_Ptalk1155 35M
3450 posts
2/2/2006 1:37 pm

Good training helps. Little out of practice though. Got a stopwatch ?

im_curious_4u 51M

2/2/2006 5:22 pm

Which time are you supposed to worry about cuming too fast, the first, second, third...?

Fox4aKnight1 44F

2/2/2006 9:44 pm

Some guys do have that problem and like [KC_JJ] said it really is difficult if it has been a while. I know that being female that having a guy lose it early can be a pain. However unless they really have problems there is no need to worry as likely they will be back up again in no time. For instatnce one guy I had been seeing actually came just from my kissing him. um ops I won't say where exactly but I will say that I was not kissing in the usual places

nuff said .....yikes ...*runs for cover*


rm_biged169247 37M

2/2/2006 10:07 pm

I've never had that problem. I don't like to toot my own horn, but I've never had any complaints and in fact 1 nut doesn't matter, I keep going and going like the energizer bunny! It's all in how you work it! Holla!


pASSionwantd2 51M
1316 posts
2/2/2006 11:02 pm


rm_WubbaTheRed 61M
1 post
2/3/2006 3:02 pm

Being long lasting is not a assett if it's not by choice, Girls wonder if they are the cause and if they are "not sexy" but I have to tell them I just take an hour or two to get off with regular sex, Oral can be faster but still it takes a while of continious action 15-30 Min. And ladies guys aren't the only ones that when they get off several times fall asleep or just can't take anymore. I'm not bragging... more frustrated than anything.

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