Thoughts on marriage.  

DevilDogDan 62M
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7/26/2006 9:02 pm

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Thoughts on marriage.

Sounds like a strange topic for this site but there is some logic to it. My nephew is getting married on Saturday. The first of my nephews, nieces, or kids to do so. He and his soon-to-be wife are twenty. They've known each other since they were twelve and have been dating since they were fourteen. My nephew has only "dated" one other girl in his life and that was only two dates. I don't know if my soon-to-be niece has dated anyone else but I kind of doubt it.

Normally my advice to anyone under the age of forty who is thinking about getting married would be to wait until you've had at least one fight that's bad enough to break up over. If you never get back together, you've avoided lot's of problems and heartache down the road when you won't be able to just walk away from it. If you do get back together, you might have a chance. The more fights you survive, the better your chances. If you never fight, you don't know each other well enough to get married. If you're over forty and are too stupid to know what you're doing, you deserve whatever you get. My other belief is that if it took as long to get a marriage license as it does to get a divorce, the divorce rate would plummet. All this sounds pretty cynical but it's just the musings of someone whose spent a lot of years observing - and being less and less surprised by - human nature.

I started the last paragraph with "Normally" because there is an exception to my "rule." If you can be pissed at your partner, let him or her know, and then work through the issues in a civilized manner, you'll probably never break up and that's okay. That only comes with a strong commitment and a great love. After spending quite a bit of time with them over the past three years I'm convinced my nephew and his fiance have that. Gives me hope that one day I'll find it too. DDD

EroticallyRapt 56M
336 posts
7/27/2006 8:24 pm

Good advice....not just for marriage, but for all kinds of relationships

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