It's a numbers thing.  

DevilDogDan 62M
7 posts
7/23/2006 11:07 am

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It's a numbers thing.

Just some thoughts on my experience here thus far. First thought is that when you look like me, putting a picture on your profile isn't the best approach. Prior to seeing my picture two ladies were corresponding with me and had accepted invitations to join my network. I initiated contact with both. One responded based on my profile (sans picture at the time) and the other based initially on my blog. Both asked me to send a picture, which I did, and I've heard nothing from either of them since. Since posting my picture on my profile, one lady has responded that she wasn't interested because she was looking for someone younger (at least she was courteous enough to let me know), one accepted my network invitation but didn't respond to my e-mail, and my blog has been viewed only twice - both times by guys. It appears my assessment that the people on this site are more open and direct was seriously misguided. As for the fourth lady on my network; I found her profile interesting enough that I wanted to be able to see her updates whenever possible so, even though I knew there was no chance of our getting together based on distance and her Cupid settings, I e-mailed her pretty much the same thing I just told you and asked if I could join her network. Within 30 minutes she had added me. The mention of her Cupid settings brings me to the next negative I have about people here. Almost no one (women anyway - haven't checked on what the guys are doing) takes the five minutes necessary to complete the Cupid settings for themselves. This would solve the problem of your words saying one thing about what your looking for in age range or body type and your compatability score saying something different. That tells me someone is lazy or confused. Worse than that is someone whose compatibility score says they're open to every degree in every category (presumably to make others think they're accepting and embrace diversity) when their actions/choices say just the opposite. That tells me someone is more concerned with their image than they are with being a liar. For those who fit this description (female or male) keep in mind that if someone is never going to meet you, they don't give a damn that you claim to be or that you think you are an accepting person so get over yourself. Anyway, enough of the negatives for now.

What I've concluded from my experience so far is that this is a numbers thing; kind of like looking for a job. For someone like myself who doesn't participate in the "singles scene" or frequent bars and who doesn't have time to be involved in a lot of activities or groups where I might meet women, finding someone through "online dating sites" is probably my best option right now. Despite my negative assessment of a few things above, this is the best site I've found for possibly accomplishing that and I know because I've tried a lot of the other ones. I just need to keep sending e-mails, let the numbers eventually do their thing, and not get discouraged in the meantime. When they finally do their thing you'll all know but I suspect there will be quite a few more posts from me before that one. DDD

ZZ_Todd 60M

7/23/2006 11:47 am

You're not alone. Personally, any woman who would do that is probably kinda shallow; you're better off. And you're right... it seems to be mostly a numbers game. Once you can accept that and decide for yourself that it doesn't matter, then you'll find that it is a neat place to just come and vent or be entertained. I don't do the traditional searching crap for that reason... how can a guy compete with all the bullshit that ends up in women's in boxes. So, I just stay here, be myself, and you know what? I've met a much higher quality of people... people I truly can relate to as friends... both men and women. So... relax. There's a lot more like us that you'd imagine!

DevilDogDan replies on 7/23/2006 1:27 pm:
Thanks for the advice. Just spent some time browsing through blogs and found some pretty interesting things. I'll be here more often from now on.

amoldenough 71F
16436 posts
7/23/2006 12:38 pm

I agree with ZZ. The folks here in the blogs are for the most part nicer and more considerate than others. They tend to share more of themselves, probably because it's anonymous. Just keep on blogging. By the way, I can't check out profiles because for some reason, lately, they won't let us check out profiles. People that reject you just for the way you look aren't worth your time and energy anyway.

"Don't cry because it's over; smile because it happened."

DevilDogDan replies on 7/23/2006 1:30 pm:
Thanks for the positive comments. A few more like yours and ZZ's and I may have to change the mood on my post from cynical to something else. I couldn't see your profile either but I'll keep checking.

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