Nice guys vs. bad boys vs. Gentlemen  

DesperateWifeToy 41M
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2/26/2006 4:22 am

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Nice guys vs. bad boys vs. Gentlemen

Today a co-worker brought up a topic of decision that I have always been opinionated about and can't wait to bring to the spotlight when I become a popular actor who has a voice. Because I think it's an underlining issue in our culture that affects how we treat each other and how we view ourselves. I think what I am about to say holds a lot of wisdom and truth to it, so hear me out.

We always hear: “nice guys finish last”, “girls like bad boys” yada yada yada. I’ve seen it in action; the restaurant business provides a melting pot of different experiences and people. I’ve seen nice guys try in vain for a girl’s attention, I’ve seen the bad boys take advantage of girls and trade them like baseball cards. I’ve seen girls play their games, being vindictive and mean. At times it’s laughable, other times it really is sad. But the reality is I see seeds of bitterness planted and dreams shattered, as people’s heart get callous & disillusioned.

So you might ask, what sets the gentleman apart from the nice guy, aren’t they one in the same. No, of course not. A nice guy is just that: some guy, an average Joe. A nice guy holds no presence; he just lives life and feels unappreciated. A gentleman is set apart, he lights up a room and knows that his life impacts others. He is confident & bold in the direction his life is heading, secure in his craft. He speaks up towards injustice, he is open minded but firm in his own principles. A gentleman knows his worth but also seeks to encourage the same for those around him.

A nice guy searches for his identity; a bad boy has no idea what an identity is thus he tries to create a persona. A gentleman knows who he is and is not afraid to be himself.

A nice guy befriends a girl so that maybe one day she will fall in love with him; a bad boy befriends a girl to get into her pants. A gentleman befriends a girl to be just that, friends. No hidden agenda needed.

A nice guy buys a female flowers to impress her; a bad boy buys flowers to say he is sorry and ask for forgiveness. A gentleman buys a woman flowers just to see her smile.

A nice guy always listens to a girl’s problems to be a good friend; a bad boy doesn’t care and only gives attention if it benefits him. A gentleman is wise to know which issues he should discuss and which one’s are better left for someone else.

A nice guy wears his heart on his sleeve; a bad boy hides it from the world. A gentleman is confidant in who he is and shares it with the world. He can be nice & kind, but also firm & outspoken.

A nice guy is meek & shy; a bad boy wants to always be the center of attention. A gentleman knows when to be reserved or when to be the life of the party.

A nice guy wants to present himself as a catch; a bad boy wants to be a mysterious and wild adventure. A gentleman needs no gimmicks, he is just himself.

A nice guy seeks “the one” that he can spoil with love and attention, a bad boys seeks to add as many notches to his belt. A gentleman seeks to simply live life & enjoy whoever is up for the journey.

A nice guy speaks from the heart; a bad boy tells her whatever he thinks she wants to hear. A gentleman chooses his words carefully yet genuinely.

A nice guy wants to please everyone & get along; a bad boy doesn’t care what your opinion is and is defensive. A gentleman is self-aware that not everyone might like him, but he still conducts himself in a respectful way towards his enemies.

A nice guys heart is easily broken; a bad boy tries to play it off like he doesn’t care and it was actually he who broke up with you. A gentleman, though hurt, is mature to understand that things don’t always work out. He comes to reflect on the relationship as a learning experience and further understands what he wants in a woman.

A nice guy is looking for someone to complete him; a bad boy knows that he will one day find a girl to tame his wild ways. A gentleman is content in who he is but seeks a companion who will not only compliment him but also encourage him each day in life’s journey.

The funny thing about all this, it’s all choices we make in how we conduct ourselves. Whether you are a male or female reading this, you must reflect on a lot of what I said to ring true even if you don’t agree with me. I know who I am and I am not ashamed of it. If a girl doesn’t like me because of it, I don’t care. I don’t want to attract girls; I want to attract women because it’s what I deserve.

rm_PurryKitty2 49M/51F
9753 posts
2/26/2006 5:46 am

Well said!

Purry {=}


loadeddice05 45M

2/26/2006 7:17 am

Wife toy! You've nailed it! I am in total agreement! Now ! Where do I fall, somewhere inbetween gentleman and bad boy! I'll gladly skip being a nice guy, goes against my grain! Anyways! Well put! You kinda look like Antonio Banderas! Good one!

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