Thoughts for Success  

Desdinova81 36M
8 posts
4/25/2006 2:58 pm
Thoughts for Success

By request (thanks Goddess and since I didn't think of it before, here is my article from the AdultFriendFinder magazine.

Thoughts for Success

This article is basically some thoughts I have on ways to be "successful" on this site, successful meaning finding whatever it is that you came here looking for. Now, I'll be the first to admit that I haven't been here very long at all and I myself haven't been successful yet, but these are pretty basic and should apply to almost everybody.

1) BE REAL - It goes without saying that realism is somewhat lacking on this site. Guys, if you tell someone that you look like Mel Gibson, sucker them into a meeting, and turn out to be an overweight bald black man, chances are you're not going to get any. Same goes for the ladies. Be real and honest and your chances of success will be much better!

2) VISIBILITY - If you think you can just sign up for this site, kick back with a beer and wait for everything you want to fall into your lap, then you are seriously lying to yourself. Ever heard of the ripple effect? When you throw a rock into a pond, ripples form where the rock hit the water. MAKE SOME RIPPLES. Get into the chat rooms, try and start some conversations or join in the ones already going on. Fire up Instant Messenger and find someone to chat with. Store up some points to be a Featured Member. Do whatever you have to do to get your name and profile out there.

3) PATIENCE - They say "patience is a virtue", and here it's a law. It can take time to find people you are compatible with, get in touch with them, get them interested in you, and whatever else. Be patient and don't try to rush things too fast. Being overly agressive is going to totally shut most people down. Relax a little!

4) MEMBERSHIP - Now, some of you are going to say, how can you talk about membership being a key when you're not a member, Des? Well, it doesn't take a genius to realize that the advantages you get from being a member can make you much much MUCH more successful here. The drawbacks of standard membership can be worked around to a point, but in the end it's easier to become a member and not have to deal with it.

As I said, I think these are things that can help each of us be more successful in finding what we want here. Good luck and goodbye!


nouvel2 41M
6 posts
5/6/2006 12:26 am

Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us!Hoping to revisiting your blog soon. Kisses Tom

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