one of those days  

ThickSlumsBorer 62F
141 posts
5/17/2006 12:56 pm

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8/19/2006 8:42 pm

one of those days

Seems a woman that knows what she wants is an outcast on this site. Or is it the man is afraid of a confident woman ??? Just because a woman doesn't want to jump into bed with the guy 15 minutes after chatting with him, does that make her a bad person ??? In these times, I'm looking out for #1. Guess some just don't care anymore, sorry to hear that. I'm not judging...just a difference of opinion. I guess the days of getting to know someone are fading. I can hear all of you now...BUT IT'S A SEX SITE !! Yes, it is ... but it's up to me who I have sex with. It works both ways. Some don't care who they have sex with, and some do.

honeypot7473 44F

5/17/2006 1:22 pm

Some of us feel the same way you do about it. I wouldn't just jump into bed with anyone I don't know. Most of the people I have talked with on here are willing to put in at least some time getting to know each other before moving on to more intimate relations.They are on here, keep trying and you'll find them. Then again I'm here for women so you may have to look a little harder for the luck.

NHGuyToDoYou 62M
2 posts
5/17/2006 4:28 pm

As a guy I don't understand it myself. I try to be polite and very real. Write a nice email and say I am looking for a whole person to know from the inside out and not just as a sexual here today gone tomorrow object. I get no replies to email. Women's profiles say they are looking for a relationship with some depth and not just instant sex. Me too. So if that is what people want why don't they return emails and work towards their stated goal? Or are they just saying the politically correct thing? Its more then a little frustrating overall.

se7enwood 55M
37 posts
5/17/2006 5:48 pm

I think it's great that you are a confident, self-assured woman. And you're adorable, too. The platnum blonde hair and impish smile. I'd really like to get to know you. I have the same handle in yahoo, won't you chat with me sometime?

ThickSlumsBorer 62F

5/18/2006 7:53 pm

thank you man4fun !!

TheLickinator 61M
2 posts
5/20/2006 3:54 am

I think the younger guys, either physically or mentally, are more likely to pursue a woman solely for sex than us older, more mature men.
Speaking for myself... Physical attraction first, personality second and
then if it feels right... Sexual activity. If it doesn't feel right it can't happen for me.

ThickSlumsBorer 62F

5/22/2006 3:13 am

TheLickinator.......believe me I've met LOTS of what you call "mature men" and they are only looking for the sex too....the married ones, the attached ones...even the single ones committments...but they would love to go to bed with you...and if don't hear from them EVER again !!

funaddict65 54M

5/22/2006 7:13 am

They should understand that you are looking for a meaningful relationship, taking you out for a few dates to make sure that you are comfortable with them (or the other way around )isn't asking a lot. You take it at your place, they will come around.

rm_694funguy 32M
2 posts
5/23/2006 5:08 pm

I thought I should tell you it's not only guys that do that. some girls have too and even if everything went smoothly you can't ever hear a reply again it's weird the way things work here but i guess it's what I am comming across. maybe it's my profile..maybe it's the bluntless but atleast I was honest with what I should count for something.

ThickSlumsBorer 62F

5/23/2006 5:15 pm

694funguy....honesty is always welcomed !! 20 yrs old and on AdultFriendFinder ???'re got so much to learn..wish you the best in your journey !

adventurousteve 50M

6/6/2006 1:09 pm

DeLiciouSuprize... there are great men out here, still. A tough thing for me is that, as a standard member, I can not initiate contact with a woman. That is tough for a guy whose personality is part of his sexuality/sensuality.

While we're here, your picture just jumped out at me the first time I saw it... I love the teasing nature.

RaspsRuntsHaste 58M
4 posts
6/7/2006 7:51 am

A sexy, confident, and independent woman is very erotic. The beauty and brains is a tough combination to beat. Now, if a woman does not want to jump into someone's bed then that is her business. There are a lot of creeps (both men and women) on any dating or sex site. I say it is worth getting to know someone before jumping in bed. Personally on this site I find it hard for an older guy to get replies but in the case of DeLiciouSurpize it is always a pleasure to chat with her. In essence the women who know how to make love are worth the wait.

ThickSlumsBorer 62F

6/11/2006 4:36 pm

6/ should get one of those silver balls by your name and see what happenes *smile* Thank you for the compliment it is appreciated
6/12---Cybersword....thank you for the comments. Also goes for the waiting for the's always worth it. *smile*

Limo_Driver42 55M

6/16/2006 12:16 am

Hi DeLiciouS, I remember when you posted that you were moving to this area. I can show you around.


Limo_Driver42 55M

6/16/2006 12:22 am

There my photo was not uploaded.

Pinchhitter71 46M
25 posts
6/18/2006 1:23 am

Well jumping into the sack isn't usually the most fun. Most of the time the chatting and the flirting makes the time in the bedroom much more enjoyable. You'll find your's being as beautiful as you are. I haven't found mind, but then again I'm a guys. It isn't as easy for me to even get a response.

ThickSlumsBorer 62F

6/18/2006 6:15 pm

Pinchhitter.....I read your profile and I think I know why...lots of ladies shy away from that situation. Although I've found the "attached" man is a passionate, and giving man, but I need someone for JUSt me, I don't want him going home to someone else...kind of defeats my purpose. Good luck in your search !!

ThickSlumsBorer 62F

6/18/2006 6:16 pm

Limo_Driver...I've been in this area for a very long time Are you sure you don't have me confused with someone else ??*wink*

rm_JGtender 54M
1 post
6/20/2006 1:41 pm

Hi DeLiciouSuprize

Seems your in the same boat as everyone else. We all look and hope that we find someone we like and can get to know better. With this site you can do that and be open about things. Don't stop looking because you can never know if your going to see that person right next door. You may not find the person you are looking for but you might find a friend. If not you got to meet some new people.

I guess what I am trying to say is don't give up hope of finding what you are looking for. It's out there it just hasn't happened yet. Till then enjoy the ride and the sights along the way.


ThickSlumsBorer 62F

6/22/2006 11:03 am

JGtender...thank you !! I'm still looking !!

HoustonsEdge 58M

7/7/2006 8:42 am

Supize,You are one hell of a looking Lady!I just moved from Manchester,(but would come back to see you)Now live in western NH on the Vt border,on top of a mountain and love the nature.Care to join me sometime?

rm_assisking 57M

8/1/2006 11:07 am

This one is a bit of a hot potatoe. I am somewhat inclined to agree with your premise that men are afraid of confident women. Of course....not all men.Woman have really come a long way in the last 30 years and with the exception of panty hose, I have to say they are sexier then ever.Where I see some problems is when some woman actually post profiles to entice e-mails and really are not on this site looking to make contact or even meet anyone. A gorgeous woman like yourself knows for sure that she is going to get plenty of contact and may choose to lead a man on. Life is far to short. Lets all give each other a fair shake and keep woman like you on sites like this one. I for one wish I met your criteria, though bikes scare the hell out of me, I'd take a ride on the back of yours anytime

Pinchhitter71 46M
25 posts
8/11/2006 2:13 am


You are probably true that many women are shy away from married men and that is probably why i have been shut out here. Many women are just looking for passion and many married men, myself included, are very passionate. i'm sure guys with much less have gotten much more then I on this page but I'll keep up the fight. It sure is a shame you dont go for married men.

rm_ed7incher45 62M
3 posts
8/19/2006 5:05 pm

the written word is the pretense to beleiving a persons peronality.
the opposite may hold true as it seems from this blog
maybe the right guy has passed by already because of what they wrote and the persons personality was never felt because they never met
the cyber world is a series of articulate responses to write what the other person wants to hear
if you"r both interested just meet and find out
don"t let the written word woo you or discourage you

ThickSlumsBorer 62F

8/19/2006 8:42 pm

update 8/19/06....doing well here...have met a couple of guys from this site in the past couple of months but nothing to report. I've found viewing the chat room as really get to see how some of these guys work. As for the email..yes I receive it and unlike some I respond to most, unless of course they are crude. I've put in my profile what I am looking for but yet I get email from "unattainable" males, I'm not doing that, sorry. I like being the "only" one. Anyway, I wanted to write alittle something, and I want to thank the ones that responded to my blog. Wishing you all the best in your search !! *kiss*

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