DCE's Mailbag  

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4/18/2005 2:49 pm

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DCE's Mailbag

I feel like a regular Dear Abby.

I figured that I should answer the questions that I keep getting over and over again. Why? Just because. LOL

Do you like white men?

Sure. Not any more or any less than I like any other color of man. The only white men I won't ever consider are samplers, ones that are petrified of being seen in public with me (I don't play the role of dirty little secret) or the baggy pants, big jersey, sideways baseball cap-wearing Kevin Federline-Spears types. Nuh uh. Not my speed. (Actually, I'm not into any guy that dresses that way. We'd look really silly together. LOL )

Do you want to get down with a thug?

In a word, no. I'm way too old to be indulging in bad boy fantasies. Not remotely interested.

What's wrong with short/uncircumsized/older/younger men?

Not a blessed thing. Everyone has their preferences, that's all. I figure that putting my preferences right on my profile cuts to the chase.

I don't think anyone should compromise when it comes to the person (or persons - LOL ) they might want to spend intimate time with one day. It's too important a decision.

What's the point of starting something that you're not sure you can finish?

Are you interested in couples?

Nope. To each their own, but that isn't an interest of mine. Guys that try to engineer these things behind their unsuspecting partner's back are a real turn-off. Bad move.

Are you interested in women?

I consider myself to be straight, but I think we all have the potential be bendable. (I can just hear the straight men freaking out reading that last sentence. LOL )

I've never been with a woman. I'm not ruling it out, but it's not an experience I'd actively seek out. It's the sort of thing that I think should evolve naturally.

Me looking for a woman just to satisfy my curiosity would make me as bad as the guys that want to "sample" a taste of chocolate.

Why won't you meet me just for lunch/dinner/drinks?

I won't ever meet anyone until I've communicated with him first and feel comfortable enough to do so. I can't be sweet-talked, nagged or bullied into changing my mind on that score.

As some men and women that I've talked to will attest to, sometimes meeting someone for something innocent implies an interest that you just don't have.

In order to avoid any misunderstandings, I will never meet someone unless I feel there is some potential there.

If I'm wrong, no harm, no foul.

Are you for real? Have you met anyone from this website?

So far I have met one person and I was pleasantly surprised. I hope he was, too. You know that stage where you think someone's cool and you hope to see them again? That's where I'm at. (In case you're wondering, we were upright, dressed and didn't meet anyplace where mini-shampoos were involved. LOL )

Anyway, I think I've covered everything.

I guess if there are any more questions, email me or post them here. : )

mnfun952 103M

4/19/2005 12:46 pm

Clear communication (of which you are obviously quite capable) is key.

Be Nice, Play Safe, Have Fun.


martin-1 42M

4/21/2005 1:28 pm

I totally agree with almost everything you're saying, although the one thing that made me think is as follows. You made reference that you don't like "Samplers". I've had a brief encounter with a black lady during a bachelor party (she was one of the strippers) and I must say, I greatly enjoyed the little taste that I got.

as I mentioned in my "Brown Sugar" post on my blog, I just got the eat her pussy while playing with her ass for a (too short) while. Maybe it was the woman in question, maybe it was the fact she was an ebony hottie, but it seems that black woman are better at certain sexaul things, then white women. I get that impression from my one-time experience and what I see on the occasional porn.

So that brings me to my question/point. I would be a "Sampler" in that I'd like more experience with a black woman, but I would not be a sampler in that I don't want a sample; I want a new experience and confirm or disprove my current idea of what it is to be with a black woman.

If as a woman you have sexual gift.. it being genetic/racial or not; should you not be able to embrace that and enjoy your partner with that gift?

1586 posts
4/21/2005 4:26 pm

martin-1 -

While I think that it's cool that you enjoyed your experience with "Brown Sugar", you've illustrated what it is that I find so disturbing about samplers.

If someone wants to hang out with me, I'd rather it be because they actually think I have something to offer other than whatever pre-conceived sexual notions they might have related to the color of my skin. It's like someone wanting to make multi-cultural notches on his headboard.

As for black women being better at certain things, I'm not even going to try to think about what these "things" are. Particularly given that your exposure has been to a stripper and some porn. I don't mind watching the occasional porn, but I don't believe what I'm seeing to be absolutely true. Everyone is paid to behave the way they do on camera. It's an exaggerated experience of sex where everything goes right, hair and makeup looks perfect and no one gets tired. LOL

The thought of being with someone to confirm or deny a theory is just foreign to me. I just never found people's skin colors all that fascinating, probably because I've had mine pointed out to me so much. (Like I don't already know! LO

I can say with all honesty that I have never thought, "Well, that's a good-looking white man!" My brain doesn't function that way.

I don't think any of my sexual gifts are genetic or racial. I'm interested in what I do and engaged in what my partner and I do together. I don't think that has anything to do with my chocolately coating.

Anyway, I hope you find what you're seeking.

((Jumps off soapbox and backs away slowly...))

rm_chucka95 60M

4/21/2005 4:38 pm

Hey DCE--

Come on "enjoy" us all with your "genetic/racial" gifts! Where do you even begin with that one?

I'm Greek. Here's hoping some guy doesn't ask me to "enjoy" him with my "genetic" gifts!

YIKES!!!! I guess it takes all kinds.

1586 posts
4/22/2005 2:15 pm

Well, Chucka...

Now that you mentioned the Greek thing, people are going to have expections.

You know that, right? LOL

rm_chucka95 60M

4/23/2005 4:26 am

LOL...well...people can have expectations...BUT...NO SAMPLERS....LOL

Thanks for visting BTW

sportyfun56 107M

4/27/2005 1:26 pm

DC hun.
you do a fine job of laying it all out there. Keep you standards and don't apologise for them.

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