Woman, stay back-i'll handle this.  

CuteAZguy27 40M
2154 posts
9/29/2005 8:17 am

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Woman, stay back-i'll handle this.

So im watching the Cosby show and Sondra and Elvin are arguing over a statement that Elvin said...

Is there just a thing called a "Mans job" and "Womans job" ? or do you think all it is just a bunch of overstuffed pride and men and woman should be able to do things as equal ? Elvin was arguing with Sandra, because he had her stay in the car while he pumped the gas, saying THIS is a mans job, woman should not get dirty and smell like gasoline she says "So my hands should smell like sandwiches from lunch ?"

Now i have diffrent respect and issues concerning this..... a man should pay for the meals on dates whether he proposed the evening or not ... Yet this is done out of respect and honour for the lady-Whats your opinion on the above statements ?


SweetDarlinAngel 41F
2996 posts
9/29/2005 9:37 am

I think that your line of thinking comes more from being raised in a chivilrous manner than it being thought of as "man or woman" 's work. But when it comes to the exact statement described in the show you watched... I have to fall back on my backward liberism again.

I think that a woman should have the RIGHT to do whatever so she wishes to do. But she should have the CHOICE not to. That is where I am a little twisted. I should be able to pump my own gas if I want to. The question remains, do I want to? Absolutely not! It smells, it's gross, and there are fumes that make my eyes water. I live in AZ where it is hot. I don't like to sweat. So, I'd much rather stay inside with the A/C while the man fights with the pump, deals with the line and the other grumpy, sweaty people outside if needed, and indures the fumes and smell of gasoline. I on the other hand will listen to the radio and do a make up / hair check while he is gone. Maybe go inside and get us a drink to cool ourselves from the heat.

I see a place for "man" and "woman" specific work but I don't want to ever be told that I can't do something. Because I will do whatever I damn well please, thank you very much.



playfulwithyou33 57F
961 posts
9/29/2005 9:58 am

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tillerbabe 57F

9/29/2005 11:41 am

Hmmmmm.....when I'm not at work - chivalry "rocks", when i'm not at work and there isn't a man around - I can "fix" and "handle" most anything...

And when I'm @ work - I'm a fireifghter - do the same "stuff" as the men, get paid the same......

Rowan_Taltos 49F

9/29/2005 12:52 pm

There is such a thing as a woman's job, it's a very specific job. She can choose to do so or not, and that is to give birth.

Men and Women, should both be raised to treat each in a kind and thoughtful manner.

looking4fun_604 52F
67 posts
9/29/2005 12:55 pm

I agree with SDA. If I "choose" to do it, then it is my choice. Pumping gas isn't an issue for me, but taking out the trash and carrying groceries into the house aren't jobs/chores I will do.

I WILL pay for dinner and other activities with a guy whether it was my invitation or not.

So I guess I'm on the fence with this. It's the person's own preference as to whether or not he/she is willing to do "jobs" that may seem gender specific to others.

DirtyLilSecret61 57F

9/29/2005 6:49 pm

Growing up in the 70's we women's libbers thought we could do anything a man can do. I learned to do minor welding, minor car repairs, sheetrock, roof ... then go inside, shower/change and start fixing a dinner even Martha Stewart would be envious over.

I like sharing the jobs/chores. It shows partnership and respect. However, if I am not capable of doing something (say it involves brut strength) then I'm not ashamed to say 'that's beyond my capabilities.'


rm_Elysia2005 44F
412 posts
9/29/2005 7:44 pm

Hmmm... okay... if I ask a man to dinner or on some other kind of date, I go with the expectation that I will be paying. If he tries to pay, I tell him I was the one who invited him and fully expected to pay. But if he insists... well... I'm not in a financial position to let that slide by. Then again, in my current state of mind/ activity level, I know he will get "repaid" one way or another anyway!

okyme 54F

9/29/2005 10:53 pm

I guess I`m a old fasion girl, while I can do anything I put my mind to I also believe there are things a man should do and things a woman should do. But I also feel both should share most of the things togeather, because no matter how hard we woman try its the strength of a mans arms wrapped around us that make us feel safe and secure. {=}

rm_1hotwahine 64F
21091 posts
9/29/2005 11:51 pm

My ex and I used to go around and around about this. I live in an area that is 'off the beaten path' has a windy jungly mountainy road and would sometimes come home late at night, alone and this would upset him. Independent me would be very indignant at the thought that a woman 'shouldn't' do that. His response to me was, if there is rock slide or tree down across the road (common occurance), would I be able to move it? I'd think about it and my response would be basically, oh. never mind. So for me, physical strength is an issue. Guys are stronger physically. And if a bona fide job description legitimately demands physical strength, then exceptions should not be made.

Man, that was some seriously disjointed rambling. Sorry. I should delete. Nahhh...

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

papyrina 52F
21133 posts
9/30/2005 6:43 am

an old fashioned girl with an modern look,lol

At home,i do all the typical womens jobs and most others ,hubby helps if we have company over,if i ask him to help me he will just never in public

Out and about in greece men pay,

i like doors opened for me etc but as the others have said its about choice in all aspects

I'm a

i'm here to stay

_CoffeeNoCream_ 54F

9/30/2005 7:52 am

buy me coffee ?

_CoffeeNoCream_ 54F

9/30/2005 8:05 am

btw....you really watching the cosby show ???

yagottalikit 51F
583 posts
9/30/2005 8:53 am

I think you know MY answer.....but, for the sake of others, I'll spell it out! I've had a so-called man's career for almost 20 years, now. Because I am mechanically inclined and have been exposed to many different trades, this carries over to homelife, as well. I fix, I build, I demolish, I replace, I dismantle, I sometimes even assemble. (Rarely, do I re-assemble). Do I sound like a man? Well, I assure you.......

Oh and I'm allergic to "women's work"!
As far as buying dinner, it's nice when a man buys. I don't feel he SHOULD, in every situation....it's just nice that he chooses to. I have offered to pay with those I've been out with several times. That is usually accepted gracefully, as well.

Yagotta get it soft and wet so we can kick/stick it

goddessofbitches 42M/34F

9/30/2005 10:49 am

I honestly think that there are some cases where it is one sex or the other and then a time when it is a both job.

Taking out the trash --- always will be a man's job
Laundry--- Always a woman's job
Taking care of kids, getting up with them in the mornings, dishes, cooking, and cleaning ---- BOTH

And the look on their faces as they argue over who is doing what and who's responsibility it is ---priceless...lol

In all seriousness...my husband tries to stay away from making comments such as....Your the woman...you do it...because he knows if he says that...I will end up never doing it...which means he has to.

So insted he says....oh it's YOUR responsibility because I did..this..this and this. Even know deep down we both know he did those things over a 2 week period....lol


Always The Bitch

MsLoveRose 35F  
2432 posts
9/30/2005 10:59 pm

well i think i have an old school heart...i like to see a gentleman...one that will open doors...remove his hat...stand when i leave the room...just to name few...sure he can pay if he likes...would i cut the grass...change a tire...take the trash out...sure!!! would he do the dishes...cook...clean up...sure...not a problem...well i guess im half way old fashioned...but i am self sufficent!!!

too bad i just seen that same episode i think it was really funny...must have been an issue with the writers...thats where most of that script came from anyway!!

live more, laugh often, love much

duststormdiva 52F
6854 posts
10/3/2005 5:02 am

I am still picking up the damned check the next time we go out to dinner!


slidein2meplz 63F
1994 posts
10/4/2005 9:48 pm

Yes there are some things that men should do
Yes there are things that women should do....and YES..there are things that either can do.

I think men should bait the hook when we go fishin...and I think I should get him another beer...or make him a sandwich.

I think if a creepy bug is crawlin anywhere near..he should do whatever needs to be done with it...and a woman should so a "womanly" thing or another for him if the situation calls for it... (sorry can't really think of a good example)..unless it would be to help him pick out a gift or a card for say...his mom or sister or some other close female to him.

Just cuz...some men (all though I doubt you have this dilema) find it difficult to choose an appropriate gift or card....

Just cuz...some women aren't able to change a flat tire or have enough strength to open a jar...

Basically, there are some things each gender does and should do that at times it is more applicable. Knowing full well, that most often than not, each gender is perfectly capable of performing that task or ??? {=}

~~~ Just me, poppin to say HI! ~~

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