What's with labels...?  

Curious_hubbie 49M
12 posts
3/27/2006 9:48 pm

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6/12/2006 6:03 am

What's with labels...?

I don't get it.

Why is it that people consider THEMSELVES the "norm" and everything else odd...?

When I opened-up and created a new profile revealing my "Bi-Curiosity"... you'd think it'd be EASIER to be open & upfront about it...?

Well... it's like being a man without a country. When I log into the AdultFriendFinder chat in New England and inquire about other bi-curious guys... the rude & snide comments appear... as if MY preference is sub-standard to theirs. Some people consider swinging & swapping unacceptable... but why don't THEY get lambasted in chats...?

People try to tell me "I don't know what I want" or that "I'm confused". Ummm... not really, I think I am VERY descript about what I want and don't want. There's no confusion on my behalf. I love women. Period. I am VERY happy with my wife. But the fact that I'm curious to touch another cock other than mine...? People say... "Dude, you're kidding yourself... you're GAY!".

I would figure of ALL places, an "Adult Hook-up" site would host more tollerant people... but apparently not.


I decided to follow the lead of someone that suggested "OutPersonals" to me. I joined. I just came from the chat there. Can you believe that GAY MEN take issue with bi-curiosity too...? I was stunned to see similar comments from THEM! "Admit it, you're gay"... "Come back when you know what you want"... or even "Bend-over, I'll help you make up your mind!"

I don't know what to say... (?)

Apparently, my "curiosity" makes straight people and gay people... and occasionally bisexual people uncomfortable.

Why is it so hard to understand that I am NOT attracted to men...? Why would I lie...? I'm already ON here admitting it all to see... why would I not admit it ALL if I really DID find men attractive...? It makes no sense.

It's just astonishing how people react to things they don't understand. I'm not 100% sure I fault them though... three years ago (before I had any of these thoughts), if someone said they wanted to touch or suck a cock... I'd have said they were gay too. But now, I'm "in-the-know"... I get it.

Just felt the need to vent. Peace...!

rocko1019 67M

3/28/2006 5:00 am

I don't understand why your having these problems. I'm like you, kind of curious, never considered myself gay, but wouldn't mind trying it. Don't ask me why, I'm not sure, but I too have for about a year, been fascinated with looking at men's cocks on these sites.

Anyway, I joined outpersonals and have noticed a lot of other married men, thinking about the same thing, thats why, I don't understand why your getting that reaction. All I can say, who gives a fuck. The hell with them.

By the way, you don't really have to pay on these sites. There are plenty of other ways to connect, such as these blogs. Good luck

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