Would I let my partner have sex with others? Yup!  

CuntSlurpa 47M
105 posts
4/8/2005 8:39 am

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Would I let my partner have sex with others? Yup!

It seems that men often have a problem being open to their partner's sexual desires and activities. I've read more than one blog entry or advice question where guys are talking about how much they want to bring another female into the mix but would be very uncomfortable with another man. Why? Is it because you're afraid that your partner will be more satisfied by the other person and decide to go start a new life with them? How do you think your current partner feels about what you're asking them to do?

Perhaps I'm in a minority, because while I would certainly prefer to meet my sexual needs with just one person (and be able to meet theirs), I am at least open to the idea of allowing my partner the freedom to do what she wants. In fact, the thought of watching a lady with whom I have been intimate as she is pleasured by someone else is a fantasy of mine, although I have no doubt that my wife would probably consider such thoughts as highly offensive and deviant - even though she admitted to me that she has been tempted on occasion.

Some people may think this attitude is because I don't really love or respect my wife. On the contrary, I do both love and respect her - enough to know that she is a grown woman capable of making her own decisions. If she really loves me (and I believe she does) then I have nothing to fear. A relationship with a life-partner should include so much more than the physical. I cannot hope to meet all her needs in every area of her life, however much I may want to. Similarly she will probably never meet all of mine. That doesn't matter. Some of my desires I will suppress because they would hurt her. Others are just too strong, and while I can suppress them for a while, I may not be able to do so permanently. I strongly believe that neither can she... or if she does she will be unhappy for the rest of her life.

angelwithahalo 60F

4/8/2005 9:22 am

I hear what you are saying I often wonderwhy men worry bout bringing another male into a 3some situation>I mean are guys the obessed with size, or if the other is a btter lover? Not everyone is comfortable with the idea but as long as the couple are secure in themselves there is a good chance it would work.Honesty is the key word when people decide to try the"swing"lifestyle

vengeur 42M  
837 posts
4/8/2005 9:53 am

I often like to check who views my profile on this site. There have have been many times when I have seen couples view my profile, despite their profile saying somewhere within it, "No single men".

This is why I believe at least some couples who say stuff like that on their profiles only have it there because that's how just how hubby wants it to be. I have even chatted online with wives in the past who would "disappear" all of a sudden. My best guess for why that happens is because the wife either got busted by her husband or was afraid of getting busted.

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