Does it matter what you say?  

CreoleKittie 47F
48 posts
7/23/2005 7:20 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Does it matter what you say? goes my first post...and guys, please don't take this as a derogatory comment, but ya'll really need to learn to talk to the ladies.
I get an email in response to my ad...goes something like "you are truly beautiful, i would love to get to know you"...okay, that was nice (but i'm not seeing new people right now)...and i sent a quick reply immediately telling him this and thanking him for his email.
I get an email in response to my ad that goes something like "swm in local area looking to meet you and possibly have fun"...same thing, instant response (either he's not what i'm looking for..too young, or too old...etc.)

Then i get this email..."oh baby, i'd love to suck on those big nipples and fuck you really hard and cum in your face" (you get the picture??) I immediately deleted this email with no response....i get another (by the way, this man was a hunk with a beautiful cock!!) email from him asking why i didn't respond to him...i immediately wrote back and told him although this is a sex site and most of us are looking for just that...the ladies don't like to receive these emails...they are from horndogs and they are NOT attractive at ALL....

Speak to us with a little respect, think with your brains when you are writing to us...NOT your cocks....
A little respect will go a long way, even if you get a'll at least get it!

pASSionwantd2 51M
1316 posts
7/23/2005 8:03 pm

Welcome to BLGVILL' CreoleKittie

GEtravler 49M

7/23/2005 8:19 pm

I always treat ladies with respect period no exceptions.
The number one rule I was taught was never disrespect a lady and under no circumstances strike a woman. I can not do it even if I really wanted to. My wife 4 yeas ago decided to really push my buttons and see how upset she could get me (she admitted this much to me) as I balled up my fist, I saw the look in her eyes and put my fist completely though the hallway wall into the bedroom. My fist went though 2 sheets of dry-wall and took out a cross brace stud. What ticked me off the worst is that I had to repair the damage.

This is what I posted to another blog.

#1 if the photo looks too professional then it is a fake. (move on to the next match)
#2 look for friends and testimonials (if they don't have any be careful.)
#3 Read the entire profile carefully and maybe 3 times ( doing this avoids problems)
#4 when Emailing mention something about their profile ( it shows you have read it and it wasn't a waist of their time.)

#5 MOST IMPORTANT READ BLOGS! (it will give you a better picture of the person)

rm_otter1947 60M
4 posts
7/23/2005 8:22 pm

I totally agree.Even on a so-called sex site,you should still be a gentleman,and treat women like ladies.I have always "gotten"that.The trouble is most women don't seem to appreciate that.I have been on for 2 months and have sent out over 100 emails in which I have expressed myself openly,honestly,and respectfully,and have gotten TWO women to actually communicate with and meet me.(both are VERY glad they did,by the way)What am I doing wrong?All you women say you want to meet someone who is open,honest,loyal,friendly,etc. but then don't even write back once!Oh,sometimes I get those impersonal quick responses,like,"I'm sorry but we're definitely not a good fit",or "I don't think the chemistry is there".How can you know that from one introductory email?Maybe it's just that the odds are overwhelmingly favorable to the women.I think I once figured that in California alone the odds are 13:1.Am I bitter?Maybe,but you know what?It hasn't changed my outlook or approach to writing these emails.I'm still going to be myself and that's open,honest,and respectful.I don't care if it takes 600 letters,SOMEONE will eventually appreciate what I have to offer.

NickRules999 40M
9464 posts
7/23/2005 8:22 pm

Welcome to Blogville, my friend.

I read your post, and I do agree that guys haven't got a clue when it comes to women. That's coz I'm a guy and I haven't got a clue when it comes to women. LOL But those guys that you wrote about give guys like me a bad name. I have never written an email like that, and won't ever.

The emails I send are more like asking to correspond, rather than hook-up. I do send compliments and such, not in a disrespectful manner. Many times, I don't get a response, but I leave it at that. For the most part, I'm in the chat room. I have met many wonderful people from there, they have become great friends. I'm one of the few who says, "We can be friends," if I'm not that person's type. It just may be the right attitude, coz I'm loved.

I wish you luck with your search. Again, welcome.

Come into my realm! You aren't afraid...are you?

LadyFantasy68 50F
126 posts
7/23/2005 8:34 pm

I agree and have even said it in my profile that i will not respond to such emails. I mean telling somebody stuff like that when you have met and things have progressed to the point of getting pretty hot and heavy is one thing. Sending it when you do not know the person is just crass and doesn't do anything for me either. Welcome to life on AdultFriendFinder.

tamethytension 55M
2320 posts
7/23/2005 8:45 pm


might I humbly suggest you send these guys a copy of my blog post

"Men of AdultFriendFinder ... dial 911".



CreoleKittie 47F

7/23/2005 8:53 pm

~smiles and waves~
Thank you both...this is gonna be fuuuuun!! ~lol~

TDandH1960 57M

7/23/2005 9:49 pm

CreoleKittie, I'm sure that you'll get lots of mail, there are all types on this site, there are a lot of rude men and women, but there are a lot of very great people on this site, you just have to sift through them,take care.


CreoleKittie 47F

7/24/2005 8:14 am

Thanks to all of you for responding....
in particular, rti30 has raised another conversation topic...~loL~
The face pics...okay...we are on a sex site looking for cock, right?
Well, why do we demand a face pic?? ~lol~
you are correct about a pretty face, such as a handsome face on our end. My experience is this...
You meet someone and they want to cam or want play and then you meet...well, after showin' someone your pussy, you can't very well say...hey, i wanna do it, can you?
So, what do you do if the "chemistry" is not there??
What do you do? I have no answer to this question because i've been in this situation...and i felt i had to go through with it, although there was no chemistry. I was miserable and the lay was probably bad for the man as well. No justice to him or to i.
Okay, where the hell am i goin' with this??
In my experience, if you send me a pic of your will probably get no response...they all look alike, some or just a big bigger....
I would much rather respond to a face and/or torso pic...maybe if you pull the camera kinda far away from your face? That would be an option.
I met an awesome guy like that...hell, i could hardly see his face...but he had the most beautiful smile i've ever seen!
Okay...i'm through bloggin'...don't know what i just tried to say, but something was said...~lol~

CreoleKittie 47F

7/24/2005 8:15 am

That was "hey, i DON'T wanna do it"...~LoL~

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