The mask  

ChrisDL 48M
362 posts
8/11/2006 3:29 pm

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9/23/2006 1:24 pm

The mask

I had a meeting last night - not with someone from AdultFriendFinder but with the secretary of a committee on one of the charities I do things for to discuss next years plan.

We met straight after work, and we discussing whether we should go and eat and work at the same time, when she felt faint (I have this effect on women...... not)

I was obviously quite concerned and once she was comfortable, I was asking if she knew why and it came out that it had happened a few times just lately. So like any of you would, I suggested that she ought to go and see a doctor and get it checked out.

As if I'd flicked a switch, she was in tears (my normal effect on women...) and so I tried to find out what the problem was - or to see what I had said wrong...

But I hadn't - she was terrified of going to the doctors because she was feeling depressed and the last time she went to the doctor she had two years of anti-depressants and psychotherapy and she was scared that she was slowly sliding backwards.

I'm no analyst, but I held her hands (which is a big effort for me - possibly another post one day) and I talked and she talked and hopefully by the end of it, she felt a bit better.

This isn't a "Didn't I do well" story - it's all about masks, because if you met this girl you would never know the fear that she is going through because her mask - the face she shows to the outside world doesn't give much away.

I only know because she felt faint, and for a few moments her mask slipped and I saw what was underneath. Like it or not, we all have one or more than one.

Mine's pretty good - but I'm hoping it doesn't slip

starlight_runner 40F

8/12/2006 12:27 pm

isnt being here on this site just another way of wearing a mask.we all do it 2 some degree which is why its good to try n see the reasons behind actions even if we dont agree with them.

depression is more widespread then u would know.why else do so many get drunk n take pills of all kinds.

sticks chris's mask back on with u hooo n kisses him as she leaves


rm_EE407 42F
3903 posts
8/13/2006 5:41 am

Hun... you lost your mask a long time ago... but that's okay...

Hugs E.

RubyRedPetal 45F

8/14/2006 6:28 am

Masks are really useful things, but if we over use them we can become isolated and detached from others and ultimately ourselves.

I'm glad hers slipped and i'm glad u were there to watch it fall. X

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QueenOfWands__ 47F

9/23/2006 4:10 am

I haven't seen you in an age, I'm catching up now after a chunk of time away travelling. We've not chatted a great deal over the years but I always have time for you, which explains why I'm going to break a rule and say something I've long wanted to.

This post could be about're clearly very depressed and have been for years. Forgive my bluntness but you have to see someone need a kickstart back to happiness, Chris. Were you not such a thoroughly decent person, I wouldn't care but you are and you deserve to wake every day with a smile. Please..see someone, maybe a GP, and turn your life back on track. At the very least, you will find out what your options are and there's no stigma to it.

Queenie xx

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