Feeling bad about feeling bad  

ChrisDL 48M
362 posts
2/12/2006 10:44 am

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Feeling bad about feeling bad

I'm the first one to admit this blog is all me, me me which is wrong. But sometimes things happen where I have no one else to tell.

I do a lot work for a group of charities - all financial (goes with the territory when you are an accountant)

One of these charities made a major funding bid, which I had to do a lot of work at very short notice - a lot of burning the midnight oil etc. for about five nights in a row

We have got the money, and no one bothered to tell me for a week afterwards and I was a little upset - I felt that I had done the work which secured this money.

Now I feel bad for feeling upset about it in the first place and I don't what to tell people involved in it so the only people that will ever know is anyone who reads this.

Why can't anything be easy

rm_PurryKitty2 49M/51F
9753 posts
2/12/2006 11:18 am

Co workers suck

Purry {=}


angelwoarose 42F

2/12/2006 11:23 am

If things came easy then we would never apprechiate them.


CuteandSexyBBW4u 57F

2/12/2006 11:31 am

You have every right to feel upset. Long gone are the days where this kind of voluntary contribution was acknowledged. Instead, everyone else is to busy thinking about "them, them, them."

Here's what I would suggest: find an outlet for your volunteer activities that includes recognition. Recognition can take on many forms. For example, become a primary member on a committee that is involved in all aspects of the committee's projects, lead a committee yourself, or ensure that the work you do is presented by you in a format where feedback can be given.

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When things don't seem to go the way we had hoped or planned, we have the option to find ways for obtaining the outcome we seek. (As an accountant, I'm sure that appreciation for what you do is slim to none.) Figure out what you need to be fulfilled, then fill your life with those things that give you results that match your needs.

And...thank you for whatever you did. Someone, somewhere will benefit from your hard work!


GoddessOfTheDawn 106F
11240 posts
2/12/2006 11:32 am


Don't feel bad for feeling bad. You put in the work, ofcourse you feel disappointed that they didn't tell you. I think I would have felt like that too....

moonlightphoenix 46F
6508 posts
2/12/2006 11:37 am

You deserve credit and thanks. As someone who's worked for non profits most of my career, I understand the work put into things and how lack of recognition can come back to bite ya in the ass when you least want it to. They should have at least called to thank you. At the very least.

freetime648 53F

2/12/2006 11:39 am

Chris, I understand exactly how you feel...but take pride in knowing that YOU are who made this work...YOU are the one who allowed any of this to happen and YOU are the one who will reap the rewards from it.....eventually...and if it helps..I am glad you did it.....be happy and well......

xx FREETIME648 xx

HotTXpussy4U 49F

2/12/2006 11:50 am

As a fellow accountant - I understand. I have brought home work for my "weekend". It will go unnoticed by all. Well, maybe - I do tend to speak my mind too much. LOL.

Anything easy is not worth having - - or something like that, so they say.

All will be well....

helga_hansen 50F  
1987 posts
2/12/2006 12:54 pm

Chris... I can totally feel for you. Why is it that the Finance bods are always the last to know??? I worked for a major charity for 5 years, and the Finance Office was always the ones to provide all the necessary information, but we never got any praise or thanks for our efforts. One of the major reasons why I finally quit. At least YOU know you did a good job!


Love, hugs and kisses from ♥♥HH♥♥

silkysmoothlegs3 106F

2/23/2006 12:32 pm

I agree with Goddess.. dont feel bad hunny

Hugs you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

ChrisDL 48M

2/23/2006 3:09 pm

Thank you all for your very kind comments - I do feel better about the whole thing, even though I still thing it was wrong to feel bad about it. What's worse is that lots of people also aren't getting recognition either and thats not right

Thank you all again for saying such nice things

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