What do you think?  

Choozmi 51M
746 posts
9/2/2006 10:58 pm

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10/8/2006 1:14 am

What do you think?

I have a journal (basically a blog) on another site called OKcupid. I posted the following entry there today and got some very interesting reactions. After I get some of yours I will share what folks on the other site said (so please comment!)
Welcome to my journal. Please play nice.

I've noticed that people on OKcupid seem to think it's okay to post rude comments on other people's journals. I've encountered a few comments on my journal that were rude or even insulting.

I can't understand why anyone would feel it appropriate to contact a random stranger and insult them.

I admit sometimes it's fun to look at the profiles of people posting such nasty comments in order to figure out what inspired them to do so. The reason that pops into my mind most often is their age (too young to know better).

Honestly, I'm always happy to receive comments on my journal. They are what makes it worth keeping a journal in the first place. But if you can't play nice, please go away. (I usually just delete rude comments.)

I just wanted to add this: This is not an open forum. This is my journal. I expect to be treated with respect. It amazes me that on a site intended to give people a means of making friends some choose to insult and criticize others instead. Indeed, one such rude person just commented to me in an e-mail "If you can't take the heat, get out of the kitchen!"

Since when is a friendship/dating website a "kitchen" in which people are turning "heat" on each other? I'm just here to make friends and have fun. I expect those who are disturbed by things I post to simply look elsewhere unless they feel I am attacking them or their group, and I don't believe I have attacked any identifiable person or group anywhere in my journal.

ShyWhisper2006 54F
15175 posts
9/2/2006 11:36 pm

I think this is a well written post and makes alot of sense...I see nothing wrong with it at all. It is as it should be..no matter what site it is located on.

maverick1255 52M
3953 posts
9/3/2006 3:37 am

Hmmmmm, so it is not only here that this phenomenon happens.

I hate to say this, but I think it my be society and the times. Unresolved misplaced anger. And poor social skills!

mickdevil 52M/53F
3496 posts
9/3/2006 4:06 am

    Quoting maverick1255:
    Hmmmmm, so it is not only here that this phenomenon happens.

    I hate to say this, but I think it my be society and the times. Unresolved misplaced anger. And poor social skills!
I so agree with that comment

I really wonder if people were taught if you dont have anything nice to say dont dont say anything

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Hippink 36F  
4498 posts
9/3/2006 6:03 am

AGREED! But you know what I also hate? When someone asks a question in their post, and I answer it. Then they chew me to bits for having the opinion I had. I'm not antagonistic at all, I'm friendly and happy in my comments... yet they feel a need to be cunts. (s'cuse the language). It's always women in their 40's who I see leaving bitchy comments to me, either in my blog or theirs. I find most younger people are quite nice. Maybe because I'm a woman, it's the whole competition thing.

A lot of people take blogging WAYYYYyyyyy too seriously. It's their only avenue for popularity. It's everyone's chance to be something they're not, be it intelligent, beautiful, sexy, popular, smarter than everyone else.
In person, I bet the loudest lions would actually be mice.

Blogging is supposed to be a way to discuss things you want to discuss. If someone doesn't like what you've written, they should move on to something they do like. No need to be insulting.
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Choozmi 51M

9/3/2006 11:25 am

Please see my next blog post for how folks on the other site responded to what I wrote above.

rm_GrayBear818 70M
103 posts
9/8/2006 1:45 pm

Tis true, so rude.. bunch of punks trying to get their rocks off dissin other folks. From their perspective, I think it's like Gangsta .. I be da mann, I show yu where it's at, ya wimp pussy !*?!&!

The bigger the dis, the bigger they feel, much like Happy Slapping.

The root of the action is getting points without a feedback loop on what it cost others or what it really gets the author. This being a cheap open forum, there's no opts for wackin the bitches or fencing them in to their own territory of mutually agreed destruction. Cheap means the AdultFriendFinder setup doesn't provide opts to build social controls into the virtual blog world. Other sites do.. get blocked enuf times and your account gets stunned or some such.

There is a flip side - 1st Amendment Free Speech. As soon as anyone trys to implement controls/constraints of whatever nature, a little of our freedom is lost. Hell, their are folks that think this site ought to be burned altogether.. good, bad and the ugly.

I guess I'm willing to put up with the trolls, just to be able to say what I feel, whenever I like. It they don't want to be sincere, their loss, as long as I can ignore them reasonably easily.

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