That Look  

Choozmi 51M
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8/21/2006 10:30 pm

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That Look

Just for fun I'm going to provide a blog entry and the first three comments for it.

Now back to our regularly scheduled blog...

You know what look I'm talking about. You may have received it or dished it out yourself.

I live in a large American city. A city not known for the friendliness of its residents, frankly. I am out among these residents a fair amount of the time. And I get frustrated sometimes when I look at the faces of some of these female residents and I'm greeted with That Look.

That Look says, "Don't talk to me. I'm not available. Even if I were available, I would not be available to you. So go away."

Many women (and some men) probably use That Look for protection. I use it myself when passing by people asking for spare change (I'm a liberal but I'm not a sucker).

But That Look can hurt. It's like giving someone an angry or a "dirty" look, frankly (not the fun kind of dirty). Even if only used for protection, That Look says, "You don't look like someone I can trust." After walking around at a mall or something and getting a few different versions of That Look, I find myself wondering if something is wrong with me.

Choozmi 51M

8/21/2006 10:32 pm

Oh Choozmi, get over it! Ha ha! You shouldn't take looks that strangers out in public give you seriously. I stopped worrying about what anyone thought of me back when I was nine years old.

-- ProudNHuge

Choozmi 51M

8/21/2006 10:36 pm

Chooz, you gotta remember that us grils get hit on like all the time an dwe hate hurting guys's feelings so it's joust easier to give them go-away looks when they stare. If you don't like ti don't stare!

-- DottieDimples

Choozmi 51M

8/21/2006 10:41 pm

Chewsmy its the guys' job to do the chasing. Lets' face it, dudde, wer'e the hunters and ladys are the pray! happym;

Alot of times chicks put up a front just to make the m en work harder. Shes' saying Hey Im' worht the extra mile! So step up!

-- Huntpoosy0I812

Choozmi 51M

8/21/2006 10:52 pm

ProudNHuge: Bullshit. I don't believe it when people say they don't care what others think of them. I think we all care to a certain extent. Maybe we care the most what our friends and loved ones think of us, but we are affected even by strangers (and by their dirty looks). Frankly I hope I never reach the point where I don't care what anyone thinks of me, because I think that would mean I have no feelings at all.

DottieDimples: I rarely stare at anyone unless it's someone I know and we're seated across from each other in a romantic restaurant. Regardless, I sympathize with what you are saying about being hit on all the time (sympathize in an ethereal way, not from personal experience) but even though it can occasionally be unpleasant I don't think it gives anyone the right to be rude to total strangers (and let's face it, an unpleasant or "dirty" look is rude). I have a saying: "I don't ask questions that haven't been asked." I'm not going to refuse someone something before they even ask for it.

Huntpoosy0I812: Stay away from every woman I know and care about if you know what's good for you. I hear Ann Coulter's available and she likes trashy talk.

hornylilgirl78 107F

8/21/2006 11:00 pm

Nothing wrong with you from what I've seen!

I don't know if I've ever INTENTIONALLY used "The Look" though I'm sure at some point I have. It's probably not even a conscience thing, just another layer of protection and seperation that you put out there when you're amongst strangers.


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Choozmi 51M

8/22/2006 1:59 am

Oops! I meant "I don't ANSWER questions that haven't been asked."

Hi HornyLil! You probably don't need That Look much where you live because it sounds like folks are a little friendlier there.

mickdevil 52M/53F
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8/22/2006 3:39 am

I guess I'm the 1 doesn't give enough dirty looks then?people are always talking with me in the grocery line in the elavator,walkin down the street ya name I guess the look doesn't work for me!

how can people look at that face and give ya dirty looks?


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cautious4102 59F
76 posts
8/22/2006 5:27 pm

Chooz, are you sure you have interpreted the look correctly? Maybe the look says "Why are you bothering to look at me? Surely you wouldn't be interested in me?."

I also wonder if most of the time people even think about the look on their face?

Hippink 36F  
4498 posts
8/24/2006 6:14 pm

OH DEAR! You've gone nuts.

I admit it, I give "THE LOOK." But I ONLY do it when I'm in a bad mood, mad at men, not feeling well, whatever... I don't do it because I don't want any particular man to approach me. If I'm my usual self, I welcome smiles, Hello's, appreciative glances & comments... and I aknowledge with a smile... from ANYONE. It wouldn't matter if Brad Pitt or Jack Black crossed my path. They'd both get the same treatment.

Point being... it's not you, it's them. They're just not in the mood to be approached by anyone, unless it's someone who can fix whatever is on their mind at the time.
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