Friends with benefits  

Choozmi 51M
746 posts
4/7/2005 10:51 pm

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Friends with benefits

I've thought about this subject a lot. I've had several friends-with-benefits arrangements in my life and enjoyed them immensely. There's something incredibly liberating about knowing that someone thinks you're sexy enough to have sex with more than once -- and that when they're with you it's because you turn them on and not because they think you complete them or will save their life or are the answer to their prayers. They just think you're kinda hot. That's a nice feeling.

But every now and then I think back to the times when I was with someone I was in love with. They thought I was kinda hot, too (and vice versa). They also thought I was special enough to give up all other sexual relationships for. The older I get, the more I realize how big a sacrifice that is.

MsLoveRose 34F  
2432 posts
7/8/2005 5:18 pm

oh its a big sacrifice...thats putting it lightly...i have had the idea of thinking that they dont work too well because more times than a few one partner wants more...or thinks its more...but when you have two mutual friends...who become lovers it cant get any better...especially if you set boundaries and make it known that its just a friend looking out for a friend...well the risk is falling...actually seeing that this friend is more than you thought and if you say so...things might "change" but if they are a true friend then they will take what ever you say, feel, do, to heart and know for a fact that you are something good in their life...

live more, laugh often, love much

Goldenhairgodess 64F
396 posts
7/9/2005 8:49 am

To be exclusive is not a sacrifice to me, provided he is also. I want
love like everyone else. And that includes the physical. And I have
learned that the physical is only a tiny part in the long run. True love is being there even when it is hard to stay. It is a decision, come hell or high water, to work through the differences. By the Bible Standards only adulty is an acceptable cause to leave. That occured in the first marriage and not the second. If he were alive I would still be with him, as it was we had 17 years. And I mourned for
12 years being celebrate. No person can give you happiness. It is a choice we make to be or not be, and it comes from within.

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