Life, thy name is IRONY  

ChinRyder 41M
340 posts
5/9/2006 11:50 pm

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Life, thy name is IRONY

What a crazy fucked up world we live in. Why is it when we want something so bad it's completely unattainable and when we give up and finally move on it lands right in our lap? Case in point:

Today I decided to renew my membership with AdultFriendFinder. Like I've said before, I enjoy the company and it's always a kick to meet new people. I've been absent for 8 months or so b/c I was out focusing all of my efforts on a relationship, but that fell through a month ago. Well, no sooner than I plucked down my members fee, revised my profile, and typed my first blog, the phone rings. Apparently it's time to talk.

When my girlfriend and I separated last month I was beside myself. I had devoted all of my efforts since the last break-up to making this relationship great- and failed. Not by my standards, but hers. A tiny argument broke us apart and I knew in my mind that there had to be something larger behind it. Today my suspicions were confirmed, but it wasn't the disaster that I had feared it was. In the same way that time and pressure can turns a boulder into a pebble, it also turns molehills into mountains.

While we are nowhere near "back to normal" I couldn't help but coming away from the conversation feeling better. Suspicions of another man were squashed, the fear of being so easily replaced was quelled. She needs time to settle some issues and learn how to take care of herself and I couldn't agree more.

Of course, that leaves the obvious question of what to do with my membership. I have no guarantee that we're getting back together, and I refused to keep up the lines of communication. Not because I don't want to talk to her, but simply because she knows where I stand. I told her that if she wants to talk that she can call me anytime, but that she shouldn't expect a phone call from me. What the hell do I say? "Wanna get back together?" That'd get old real quick. So I'm left sitting here, trying to figure out if it's morally O.K. to get my rocks off with strangers when I don't even HAVE a girlfriend. Man a conscience can be such a drag. You know, in the original fairy tail of Pinocchio he squashed Jimminy Cricket at the very beginning. I'm wondering if I shouldn't do the same.

ChinRyder 41M
235 posts
5/11/2006 12:02 pm

O.K. Jolie, I took some time to think about your comment and now I'm ready to respond. At first I was going to make some off color remark about how people still have sex with animals in your state and pretty much rip you a new one, but I'm better than that- at least right now.

My post isn't whiny. I don't ramble on about how I want my girlfriend back or wish things were like they used to be in the old days. I've been around the block enough to know that life isn't like that. Holy shit!! This guy is writing about his feelings!!! What the fuck is up with that?!!?!?!?! Maybe you were expecting me to write about how all women should really be considered property? And how it's up to me to fuck as many of them as I can before I die??

I've got news for you: This site is about real people. Better than half of the "regulars" are people that have been lied to, cheated on, and divorced. A lot of them say that they want a one night stand but never act on it because when push comes to shove it's always better when the person you're fucking actually gives a shit about you.

Looking at your profile I see that you're a divorcee. I guess that's because you don't comprmise, huh? You didn't like the way he didn't help with dinner and you just called it quits? I'm not attacking you. I just don't agree with your statement that you shouldn't settle for less than everything. Life is compromise. Otherwise I'd be sitting on my ass watching T.V. while the government supported my ass. Hell, I'd be so damn lazy I'd just piss and shit all over myself.

The point is: Yes, you shouldn't have to settle. But that isn't the same as a compromise. If you are willing to give up sex with other people just so you can enjoy the love of one person, it's worth it. Life is a give and take, and not all endings are final. With all of the technology people in this world still forget how to communicate. They never say what's really on their mind and expect the world to open up to them. Unfortunately it doesn't work that way. One of my biggest pet peeves is that I have to share this place with several billion assholes who all want things to go THEIR way. Too bad that's not the way things work.

So, there you have it. I'm sorry that you didn't take the time to read my profile or anything else that I had written before you bothered to offer your opinion. We might have avoided this little altercation. Feel free to leave another post if you'd like. I love getting a good discussion going. Just make sure to back up your arguement.

SweetDarlinAngel 40F
2996 posts
6/29/2006 12:43 pm

Life is compromise.
I liked that. Good point, but you seem a little hostile babe. Deep breath, tell Angel all about it ... I know it's been a while since we talked but it'll all come back to you. You'll remember how easy it was once you start to do it again. Whining or not, I'm always here to listen.


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