This is the Secret  

CelticFlower 51F
1061 posts
6/12/2006 12:09 am

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This is the Secret

. I am reading a book and at the start of the last chapter is this quote. It made me wonder if this is where i have been going wrong all these years.

When you`re with a man you like, be quiet and mysterious, act ladylike, cross your legs and smile. Don`t talk so much. Wear black sheer pantyhose and hike up your skirt to entice the opposite sex!. You might feel offerended by these suggestions and argue this will suppress your intelligence or vivacious personality. You may feel that you won`t be able to be yourself, but men will love it!.

From 'The Rules' by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider

mmm still thinking about it.


racingcrazy67 50M

6/12/2006 8:20 am

I think that is an excellent idea! No way does it suppress intelligence or personality. More like showing confidence in yourself and saying to yourself "I am sexy and that makes me feel good". The man should also be part of this, enjoy you dressing and behaving like this for him and for you and appreciate you for who you are.

So much can be said without saying anything especially between two people that enjoy sensuality.

Maybe we could go out to dinner and try it out?

CelticFlower replies on 6/13/2006 2:38 am:
I think you hit the nail on the head..........not a trap but something to be enjoyed by both.
Oh where do you suggest for dinner.

TheQuietGuy2005 55M
2386 posts
6/12/2006 11:11 am

I must admit I would find that quite enticing!

However - and it's a big "however" - I find the ethics of that whole book pretty damnable. It's all about how women should manipulate men to get what they want. First of all, I don't think women are so feeble that they need to resort to trickery ... but most important of all, I don't like manipulation of any sort.

Feel free to behave that way though

CelticFlower replies on 6/13/2006 2:37 am:
I don`t believ in manipulation either i suffered because of it for a long time. I enjoy being female & like to dress in a feminine way. I do this for me for me alone.........if it is appreciated by the person i`m with then its wonderful.

dutchpete 55M
563 posts
6/12/2006 11:50 am

Need someone to exercise on to overcome the suppressing of your intelligence when doing the described, before you do need it for a real 'superman' ?.....

Not just black sheer panty hose will work

Willing to volunteer for several exercise moments.

CelticFlower replies on 6/12/2006 12:10 pm:
Pete i am a bit of a stockings/hold ups girl anyway. You would have to ask superman himself whether those tricks worked.
I will note your willingness to help in any experimentation.

HotDev1l 46M
1358 posts
6/12/2006 2:21 pm

Have to say, whilst that might "prick" my curiosity....I prefer a woman with more substance!

CelticFlower replies on 6/13/2006 2:34 am:
I think i would much rather be me and do a little enticing if i felt inclined and had the idea the person i was with would be responsive.
What do you think?

papyrina 52F
21133 posts
6/12/2006 4:16 pm

off to buy some sticky tape for my mouth,i have the stockings

I'm a

i'm here to stay

CelticFlower replies on 6/13/2006 2:40 am:
Pretty much the same as me

rm_penpalchat 50M
12 posts
6/14/2006 6:51 am

Hey Flower (lurking away here)

These kind of rules may work in certain situations, but I am not sure you can apply them in all cases. Surely the important thing is to judge the man in question and detect his particularly "kinkiness"

Having said that,I think this would work for most men, though stockings is better than pantyhose!

I am now wondering if the same tricks would work for, Heaven forbid, a woman to attract another woman, or even more outrageously, a couple

What about for a man to attract? Or for a couple to attract? And how much money would I make for writing books on these topics, regardless of how good they are? And who would help me with my research?

Questions questions!!!!

CelticFlower replies on 6/15/2006 12:52 am:
I think there are endless questions on this subject matter and many permutations of the attraction and between whom.
As for me personally looking finding another woman attractive is the same as a man. It is not just physical appearance that counts often there is a built in sexiness, that is not initially obvious. It is no less alluring, infact it is even more so.
who is lurking where?

rm_penpalchat 50M
12 posts
6/16/2006 4:43 am

Hey Flower,

thatæ„€ interesting and I would have to agree. Often too much direct "Arenæ„’ I sex?" is a turn off (or funny). An understated sensual understanding is more powerful, indeed.

The Lurky is that Kinky one

racingcrazy67 50M

6/16/2006 4:50 am

"I think you hit the nail on the head..........not a trap but something to be enjoyed by both.
Oh where do you suggest for dinner.

Dinner in a quiet, intimate restaurant, other people there but I wouldn't even notice and would have eyes only for you. Don't think I'd be talking much either, just enjoying being in the presence of a very special woman, which you are, always.

Are you free next weekend?

rm_EE407 42F
3903 posts
6/21/2006 1:39 am

I have tried that once or twice... but I fail at the "shut up" part.... before I know it the guy runs of crying, mumbling something about a bruised ego! So I'll stick to what I know... and just chatter away... he might as well get used to it straight away.. rofl

Hugs E.

ph_lvr_ks 50M

7/10/2006 11:39 am

Hmmm I loe the thought of a lady wearing balck pantyhose and teasing me

ph_lvr_ks 50M

10/5/2006 6:35 am

Pantyhosed legs get my undivided attention

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