Panic & Slow Down!  

CandyKissBaby 62F
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9/13/2005 6:46 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Panic & Slow Down!

OMG... I thought it was bad getting an urgent phone call about my mom on her way to the hospital. I found another call that is worse! Getting an urgent call that your child is being rushed to the hospital. It was around 11 pm Friday night, when my daughter-in-law called here to say that my son, who is 25, was in an accident on his Harley. Seems a car pulled out into his lane & hit him head-on! He was being life-flighted to another hospital with a trauma team. She had talked to him on his cell phone & she told me he was okay. I couldn't imagine what his injuries might be... I expected the worst. After waking up hubby & making a few quick calls, we headed off to the hospital. In such a situation, one's mind goes crazy. I thought about all the times he got in trouble, all the times he made me mad, all the silly things he did, all the really nice things he had done. I thought about what a good man he has become, what a good husband he is, and what a great father he will be someday.

I was worried about my daughter-in-law driving herself to the hospital alone, & I was relieved when we got there to see she had her neighbor with her. We all got there before my son, & had to wait. Minutes seemed like hours. Finally they let us go back to see him. He wasn't as bad as I had imagined, thank god! He had a pretty good sized gash on the back of his head (no helmet) & some scraps & scratches on his left knee to his toes, but his major injury was to his left arm. He had it bandaged pretty good, so we didn't get to see it.. not that I wanted to. he had broken one bone in his lower arm, & fractured the other one. He was in extreme pain & his face was covered in dried blood.

We had to wait through the x-rays, tests, & everything else they did to him, before they did emergency surgery on his arm around 3 am. Hubby & I stayed with my daughter-in-law, & it was a very long exhausting night. The surgery took longer than the doctor told us (they always seem to for some reason) & when the doctor was done, he told us he didn't see his arm until they unwrapped it in surgery & it was worse than he thought. The bone he thought was only fractured, was indeed broke & had come through the skin, the other one was broke & had only poked the skin out. The bone through the skin was missing a small piece & will have to have a bone graph in about a month. He put a plate & pins on the other one to hold it in place while it heals. He said my son will need several more surgeries in the coming months, & he had scheduled another surgery for Sunday morning so he could go in & clean it out again to make sure it is very clean. The danger of infection is greater when a bone comes through the skin.

Needless to say, it was a long weekend, most of it spent at the hospital. It wasn't till this morning that I finally got a good picture of what happened Friday night. My son was traveling on a 2-lane road, on his way home from washing his bike, there were 5 on-coming cars. He said he was about even with the first car, when the car behind it pulled out into his lane, hitting him head-on & sending him flying through the air, while his bike went off somewhere. Apparently, the driver in the second car, the one who hit my son, was driving much too fast & when the first car slowed down to turn into a driveway, the second car, swerved to avoid hitting that car. The driver said he never seen my son coming the other way. Thinking about it, it's probably a normal reaction to swerve to avoid hitting something in front of you. My hubby calls it an error in judgment. I call it being in too much of a hurry & driving too fast.

I'm not sure what will come of this accident. I know my son's bones will heal in time, & hopefully he will have full use of his arm & hand so he can go back to his job as an auto technician, a job he has loved since he was a little kid working on go-cart motors & such. I don't know if he will ever ride a Harley again, only he can make that decision. I also don't know what will happen with the driver who hit him, an 18 year old kid.

As I sit here writing this, I think how lucky & fortunate my son & the young driver of that car was. I think about the visor pin I bought my youngest son when he got his license to drive, the one that reads: Never Drive Faster Than Your Guardian Angel Can Fly! I'll be searching for another pin for my oldest son now. I think about all the different emotions I've went through in the last few days... panic, worry, anger, love, etc. I think about how fast things happen in a split second.

Please slow down! Don't be in such a hurry! Take extra time getting where you are going! Leave a bit early so you won't have to rush! And please take care & be extra alert for motorcycles on the roadways.


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