Inappropriate Kiss  

CandyKissBaby 62F
1919 posts
9/19/2005 11:02 am

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Inappropriate Kiss

I had my guard up, cause it's happened before. I try to avoid such situations where I will be alone with him but sometimes I can't... this was one of those times. He knows how I feel, I've made it pretty plain in the past. So when he kissed me goodbye, as he most always does, I felt he wanted more than a simple goodbye peck on the lips. It wasn't going to happen! I don't have those kinds of feelings for him, & even if I did, I doubt I could act on them, after all he is my hubby's brother-in-law. He has always been like family to me. Maybe that's why it sorta creeps me out about this whole thing.

I don't know if I should get mad & tell him off, or if I should just let it pass. He has always been subtle at hitting on me, & I don't tease & flirt with him, I don't encourage him at all.

What would you do in a situation like this?


rm_joeyrenn 66M

9/19/2005 11:45 am

Hi Candy, If I were you I whould tell him to stop or I whould have to tell my husband what he is trying to do. There's no reason why someone should make you feel uncomfortable. I do see why someone whould hit on you. You are very sexy and attractive but he should get the hint if you are not interested.

CandyKissBaby 62F

9/19/2005 1:24 pm

thanks for the advice joe... i used to tell hubby some of the stuff he would say to me, but it only made hubby really mad, so i stopped telling hubby. i don't want to cause a family feud, so i'm trying to deal with this myself.


satnitespecl 60M
1294 posts
9/19/2005 2:13 pm

its always flattering when someone shows us that kind of attention but we all know if we dont make things perfectly clear that that attention can lead to problems down the road. None of us want to hurt a friends feelings but you have to think about yourself on this one. Somehow I think you'll do the right thing.

warmandsexy52 65M
13164 posts
9/19/2005 3:49 pm

Don't let it pass, because the problem won't go away simply because you wish it so. Don't get mad at him, because people say all sorts of things once upset and you'll have a situation going all sorts of places.

I would write down my thoughts first, just to focus, pour him a coffee and tell him straight. He might get defensive or go into denial, but he will register where he stands.

No way should he be allowed to make you feel uncomfortable.

rm_ryan45 61M/51F

9/20/2005 7:59 am

I agree with what some of the others have do need to let him know...and ya can't pull any punches. Let him know in no uncertain terms that you don't like it. Guys have a tendency of thinking that when you say NO you mean YES... now why is that You didn't say if he was single, involved or married...that would be the other option... hell hath no fury... Kisses..

CandyKissBaby 62F

9/20/2005 1:03 pm

well ryan, he is & has been married to my hubby's sister for over 30 years.

thanks guys for the moral support & the good advice!


utbucky 50M
163 posts
9/21/2005 9:50 am

i would politly tell him you are not interested at all, if it keeps up, his wife should know about it also.

satnitespecl 60M
1294 posts
9/21/2005 2:10 pm

You know CK I read all of this again and this doesnt have anything to do with you, except being the victim of unwanted advances. If you told your hubby he has every right to be upset for no other reason than someone is hittin on you and makes you uncomfortable. I wonder how many other women hes doing this to.

IronsFetesSinai 57M
225 posts
9/24/2005 4:50 pm

Stop him now or theres a storm comeing!! Thank him and castrate him, so he don't come back like that again. Speak your mind and let him know how it is.Good luk.

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