Great sex, so why....  

CB_2 52F
8302 posts
7/25/2006 3:06 pm

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Great sex, so why....

...didn't I come?

Had nearly three hours of the most fun sex I've had in ages (OK, since last Wednesday) this morning, and it was fantastic. I spent ages right on the verge of coming, but somehow it never quite happened.

Grrrrrrr! Really frustrating, because I'm sure he must think I didn't enjoy it enough, which wasn't the case at all. I mean, I know I gave the impression of enjoying it, but he must be wondering why.

It's not that I can't come quickly - have done so in less than a minute before now, although not yet with him.

I do know one reason why: I was right on the edge, but the bed was creaking and moving very alarmingly, so we became suddenly aware of it, and were concerned that it might actually collapse. And the moment slipped by - transfer to the floor interrupted the flow, as it were.

And the other reason, I am convinced, is because he won't come until I have. God knows how he does this, but there doesn't seem to be any hurry from his point of view. Which is really great, but I do think it adds to the pressure - "oh God, why haven't I come? Will he keep going for ever and ever?" etc etc.

So, M, when I tell you to let go and come, don't just smile smugly and say you're waiting for me - just let go and come, and I'll probably tip over with you! Dammit.

Blogito ergo sum.

earthShiva 61M

7/25/2006 4:56 pm

Sometimes, if the sex is good enough, coming is almost a sideshow. D and I sometimes go 5-6 hours without either of us hitting a real orgasm, and it's some of the most enjoyable sex we have. Neither of us builds up enough tension to hit the peak, so we just fly along at an extremely high plateau.

So just relax and set aside all your expectations - his and yours. Dammit.

CB_2 replies on 7/25/2006 5:15 pm:
Good approach, earthShiva. I sould have done that, definitely.

And then we'd probably both have come all over the place!!

Ah, irony.

rm_smosmof2 68M
3240 posts
7/25/2006 5:48 pm

God, this sounds familiar.

xgf was highly distractable... I'd get her closer, closer, closer, ... and a cat would make a noise somewhere in the room and it would be gone. Sometimes it was really hard to get her properly focused--any distraction from outside and we were back to square one. And then there were days that, no matter how much she was enjoying it, she just wasn't going to go off. I got familiar enough with the way her body worked that I could tell when she was in one of those states, but I don't think she could tell, and would get very frustrated, and let that negate the joy of the whole session...

CB_2 replies on 7/26/2006 2:15 am:
And the moral of the story is: never fuck with cats in the room!

IrishKev 41M
1523 posts
7/26/2006 10:51 am

I hate cumming until my girl does as well and sometimes it can be frustrating when you're both aware that you're trying just a little too much instead of just enjoying it. We then had plenty of sex which was still amazing even if you don't come.

CB_2 replies on 7/27/2006 4:05 pm:
I know, Kev. It's just so depressing, though, to know how easily your mind can fuck things up for your body .

Maquis55 64M
113 posts
7/26/2006 12:40 pm

I think the answer is to be relaxed about it - If there are no specific expectations (Other than fun), "What will happen will just happen" !!

CB_2 replies on 7/27/2006 4:05 pm:
The only expectation I had was the imminent collapse of the bed, actually!

CB_2 replies on 7/27/2006 4:07 pm:
But I think as he has so much more self-control than me, I'll have to insist that he tells me no for as long as possible when I beg him to fuck me. Make me sweat, dammit!

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