Transitional moments  

BustLuster69 62M
30 posts
1/14/2006 4:22 pm

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3/17/2006 11:12 am

Transitional moments

Half a century gone, and I’m still not sure 100% who I am
There have been a lot of clues
Many “defining moments”
But no clear answers

Tonight I stop being less than fifty.

I wonder how much this matters to other people
Will they all now treat me different?
Will my value to them change?
Do they notice me less?
Or Notice me more?
Or worse yet, do they notice me at all?

My learning phases each come with a clear start and finish
And with each finish, I find I have started anew

I don’t think I’ll feel different tomorrow
(Perhaps a hangover, but that in and of itself is not new)

There is an entire section on the “Event” that confronts me,
so somebody thinks this is important.
Does this mean that I should care more that I’m a day older?
That I’ve managed to awaken one more time?

Only time will tell
It’s too bad I don’t speak “time” very well.


blondebelow 49M

1/18/2006 8:11 pm

Happy belated birthday!

Eyes is right (but that's nothing unusual).

I enjoy your comments and questions within the advice forum. Keep up the good work.

Food for thought...the owner of the company I work for (and a very good friend) is 54 years old...and yet, he just might be the youngest person I know. He mixes youthful enthusiasm with the wisdom and grace that only age can provide.

You are half way through your journey, continue to grow and keep on truckin'!


BustLuster69 62M

1/20/2006 12:44 pm

Thank you both for your comments and Belated Birthday greetings.
Well, the sun did come up, and I am still here, and so I guess the Hallmark Moment didn't change me that much after all (I did have some cake at a friends house on my birthday (and a bag of silly gifts, which I will be re-gifting to another friend that turns 50 in two months)


rm_mamaneeds_ 61F

1/20/2006 8:46 pm

what do these "babies" know? lol. here's what a geniune "old" broad thinks.

there is no way it is just a number. at a certain point the reality that you have lived more years than you can hope to look forward to changes you. how could it not? as the years pass, those you have known all your life leave this world. whole generations of people who populated the landscape of your life are no longer there. and WE become the elders surrounded by the generations that we raised and mentored and nurtured.

maybe i'm crazy, but i love 50. when my mother, my aunts, the woman that surrounded me were 50 they were so sedate, so settled, so "done". but when i turned 50, i felt like i was only starting to get cookin'.

we were one of the most dynamic, impassioned generations as we came to adulthood and we remain a force to be reckoned with and a voice that neither subsides nor reduces to a whimper as the years gain on us. i think we embrace the changes and evolution of the times in a way no past generation has every seemed to have the passion, or vision, or desire to do.

my eyes open wider with each year that i'm still reflecting light. and if i can just keep up the maintenance on the external parts, i think this phase of my life will get progressively more awesome. and i won't do "30" again for all the tea in china.

happy belated birthday. i have also enjoyed your posts over these past many months.


Dreamwoman2006 59F
32 posts
1/24/2006 6:05 am

Belated happy birthday, 'Bust',

I like your musings, and no, the people who've known you as a 40-something will not suddenly think differently of you. If you make it a life long project to keep learning on all levels you'll also be seen as an 'alive' person.

I still have a few years to go before the bit five-o, so can't say how I'll react, but have often thought about this: A friend of mine got depressed on his 50th birthday, claiming he now had the life (family, home, job, possessions, interests etc.) he was going to have and there was nothing much for him to accomplish anymore - well, guess what, his circumstances have since changed dramatically - although his outlook has, unfortunately, in some ways stayed the same.

I think each decade in our lives also presents us with different opportunities to grow and appreciate. They are generally defined by our past experiences and how we handled them, and where each of us are today. Having people you loved die at a fairly young age, will make you appreciate life so much more, for instance, and oh, remember how old our parents and their friends lived/dressed/acted at 50?

We are the generation which can have it all, all the way, and as long as we appreciate that plus don't desperately hang onto our ideas of youth, we are even more blessed!

Oh, and I loved your question on the advice line about what happened to courtesy, and about 'male' and 'female' questions. Thank you for that. Fun comments are great, but no need to kick anyone in the head.


redhotNcrazy 44F
1 post
1/30/2006 11:14 pm

Bust I came across your profile, sorry you live so far away I'd like to show you me But I havn't managed to take it to the next step


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