My First AFF Party (Revised)  

BenefitsFriend69 58M/61F
1008 posts
9/21/2005 11:25 pm

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My First AFF Party (Revised)

Seems a bunch of folks got their panties in a wad over my post about my first AdultFriendFinder party barbeque. For the record, I had no intention of invading anyone's privacy, insulting anyone, or whatever else you perceived. I just wanted to thank people and get a few laughs out of it. And I said a lot of very nice things. Believe it or not, many people who were at the barbeque thought the post was hilarious. I only mentioned CODED names because here in blog land, people like to have their names mentioned.

I wonder why no one asked me to delete or revise the post, individually. Perhaps a quick email or blog response? Had they done so, I would have deleted or revised in a second. Instead, several of that clique decided to “gang up” on me in the chat room and hurl insults. They even grouped me in the same classification as the “groper” at that party. ANYONE who KNOWS ME knows that I would never, ever disrespect or judge anyone for what they do, let alone what that asshole did. You people do not know me. And now you never will. Your loss.

Fascinating. Childish, and cowardly, but fascinating. I’ve seen that certain chat room clique do that to other people. It’s kinda like a feeding frenzy of drama. Once they start, they can’t stop. Why don’t you take me on one-on-one if you have a problem with me, without your clique in tow? My email box and blog are wide open. I’ll even give ya my phone number.

As soon as I realized that the words I wrote may have offended someone, I deleted the ENTIRE post immediately, without being asked. I apologized several times in the chat room. But that wasn’t enough for some of you. The frenzy was on, and you had one bleeding. I played along for a bit, just out of sheer curiosity and amazement. But it didn’t matter what I said, you just repeated the same stuff and did not hear my apology or acknowledge my actions regarding deleting the post. It got boring. And sad.

No one cares what went on at that party, or what anyone did. Really. Don’t flatter yourselves so much. How “private” do you really think you are? You (and I ) are all on a public sex site where you post sex profiles, talk sex in chat rooms, and meet people for sex. It intentionally leads to events like that party: public sex, swapping, flashing, swinging and more in suburban back yards, bars, swinger clubs and hotels rented out for that specific purpose. Then you complain about my writing about it in a blog on the same site. Give me a fucking break. And find something more important to waste your precious time and energy on than chat room feeding frenzies. Get lives.

And by the way, I enjoyed myself. Thanks! And I may just repost my original post, unless certain individuals have the courage to ask me not to. One-on-one.


grendle69 43M
27 posts
9/22/2005 12:04 am

WIshed I could've been there. I would've brought more BBQ sauce for your ass since it was the main thing on the grill! Never fret over sheep my friend: They always graze together....


BenefitsFriend69 58M/61F

9/22/2005 8:55 am

Grendle, thanks bro. Now that I look back on the post it looks a bit whiney, but ya gotta say what's on your mind. Wish I coulda met you there, we could have taken turn with the bbq sauce..


BenefitsFriend69 58M/61F

9/22/2005 8:56 am

Mouse, I talked about you in code in that blog, lol! Glad you have enough character not to sweat the small stuff or join the sheep.


wifewantsmen 55M/55F

9/22/2005 7:17 pm

My First AFF Party RevisedInteresting. If any one should have been offended, it should have been me. I had a laugh over it, and went on my way. And, yes, I did have too much of a good time with BF69.


BenefitsFriend69 58M/61F

9/23/2005 10:41 am

wifewantsmen: hey cutie, you are the LAST person I would ever offend. So sorry if I did.

Some people are just wound up too tight I guess. I mean, they talked about that barbeque in the chat room for days afterward, with their handles out there for everyone to see, saying a lot more stuff than I said. Yet I write about it in my blog and they get pissy.. Not the kind of people I want as friends.

Hope you're well. Miss ya..


rm_jayR63 60F
1884 posts
9/23/2005 5:03 pm

I read that post and was wholly disinterested.
Welcome to AieEffEff High.
You can sit at my table.
Just keep your clothes on and your hands to yourself


wifewantsmen 55M/55F

9/23/2005 5:30 pm

No, you did not offend me, and I thought it was hilarious. Your depiction of the chat room was accurate, and the responses mirrors the real world when an "outsider" paints a picture of them. I am no longer curious about attending an AdultFriendFinder party.

Ah, so you missed our in-depth converstions? Is that all? hee hee
All in due time,


__Huntress__ 56M/59F

9/24/2005 6:45 am

Precisely the very reason I never enter a chatroom ! Bravo to you ! Obviously, by measure of the content of this post, you've proven yourself to be a "class act" ... nice, wet, juicy kisses for you ... {=} !


BenefitsFriend69 58M/61F

9/24/2005 2:54 pm

JayR: Yeah, exactly. "I'm tellin mom!"


BenefitsFriend69 58M/61F

9/24/2005 2:55 pm

wifewantsmen: Yes, definitely miss the in-depth conversations. Was there something else? <wink wink>


BenefitsFriend69 58M/61F

9/24/2005 2:57 pm

Huntress: YOU are absolutely gorgeous. Thanks for the network invite. What a shame there's so much distance between us, it'd be nice to share a cup o' tea. I'm sure we could find a lot to talk about.


rm_lilypond3 60F
83 posts
9/24/2005 9:32 pm

heyBF69 you are so damn real it hurts,
Hurts good that is!

I read the about the party and was very amuzed at how much was going on and you just looked around now and then during your converation like you were at a great car show and went back to talking again.It was hard to fathom with all that action going on that you didnt get into it. Anyway would have been hard (teehee) for me to not get into the mix.
GOOD FRICKIN' GRIEF YOU CHILDREN POSING AS ADULTS! This isnt a FANTASY web site,its REAL ,real people' real events,if you dont want to hear about it or know about what goes on dont get on it!Play games by yourself and your toys.This is a public site, expect a few things to be said!

Totally agree with you shortblonde.

Big hug,kisses and a whack for you BF !!


rm_lilypond3 60F
83 posts
9/24/2005 9:40 pm

HeyBF69 you are so damn real it hurts,
Hurts good that is!

I read the about the party and was very amuzed at how much was going on and you just looked around now and then during your converation like you were at a great car show and went back to talking again.It was hard to fathom with all that action going on that you didnt get into it. Anyway would have been hard (teehee) for me to not get into the mix.
GOOD FRICKIN' GRIEF YOU CHILDREN POSING AS ADULTS! This isnt a FANTASY web site,its REAL ,real people' real events,if you dont want to hear about it or know about what goes on dont get on it!Play games by yourself and your toys.This is a public site, expect a few things to be said!

Totally agree with you shortblonde.

Big hug,kisses and a whack for you BF !!


rm_lilypond3 60F
83 posts
9/24/2005 9:44 pm

sorry dont know how that got on twice.
guess it wanted to get noticed.Unlike the people that were pissed at you!


BenefitsFriend69 58M/61F

9/25/2005 9:38 am

Short: Thanks for the encouragement! Sorry if the post sounds like a whine, but damn.. I just don't get it.


BenefitsFriend69 58M/61F

9/25/2005 9:39 am

Lily: thanks hun! Where'd ya whack me??


rm_sj365 57F
2414 posts
9/25/2005 12:40 pm

G - REPOST that puppy as it was!!!! (ok now that I've gotten that out of my system)
I read the post, it was entertaining. To the people giving you crap? PUHLEEZE..don't flatter yourselves that your behavior was so damn interesting or original that anybody who read about it gives a rats ass in any real way. sheesh..nice egos, whatever your behavior was, if it was reported accurately (which i am sure it was considering the source) then shut up & OWN your own stuff..THATS what being an adult is about. sheeeeh


__Huntress__ 56M/59F

9/25/2005 4:00 pm

Babydoll ... based on what I've read in your posts ... and so utterly, thoroughly enjoyed by the way ... I seriously doubt there'd be much time for talking ... or tea ... ! Okay ... well I can think of one scenario where references to tea might be involved ... !


yagottalikit 50F
583 posts
9/26/2005 1:56 am

Damn.....I thought I escaped all that garbage when I cancelled A...O...L I avoid chatrooms like the plague.....idiocy

Post whatever the fuck you want in your blog....and then come party with me!

Yagotta get it soft and wet so we can kick/stick it


BenefitsFriend69 58M/61F

9/26/2005 9:42 am

sj: Good idea. Now that I think about it, perhaps the real reason they were upset was because I found it more interesting to talk about Buddhism with that guy instead of watching the "action." LOL!


BenefitsFriend69 58M/61F

9/26/2005 9:44 am

Huntress: now you got me thinking about tea time. hmmm....


BenefitsFriend69 58M/61F

9/26/2005 9:45 am

shortblonde: Ouch! Hurts good..


BenefitsFriend69 58M/61F

9/26/2005 9:46 am

yagotta: I am SO ready. Did it stop raining yet??? xo


BenefitsFriend69 58M/61F

9/27/2005 8:34 pm

Hi short! Sometimes it's best to let sleeping dogs lie…


rm_lilypond3 60F
83 posts
10/2/2005 2:45 am

BF69...
Where would you like that "whack"?
I was thinking your "tush" for starters if you dont run..or do I have to use a couple cords to hold you down?

If it hurts a bit I'll kiss it a make it all better.(smiley kiss goes here)


BenefitsFriend69 58M/61F

10/2/2005 4:05 pm

Lily: Help! Where are my running shoes?? Catch me if ya can! (wink)

PS--Got a ping pong paddle in the house?


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