Ditched by a WALKING buddy WTF ?????  

Beckoning_BBW 40F
4/9/2006 3:57 pm
Ditched by a WALKING buddy WTF ?????

I suspect he will read this, but it is something that happened in my life, and I want to blog about so....too damn bad

I met someone on my front porch one night this past week for a walk. Yes a walk, nothing other than a walk. Two people goin out for some exercise.

Okay moving on.

We had passed through eachothers blogs and one day e-mailed eachother, exchanged online info and had a couple of chats. He had made it quite clear that he was not out to find other women to fu*k. The only woman he wantes was his wife. Well I was totally okay with that and suggested hey, lets hang out sometime.

So the next evening he met me on my porch and off we went for a walk. To be honest, I didn't think he would show up. Not sure why, I just got that 'feeling' you know. We chatted about everything under the sun, and I thought it went great.

I am not the most in shape person....
and from what I saw of him
(there were coats being worn)
nice body, nice face, decent sense of humour, in shape, enjoys the outdoors so here I thought, heck, maybe I now have a walking partner once a week, someone to hang out with, no pressures of sex, sounds great right.....

After our walk we chatted on my porch for a bit then it was time for him to leave. There was no exchange of hugs which was fine, it kind of assured my own self that he wasn't attreacted to me which I thought was a good thing if the only intention was to be friends...

Well I wake up this weekend to an e-mail from him and he basically says he can't be my friend. I was caught sooooo off guard. He told me he thought I was 'actually kind of cute' and how he is an 'all or nothing' person. So either we fu*k or nothing at all....SHEESH.

Needless to say I was kind of taken back.

Anyhow, off to cook some dinner.

OH AND BY THE WAY, as of Saturday night, 10 nights

Have a great Sunday evening

Communication IS the key so please visit my blog!

Sweetpickles69 49F

4/9/2006 5:24 pm

& the guys here call us girls fake!!!! I hate people that don't speak there mind & leave you hanging or guessing!!! Good Luck in the future & don't give up!!


thatsme422 41M

4/10/2006 6:57 am

you find all kinds here, regardless of gender...it just so happens that there tends to be more of "that kind"

That being said, I love the "I'll tell her one thing to get to meat her and then switch my expectations at the first opportunity" strategy...hard to believe that there is so many people out there that think this would actually work.

On the up shot on your drought, at least if things keep pace like last time, you're looking at what...mid-may for your next fuck?...by then perfect weather for outdoors fun

raverlady1000 53F

4/10/2006 6:04 pm

So sorry to hear that. It sounds like you need another visit from my hub. It's been 12 days. I will call you in the morning....
BTW..I love the pic on your April 1 blog.

Respitation 38M

4/29/2006 7:18 pm

Hey Everyone,

I'm the culprit, the bad man, the 'confusing walker'.

Yes, I agree with all of you, you're right. I joined AdultFriendFinder for the sole purpose of venting sexual frustration through a blog with the intentions of entertaining a few people, or so I thought.

Guess I was pretty confused, what I actually, probably wanted was some excitement and some attention from the opposite sex.

Enter Beckoning, pleasant witty young lady. After emailing and chatting and what not; I figure, "Wow, she's nice." So we go for a stroll, it's exciting, she's got an excellent personality, she's pretty darn cute. I was awkward as hell, man, Beckoning, you kept making those jokes and I kept missing them, over and over again like a complete buffoon.

I made a mistake in the email, my intention was not to say, "We fuck or nothing at all." That's my bad, I often make mistakes in wording things. No ultimatum, I just know how I am and eventually I'd try to turn things into a relationship. It's how I'm wired. Even if you were like, "Hey dumbass, we're friends, shut the hell up and walk"

Anyways, the reason I emailed you was to make sure I ended things. I think I wanted to see you to secretly visit with another woman and have my wife not know. To sort of say, "You won't pay attention to me, well look this woman will." I also know I'm an all or nothing person, so essentially I would have tried to have sex with you at some point as much as I try to convince myself and you that I'm not interested.

Those intentions are not ones with which to start a friendship, especially not with someone who's actually pretty cool. Maybe I'm just not mature enough to admit to my wife, "I'm friends with some girl I met on an internet sex site, but really we're just friends."

Needless to say, I tried to live vicariously through AdultFriendFinder members to see the crazy sex life I sometimes wish I had. I think I learned that I won't ever have that sex life and focusing purely on my family and my job gives me a satisfaction that is enough.

I'm not AdultFriendFinder material. So sorry about the inconvenience, I'm cancelling my membership here, I just saw this post and thought I should explain myself.

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