Lovers-day Scrooge  

BbbiBabyGirl 47F
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2/6/2006 10:41 pm

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5/22/2006 1:45 am

Lovers-day Scrooge

Bah Hum Bug.....
Another Valentines Day fastly approaches.
Well great, the day never meant much to me. As I see it you need to engage in the days theme more than twice for it to count for anything. After Christmas the commercialization and explortation of the day comes, the day after its forgotten. Move on to the next profit making idea.
So why the hell do we celebrate it? Oh ya...I remember to show someone how you care. hmmmmm
So you run out to the store, spend a ton of cash, put no heart or passion into the purchase and hope they like it. Better yet you get flowers that last a few days, a week if your lucky, then they die and go into the trash. Chocolates get eaten, then the weight gain is bitched about.

What happened to the old romantic gestures. What were they again? Poetry, songs, home-made candle lit dinner. Sure there is more, but once again something I wouldn't know much about.

Now I'm sure you the reader, is saying,"Somes like someones been burned." or something similiar. You are thinking that I'm against valentines day because I'm normally single on that day of the year. YOU ARE WRONG!

This babygirl is throwing a Temptation Sat. Valentines Party at Club Tantric and invited the AdultFriendFinder Group she belongs to. Why cos somewhere deep down inside I believe in the original theme of the day. I just don't believe in all the commercialization of it.

Please post your comments below. They will be addressed as soon as humanly possible. This writer thanks you for reading this latest rant.
Peace Out.

timberwolf6972 45M

2/6/2006 11:45 pm

I hope your party goes well. {=}

Tejinashi 46M

2/7/2006 1:32 am

Valentines makes no sense to me for the same reason as christmas.

Can anyone tell me why the world needs stores and calenders to remind us to tell the people that we find important in the world that we care about them ?

I think it is a sad time when the only time of year that a sgnificant other gets special attention is because Hallmark says you should.

Please, it's pathetic. If you love the sentiment so much, then demonstrte it more regularly in your life. Practive acts of kindness and you'll find that they come back to you through Karma. That, of I've seen the movie "pay it forward" far too many times.

See you at the party, and before Bbbibabygirl.


NewJackSwing 44M

2/7/2006 3:43 pm

BabyGirl: I am the same with you. I could do without the less commercial aspects of Valentine's Day. I was also under the impression that EVERY DAY is Valentine's Day and not just one day out of the year to tell your other that you love them.

Mind you though if I were to have a girlfriend and she bought me something special for that day I would very graciously accept it because it was from the heart. But in turn though I feel like I should exchange the favour. In the end though there would be love attached to it.

BbbiBabyGirl 47F

2/8/2006 12:58 am

Not quiet the point I was trying to make Jay....I wouldn't turn down a gift either, but I would perfer a gift from the heart than from the store. Like I said write me a love song or poem.....if ur not good at that then use a song someone else did that expresses ur feelings....f**K just write me a love letter....its the simple things that mean the most.......but on the other side of the coin I have been known to buy gifts that will last and have meaning behind them...somewhere

NewJackSwing 44M

2/8/2006 3:33 am

Ah! Sorry I missed your point entirely hun! I just found myself agreeing with you entirely but I had to step back and reassess my feelings on the issue. You see, my ex GF always bought me something for Valentine's Day every year that we were together even though I expressed the same sentiments as you did to her. She said to me that she understood but did what she did because she loved me and it was just something from the heart. I felt so lousy that she did such a thing and I gave nothing so I did what I could to find that special something for her. When I did find it, it was from the heart but a little late. However though the upside was that when she did recive it she loved what I sent her.

Just knowing that she loved what I gave her was probablly the greatest feeling any one person could have.

Simplicity, it's very true with you and I believe it. I remember that one lesson that you imparted on me that day at the mall , the lesson of something having meaning and from the heart, the braclet that you gave me, the four lettered band that has helped me believe in myself more than ever has changed me for the better. Every time I look at it before a game or if I am doing something makes me believe that much more.

Definately the best gift I have recieved in awhile.

Thank you for it and your wonderful lesson .

BbbiBabyGirl 47F

2/8/2006 11:10 am

Well your welcome. I hate to say this but when u buy something late out of guilt, the whole meaning is gone....why cos you did it out of really mean something you need to do it on your own and because you wanted to before hand, not after you feel guilty.

NewJackSwing 44M

2/8/2006 8:46 pm

Oh trust me it was 100% guilt that's for sure. I agree with you fully! While I did feel happy she liked it there was guilt attached because of the reasons you had mentioned. I will say without a doubt that was one of the most valuable lessons I had learned when it comes to relationships .. do something because you want to and not just because.

Amen on that one!

Tejinashi 46M

2/8/2006 11:55 pm

Doing something because you want to is good, but sometimes a trap.

Make sure you aren't tricking yourself into thinking it's your choice when you're really doing it to make the other person happy.

The best example of that behaviour is when people change in a relationship. They honestly believe it is something they want to do, but in truth it is for the other person.

Warning: the comment below could be considered extremely cynical, and should be avoided by anyone how is happy-go-lucky. Also, in general, by that satandard, I should probably be avoided by the same people - for both their sanity, and mine.

Does anyone then ever truly do anything for anyone else ? If you get your s.o. a gift, isn't it on some level to get some attention and affection in return ? Isn't it about making yourself feel happy through them ?

Just food for thought.


BbbiBabyGirl 47F

2/9/2006 2:37 am

True very cynical...some might work that way, but I don't believe everyone is like that. For ex. When I do something or give something to some one it is to let them know they are cared and thought about. A little something to make their day special. I don't need the attention or affection in return. I'm not against it either. Nothing better than knowing you are special to someone, and by putting a smile on their face.

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