Defining Sex... (and numbers)  

BBW_wants_some 39F
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4/14/2006 7:45 am
Defining Sex... (and numbers)

Ya know, I've thought a lot about this over the past few years...

When I'm with a woman, the things I do would be considered foreplay with a guy... If I give oral to a guy or masturbate him, that's not really considered having sex with him. But if I do that with a woman that's considered sex.

So if I only do those things with a man, why is it not considered sex?

Am I being complicated?

I guess the reason this has been on my mind is because some people have asked me how many people I've been with. I've had intercourse with 7 guys, had oral only with one guy and had a threesome with another guy, but he never penetrated me, just the other woman who participated. So does that mean I've had sex with 9 guys? 8 guys?

Also, do I count the threesome with two guys that I barely remember at a drunk party? I dont think anyone got off. I honestly think I passed out during it at one point. I'm pretty sure they both entered (with protection of course). But that's about all I remember. It certainly wasnt worth it, but I have a crazy story to tell people about how I lost my virginity lol.

And with women... I've had several threesomes with only women (and one with FMF) My last live in relationship was with a woman and we had a lot of threesomes. Most of those threesomes, I found out later that the partner was actually wanting to see those people exclusively and leave me out. Great fun. Anyways, What we did in those encounters mainly involved fingering/masturbation/etc. I rarely did oral, frankly because I think I suck at it. I've only used a strap on or dildo with 2 women. So does that mean I've only had sex with two women? Or do I count all 8 of them?

I guess if you go by the standards of society, I've had sex with 7 guys and 8 girls.

Does any of this make any sense? I think I'm thinking too much again lol.

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