Why Have We Given Up? Just An Observation.  

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7/21/2006 10:27 am

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Why Have We Given Up? Just An Observation.

Trust me I know what I am about to say may not really have a place here however, it is my blog and it is what is on my mind this morning.
I wonder why we as black women seemingly have given up. We long to have a decent relationship and family life. However, somewhere along the way we have allowed men to have their cake and eat it too. We have settled for the scraps that they give us. The little bit of attention, sex, money, babies, abuse, drugs or whatever else we feel will bind that man to us.

Women's self-esteem it seems is at an all time low. We love our black men and yet they don't want to commit to us. They will use us in a heart beat and take the love and tenderness we feel for them for granted. I know it is hard to be accepted in society especially when the propagandize the few amongst our race who have committed crimes as something that all of our men do. If you are not a thug, hip-hop artist, drug-dealer, pimp, a gay/down-low brother, or a dead beat dad then there is something wrong with you being educated, Godly, hardworking, loving, fatherly and dependable. It hurts when successful black men view black women as the enemy or less than.

I watch the young ladies around me in my city and I just want to cry endless tears. They long for someone to love them so badly that they allow themselves to be beaten by young boys. They initiate their sexual identities with gang initiations by allowing the most boys to have them or they have to do the most women in the group to be accepted. Young ladies don't dress or act like young fem women any more. Half the time now you cannot distinguish them from the young thuggish-looking boys in the neighborhood anymore.

You have eighth graders doing rainbow parties, that is where each girl puts on a different shade of lipstick and they see who can deep throat the fartherest leaving a rainbow along the young boy and sometimes grown man's dick.

We as adults make our choices and sometimes they may stem from some of these same scenarios or worse. However, it is at this point that we make the conscious choice to freely have sex with the number of partners male/female or both if we choose. Even still have even we given up on love and a true lasting relationship that is monogimous, passionate and long-lasting or is it like most things today simply a pipe dream that some of us get it and some of us never will?

rm_KarmoHunny 56F
888 posts
7/31/2006 10:39 pm

I've noticed the same things. Black women settling for whatever was available to us. I've also noticed educated Black men choosing women of other races to marry and have an ideal life. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against interracial dating. It just would be nice to see a successful brotha share his life with a sista. But they say we are demanding and difficult. I think they are blaming Black women as an excuse to date other races. Why make excuses? Just date who they want to date and stop blaming us.

I've never heard of rainbow parties (shows you how far removed I am from the younger generation). That and the gang initiation thing is just horrible! Our young people are lost. Not to mention the down-low brothas. No wonder there's a rise in AIDS in our communities. This whole situation is very sad. I don't know what can be down to change things but, something needs to be done. Sad! Sad! Sad!


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