A quick update...  

ArealUnicorn 45F
740 posts
4/26/2006 2:33 am

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A quick update...

here is a quick update on my situation...the police stalled for a while but they seem to be doing something now...why now...well let me tell you...

A strange man was sent to my house, it was a sunday, my son was being dropped off by one of my rather large brothers, thank god...this car drives in and Im on my deck looking like crap in my sweats, I had been cleaning all day...well he gets out of the car and looks up at me (I live on the second floor) and says...hi we were chatting and you told me to come over...well needless to say I knew what was up....my brother escorted him from the yard but not before I got his name and the name of the person who sent him (nickname anyway) well my friends would know who that was...

I was reported to social services for prositution...funny eh...but that didn't take long to clear up since I don't entertain at my home especially if my son is home...

I was reported to the tax folks and had to prove my son lives with me so I can continue to get CTC and HST...

So this has all happened in the last month...makes you wonder why they persist...I mean come on if they are happy right...

Well after all the happened the town police finally got a fire lit under their butts and got the RCMP involved and a search warrant was executed at his work and his work computer was seized, as well as their home computer. Yes actually search warrants not voluntary giving up of these items...so anyone that knows anything about computers knows what that means...all the profiles created, pics kept, emails sent, chats etc will be found...and yes I voluntarily gave up my computer to them so to ensure the link could be made, without search warrants for places that serve for email etc...

So with any luck before summer actually starts my life will be mine again, totally...

So yes life is getting much much better, I am having fun again on this site, chat has been great, I've missed all the peeps...magazine well it's so screwy it's hard to go there at the moment...

so people I guess that's where everything is now, which is all good. And yes I have done this very publicly....why, I wasn't going to...because the things that are being done to me are wrong and I am not at fault, I did nothing but join this site, and refuse to be "the other woman", refused to let someone control me. That's what I did...nothing more...so I refuse to be a victim (any longer) and I refuse to lay down and take it, although that's what I've been told to do....

I have my life, my son, my work (which is very busy) and my family, I have my friends and others and that is what makes this all worth it...

So to all those who thought I was blowing smoke up their ass and causing drama or thought I was being obsessive and you know who you are...it's in print...think again....

papyrina 52F
21133 posts
4/26/2006 3:28 am

sorry to hear you have all these problems but so pleased its going to be sorted once and for all hugs hun

I'm a

i'm here to stay

bardicman 51M

4/26/2006 5:41 am

If you need a place to hide out for awhile I know a little hidey hole somewhere in Arkansas.....

I am not dead yet

fantasylover_05 63M

4/26/2006 5:44 am



I am glad you are standing up for yourself!!

This is just unbelievable!

It sounds like you are on the right track to getting it all resolved though... best of luck in clsoing this nigfhtmare out once and for all!!

mickdevil 52M/53F
3496 posts
4/26/2006 7:29 am

well im glad your taking the bull by the horns and giving him a good swift kick lol sorry.
sometimes you have to do things public to get things done no matter how hard it is to deal with at the time!
you have to protect your family #1 rule good for you.

nice to see you back and not taking any crap!


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Ginnung 38M

4/26/2006 7:42 am

I should think that regardless of the paperwork, this should put an end to it. The moment the police went into his workplace with a warrant, harassing you ceased to be a painless endeavour. With the opinions of his co-workers changed, his personal privacy having been invaded forcibly by the police, and the inconvenience of having his personal computer confiscated will make reconsider how much he's really willing to pay to ruin your life.

You've done everything correctly from what you've said here, so the impending charges and restraining order will simply be a little added insurance.

ArealUnicorn 45F

4/26/2006 8:07 am

thanks papyrina...it is too bad that these issues exist in today's society...but I am happy with the turn of events...it just goes to prove that once again Karma is real and that the innocent will overcome eventually and the guilty will get what is coming to them...

I just hope that the others who are going through the same or something similar have as much good fortune as I have been having.

Whispersoftly5 53F
15176 posts
4/26/2006 10:33 am

I'm not sure I understand everything that has gone on, but I think from your post I've a good idea and it sounds horrible. I am so happy for and proud of you for fighting back!!! (((HUGS))) I'll keep you in my thoughts.


rm_rdy4u59 64M/60F
38 posts
4/26/2006 8:10 pm


We are glad to hear you are getting some satifaction and that your life is yours again.

rm_tryyouharder 50M
22 posts
4/27/2006 6:53 pm

I hope that things resolve themselves quickly and that the folks causing you the trouble will cease and desist now that the police have been brought it. Some people just need to get a life.

Oh, and is it just me, or did anybody else notice that the negative voting to people who post supportive comments about you has stopped? Have anything to do with a seized computer, hhmmm???

ArealUnicorn 45F

4/28/2006 2:21 am

Bardic my sweetie...hmmm I will be down as soon as I can but not to hide any longer....

ArealUnicorn 45F

4/28/2006 2:22 am

thanks fantasy yes life can throw you a curve ball everyonce in a while...I do hope tho that others that suffer this travesty do what I did and not become and stay a victim...fight back and keep living...

ArealUnicorn 45F

4/28/2006 2:24 am

thanks devil...a good swift kick hmmm I would love to but not in the butt htat's for sure...lol...lixxxxxxxxx

ArealUnicorn 45F

4/28/2006 2:25 am

Ginnug boy I hope so...it seems to have totally stopped now and offensive profiles used to torment me are even gone...nice very nice...yes charges would be good...and if they are smart they will just plead guilty instead of having thier whole life out there...mine already is because of them so for me it doesn't matter...but I do hope they rethink their position and hwo their family's will feel.

ArealUnicorn 45F

4/28/2006 2:26 am

Whisper yes it's a tangled tangled web that have been weaved...but thanks for you thoughts...I really appreciate them...

ArealUnicorn 45F

4/28/2006 2:27 am

thanks rdy yes it's finally totally mine again with no worries of going out and having fun again....just in time for summer...

ArealUnicorn 45F

4/28/2006 2:27 am

tryyou thanks I hope that is the way things go...and yes I did notice that as well....hmmmm intersting eh....

GingerSnap2000 62F
259 posts
5/1/2006 3:37 pm

*** sings....I am woman, hear me roar, in numbers too big to ignore !!

You go girl

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Solitary46 71M
16 posts
5/2/2006 10:27 am


I am so pleased they have finally started actions against these perps, you have suffered far to long. I have been following your saga from the start and to see a legal culmination to your nightmare is a tribute to your strength and courage. Congratulations and enjoy your newfound freedoms.

airbear85 75M

5/14/2006 12:48 pm

Hi Unicorn,

First: HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY, it is obvious that your boy is the center of your life and you are a good mother.

As your ex apparently knows our government is here to serve us. Don't know if it applies; but girlfriend had a similar problem. Her ex had a business on the side that he didn't report. Cost me room and board for a college student majoring in criminal justice for a year---but his senior term paper was on surveillance and documentation of a non reported business. Professor thought it was so good he passed it on to the IRS (assume Canada has a similar "fun organization"). Sometimes it is nice to be a heathen---you get to enjoy vindictive revenge.

Don't know if this would apply. But rule one is take your time, AHs like your ex annoy people all the time so in 6 months or a year there will be lots of more recent people to suspect. And true is good---but sounds true will work. And not just the IRS---does he have to deal with the environmental folk (construction, fertilizer, insecticide...) their rules hardly make any sense at all and they seem to have an even smaller sense of humor than the IRS. And not just the government---have a girlfriend who would slip a worn pair of panties in his jacket pocket, or used condom, where a new girlfriend/wife would find them? Cigarette butts of the wrong brand with wrong color lipstick in his car ash tray? Does he have a favorite place to drink and does he get a little loud and aggressive? Surely somebody has a BIG friend who likes to hurt people. Give him a subscription to a child porn and/or homosexual magazine and have it sent to his workplace....we are all vulnerable...

Actually best is to go with the flow and let things slide....but there are alternatives.


rm_chichandler 62M
24 posts
5/18/2006 7:32 am

glad ur back and standing up for yourself in these matters peeps like him need to be put away. keep up the great writing and i'll chat with u soon .bye and kisses to ya "chic"

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