Bad Luck  

Angel_On_Earth2 45F
15 posts
7/10/2005 8:01 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Bad Luck


Friday my kids came home for a week with me and then they are gone back to their dads for another week with him.

Saturday they were going to his house to seesome of their family that came to visit from Wisconsin.
Before we left to bring the kids there a baby fell from a fourth floor window of our appartment complex. It was horrible.

When we finally got the kids to their dads a house about 3 houses away caught fire and was totally lost. That was terrible also.

They say kids are resilient... but both my kids are in pretty somber moods now. Quiet and a little withdrawn. They are ages 8 and 9 and they are both looking as if they are ready to cry at any given moment.

When we called their aunt to see if she wanted some company... her reply was.. Stay away for awhile. It seems as though you have bad luck following you.

This was NOT what my kids needed to hear. They love her place and are able to forget things and be worried free there.

I almost forgot. My kids were at the fair on Thursday and a ride malfunctioned and 5 kids went to the hospital. The ride got shut down and is being sent for a major look see. A couple of my kids friends were on this ride.

How would you all help your children (or any child that you might have an impact on) get through a couple of horrible things like this that they have witnessed first hand?

rm_smashx 47M

7/10/2005 10:01 pm

You are not bad luck. Things happen, bad and good. you just have to learn to cope with both. Don't let events or people bring you down. I beleve life is about choices, good or bad. But how you deal with the choices. Don't make people feel small when you have good luck, and don't dwell on bad luck, or it wont leave. You're be o.k. just let things work themselfs out, and keep your head up.
gerieb


Angel_On_Earth2 45F

7/11/2005 7:32 pm

Thank you Gerieb. Things have worked out great. Everyone in all unfortunate events are doing good. The baby even came home today after falling the 41 ft. It is doing great. Hurray!!!!


sexypoohbear4u 65M
19 posts
7/15/2005 8:34 am

Angel it is good to hear that everyone is doing fine. What about you?
You see the children being somber probably has absolutely nothing to do with the events outside their lives. It is probably adjusting to the fact that mom and dad do not live under the same roof any longer. Whether there was an ugly situation in your home before the break up I do not know and you did not say and it really does not make any difference there is always an adjustment period for children where children first blame themselves for the breakup. At the same time they are asking themselves what am I going to do now.? Does momma love me? Does my dad love me? Will he come and see me Will mom try to keep me from seeing him? Give it time and all will be fine. The process will pass quicker if your ex-husband and you make a concerted effort to make sure that the children know how much they are loved and that each of you will be involved everyday in their lives in a positive way. Whatever your differences are with your ex when you both put what is in the best interest of your children first, things just begin go smoother for everyone concerned. After all isn't that really what is important

As far as bad luck and seeing all of the other stuff....as long as you have taught the children the basic concept of death, and unfortunate circumstance they will be fine and so will you. Things happen and unfortunately it does not always happen out of our sight. Luck has absolutely nothing to do with it. Don't dwell on the things of the past, look ahead to the future, move forward, be a friend, and be happy.


mjzeigle 46M/43F  
94 posts
7/18/2005 5:26 pm

Angel,

Glad to hear everone is ok. Kids are tough they bounce back and they also forget about things pretty easily. Hopefully they can forget these bad memories and replace them with good ones.


rm_simmo19692 48M
20 posts
7/28/2005 6:04 pm

being a dad of a 4yr old boy i can tell you that even thou my son hasnt seen a fire to wipe out a house there has been things that could effect him like the splitting of myself and his mother it wasnt a bad split but the thought of daddy not being there as often did at firest take its toll,but it is true that kids are very resilient and do bounce back from bad experiences and they normally bounce back stronger.good luck with your kids.
xxx


Angel_On_Earth2 45F

7/29/2005 12:16 pm

I just wanted to thank all who replied. My children are doing great and so am I.The baby is home. The fire no one got urt and everyone from the fair is doing well. I just had a stroke of good luck recently and that has made my kids see that life has it's ups and downs. That we can make things a little easier if we are just aware and yet a little cautious.


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