Bermudian men can't be that bad, can we?  

Allegro69911 43M
43 posts
6/14/2006 10:45 am

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Bermudian men can't be that bad, can we?

I wanted to attract the ladies to the blog, moreso, but since there might be a temptation for people to think that I might be homosexual, not that it matters any, I changed the title from "Where have all the good men gone?"

At any rate... I went to a reception on Saturday and took a platonic friend of mine following which we went to get something to eat, chat and just enjoy the entertainment. I asked her why it was that she had managed to remain unsnared. After all, she has a really tight body, is fine as all of outdoors, and is always so well "presented." Her reply floored me.

Bruhs, have we become so detached from reality, insensitive or otherwise undesireable that our sisters are prepared to go it alone, do without, or, dare I say, turn to each other for companionship? I mean, taking a break to catch one's breath, say, is one thing, but making a conscious effort to not even bother with relationships because of frustrations with an entire species is something completely different, especially coming from someone who, for all intents and purposes, could have any man she wanted. What's up with that, y'all?

Sistahs, help me out here. I wanna understand what your thoughts, and indeed thought processes, are. I like to think that there are still some really good brothers out there who are deserving of good sisters for partners just as you all are deserving of good brothers for partners. But if you're not even putting yourselves on the market . . . then there are no winners.


More time.

rm_PTDagger 41M
8 posts
6/15/2006 4:40 pm

I sometimes wonder if we (both men and women) have too high an expectation for a partner... but I'd also like to hear what women have to say on this.

Allegro69911 43M
130 posts
6/22/2006 1:13 pm

I think you are right, PT, but each of us has some criteria which we would like to see met. Sut is that reason for the sistahs to wash their hands of us altogether? I, for one, don't think so.

In respect of your point, I think the missing piece becomes "compromise." Relationships take work and I think many of us forget that or become so staunch in what we want that the continued fostering of relation ships becomes implausible.

But I have not given up hope on my Bermudian sisters.

Thanks for stopping by PT.

More time,

Allegro69911 43M
130 posts
8/23/2006 6:24 am

I think maybe I have struck a nerve. Never have I seen the women that I love so dearly so speechless. The silence is splitting my ear drums!

Ponder on this, I must.

More time,

rm_Prailine 45F
2 posts
3/11/2008 9:40 pm

Hate to tell you, but yes, it's slim pickens for women and yes, even the great catches creme dela creme of women too. And yes, we'd rather go it alone instead of putting up with a whole bunch of less than, I'm talking poor behavior, disrespectful, compulsive lying and womanizing and just plain not willing to settle anywhere type of man.

I recently met a man from Bermuda, he's an athelete. It did not turn out so well--he's just as bad or worse than the knucklehead bruhs in the states. He was running game, fortunately I caught on rather quickly...

Allegro69911 43M
130 posts
3/12/2008 7:28 am

"Slim pickens" is a good phrase. Sadly I will have to agree with you that it goes both ways. I'm finding that sistah are so scarred that it don't even matter that they know a brother is a good pick. That is most tragic and greatly unfortunate. And what is more tragic is that brothers, too, have been so emotionally traumatized that they have resolved to preserve themselves and have, in their minds, reduced the worth of sisters to not more than a notch on a belt. And he with the most notches wins.

As far as the athelete is concerned, I am ashamed that my local brother didn't represent well. Do know that as in any other jurisdiction, one does not speak for the whole. As a musician, and a somewhat fit amateur athelete, I can tell you that we do little to make a better name for ourselves, and unfortunately most suffer for the few assholes that do run game. (I guess being both is me screwing myself twice!)

There are a few of us out there, however, who are genuine and know how people ought to be treated--for what that matters. Be encouraged. I'm refusing to give up on my beautiful Black Queens.

More time,

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