Why do you give head? Really.  

AdventureBeckons 44M
117 posts
4/3/2006 3:32 pm

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Why do you give head? Really.


I think most people can understand why oral sex is so highly regarded. It's personal, intense, and overwhelmingly pleasurable. If not, you are doing it wrong! [blog Dchoney74] had a hot post about her love of giving head, which I took to be a bit of an advertisement to get BJ-happy men like me to read her blog.

I'm a bit conflicted about the issue of giving and receiving oral. Of course I love both giving and getting, and I daresay my generous talents are always appreciated, but I'm concerned about attitudes of enforced reciprocity. We always hope it will be mutual when we give good head, but really, it is a gift, isn't it? And I'm not talking about general foreplay, but a thorough and complete trip down town.

You are giving someone else pleasure and taking no personal pleasure beyond the joy of seeing your partner in ecstasy. If you are genuinely altruistic then perhaps that is good enough for you, but true altruism is not only rare, but actually ethically unbalanced. Hey, I'm glad you altruists are out there, but I think more than likely you are just lying to get laid.

So then, we do probably expect, or at least hope, that our enthusiastic oral efforts will be repaid by an equally exceptional experience. Perhaps not oral, but something special for our pleasure. But should it be tit for tat? Do you expect the recipient of your tongue lashing to immediately return the favor?

It seems rather foolish to think someone who has just had their mind blown (among other things) is going to be in any condition to deliver as grand an experience in return, so it is probably in our best interest to not demand immediate reciprocation. I don't think keeping score is a good idea in a long term relationship, either.

So what then , you must be asking, do I recommend? Well, accept the fact that what goes around comes around, and just give the gift of great head whenever the mood strikes, with no expectations. Enjoy, as I do, the thrill and accomplishment of making someone's eyes roll up in their head as they come harder than they previously thought possible. Then get on with the nookie!

EroticaXTC 51F

4/3/2006 4:41 pm

I do enjoy the thrill of giving a man the best head he's ever had...I had one partner to tell me that he loved the way I made love to his cock...I don't think there's anything more stimulating to me than witnessing my partner's total ecstacy and abandonment when I make him cum!!!


rm_impish_pixie 55F
6867 posts
4/3/2006 6:43 pm

"You are giving someone else pleasure and taking no personal pleasure.."

And that's where you're wrong. There is a big difference between someone who is "giving head" in the hopes that they will also receive reciprocation, and someone who genuinly loves giving head. For me, it is not a job - it is my worship. It is the knowledge that I am responsible for the intense pleasure my partner is receiving, and in the giving of that pleasure I am given pleasure. My pleasure is increased with every gasp of indrawn breath from your throat, every throb from your cock, every involuntary movement of your hips drawing me closer, and every word of praise falling from your lips until I feel you tense, grow and explode down my throat with a hoarse cry of surrender. This is no lie, this is truth in it purest form and my gift to my lover, and believe it or not, when it is that intense I can also experience an orgasm just knowing that I've "blown" your mind. I don't mind if you need a nap - I know you'll be back once your eyes roll back around.

I make mistakes, I am out of control & at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best. ~Marilyn


AdventureBeckons 44M
145 posts
4/3/2006 7:16 pm

I suppose I should clarify my statement, but I won't amend my intention. You get no notable physical pleasure, it is all mental stimulation. There are no sexual nerve endings in the back of your throat leading you to an orgasm of your own during the course of the act. Your pleasure is in their pleasure, and if that is actually enough for you to come, then you are one lucky lady. And that's fine. I'm glad you feel that way and I selfishly wish there were more women like you!

I'm sure some of you may argue how good it feels on your tongue, blah blah blah. That doesn't fucking count, and you know it.

edit: In fact, I don't have to clarify my statement, you just cut the quote short. Play fair, Pixie!


rm_impish_pixie 55F
6867 posts
4/3/2006 8:43 pm

Awww damn...didn't know I had to play fair, but in the interest of taking that look of displeasure off your face...the whole quote was:

"You are giving someone else pleasure and taking no personal pleasure beyond the joy of seeing your partner in ecstasy."

Which is true. I was not arguing that part...I was more trying to express that the "joy of seeing your partner in ecstasy" can be very euphoric and erotic thereby bringing intense pleasure to the "giver". You are absolutely right - it has nothing to do with how good you feel on my tongue, (see I can be agreeable), but everything to do with the mental stimulation which just goes to prove once again that the brain is the largest sexual organ we possess.

And now I cry "peace". I also ask that you re-read my comment without the irritation of being misquoted to cloud your thought and see it for the honest reply as it was intended. Deal?

I make mistakes, I am out of control & at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best. ~Marilyn


AdventureBeckons replies on 4/3/2006 9:42 pm:
Aw, okay. I surrender. I sowwy!

_Safira 55F
11260 posts
4/3/2006 9:34 pm

AdventureBeckons ~ You are wrong where I am concerned. I am a TRUE empath. I recently let Pixie "feel" what it was like WHILE I was kissing someone else, so she can attest to my ability to feel and then TRANSFER those feelings (actual, physical feelings) to another human being.

I can physically FEEL what my partner feels when I give him head, and oftentimes that IS more than enough because I have HIS glorious pleasure mixed with my own in giving it to him.

It is something very hard to understand unless you experience it first-hand. And may I say not only have I made men's eyes roll back in their heads ... I've actually had them PASS OUT on me from the pleasure. ... Indeed!


Safira

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AdventureBeckons 44M
145 posts
4/3/2006 9:41 pm

I call bullshit! Muahaha, it's my blog so I win!

But whatever gets your rocks off, really. I can only reiterate that you are truly blessed to have that ability and to be so thoroughly pleased by said activity. And by God, so are your partners!


redlipsprincess
(Princess Lips)
53F

4/4/2006 9:44 am

Enjoy, as I do, the thrill and accomplishment of making someone's eyes roll up in their head as they come harder than they previously thought possible.

oh I DO

TTFN


_Safira 55F
11260 posts
4/4/2006 10:28 am

I would certainly hope that they're pleased ... It's a fun activity!

Call bullshit all you want. I said it's very hard to understand unless you experience it first-hand.

This is my blog - Comes With Warning Labels. There are many like it, but this one is mine.

RECOMMENDED READING: A F F The Only Site For Me


AdventureBeckons replies on 4/4/2006 2:23 pm:
I hope that was a proposition because it would be terribly impolite to make such claims with no offer of proof.

rm_impish_pixie 55F
6867 posts
4/5/2006 3:51 pm

Wasn't really looking for YOUR surrender...but the "sowwy" was sweet. Even sweeter would be knowing that you understood what I was trying to say?

I make mistakes, I am out of control & at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best. ~Marilyn


AdventureBeckons 44M
145 posts
4/5/2006 6:30 pm

Well why not? Not good enough to surrender to you? *sniff*

I do understand what YOU are saying. Did you understand me?

And I wasn't upset with you at all in my first reply. The second paragraph was not directed toward you.


_Safira 55F
11260 posts
4/7/2006 12:54 pm

I could give you references if you wish. Just let me know.

This is my blog - Comes With Warning Labels. There are many like it, but this one is mine.

RECOMMENDED READING: A F F The Only Site For Me


rm_impish_pixie 55F
6867 posts
4/9/2006 9:11 pm

"My pleasure is increased with every gasp of indrawn breath from your throat, every throb from your cock, every involuntary movement of your hips drawing me closer, and every word of praise falling from your lips until I feel you tense, grow and explode down my throat with a hoarse cry of surrender.

If this is the "surrender" you were speaking of...then yes...you are definitely good enough...

Yes...I understood you.

I make mistakes, I am out of control & at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best. ~Marilyn


TinyTim20191 71M
3 posts
4/14/2006 6:43 am

As a BiSexual male here, giving head is a pleasure for me both receiving and giving whethere it be by male or female.

When either one gets into it it is the pleasure of giving not necessarily receiving. I agree with impish_pixie in her interpretation.

When I am giving. it isd withthe knowledge that the person I am giving to is enjoying it to the hilt. I enjoy listenning to the gasps and the movements of the hips and the affection I am receiving by there hands rubbing my heador shoulders.

My reward is when the explosion occurs. This is when I know that I have done well and my partner is pleased and has enjoyed the pleasure.

I don't need any immediate reciprication because I may be a little tired myself and just want to lie back and enjoy the fact that my partner is content. This way I am content also.


rm_cockmerollme 46F
1223 posts
4/17/2006 1:29 am

I'm in it for the seamen.

No, really.....

LET'S GO METS!!!


AdventureBeckons 44M
145 posts
7/12/2006 9:41 pm

seamen! you are a goof.


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