Is knowing your own faults enough?  

AdventureBeckons 44M
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2/8/2006 6:59 pm

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Is knowing your own faults enough?

I used to think so. By admitting my short-comings I should be able to deal with them, and hope that friends will accept my weakness as just a part of who I am. But maybe it takes more than that. Maybe I should be trying harder to change...

Here's a paragraph from my profile:

As for my personality, I am generally very laid back, not quick to judgment, and fairly reserved. I'm too smart for my own good, so I like to argue, even when I know it is not in my best interest to do so. Not fight, but simply debate. I was a philosophy major before getting my MBA, so I just have it my blood to be a logical problem solver. Don't worry, you'll get used to it. Just keep reminding me that you are always right and we'll get along famously.

The relevant point is there in the middle. I argue just because I can. I know I shouldn't, and most of the time if it is really important, I am smart enough to resist. What gets me in trouble are the issues that fall somewhere in between, or at least appear so to me.

I latch on to something that interests me and start asking questions. Probing questions. Leading questions. Following Socratic method to lead my quarry to the same conclusion I have drawn. It's just the way I think. Maybe that needs to change.

I am fully aware that this charming quirk of mine can annoy people. Hence the comment in my profile. Unfortunately being aware of it hasn't stopped me from alienating someone new in my life. I'm a dick. It's like I saw a scab and couldn't stop picking at it. Now it's festering and I don't know if it will be given time to heal. I hope so.

What the fuck? Seriously. I am turning in to a drama queen. I make myself sick sometimes.

This whole line of thinking pisses me off a bit. I shouldn't have too second guess myself. Walking on eggshells...

Tomorrow is a new day. Let's make it "Don't-be-a-dick day"

I have not slept much this week. That lack of sleep combined with the lingering effects of my recent breakup is making this situation far more emotional for me than it should be. I can't clear my head. Going to go run and try to wear myself down.

fiery_one06 36F

2/8/2006 9:27 pm

Stop over thinking things and listen to your emotions some more.Take a second before you respond to someone it might just stop you from saying something you shouldnt. I'm a very sarcastic person and I have to stop myself from saying the first thing that comes to mind everytime.
No, you shouldn’t have to second guess yourself or walk on egg shells just be prepared for what the out come of speaking you mind might be.

_Safira 54F
11260 posts
2/10/2006 10:51 am

Take one run ... and call me later.


Okay, did it help? Probably not. It more-than-likely made you think even more because your brain won't shut-off! It's a common tragic flaw of brilliant people.

Sorry ... You'll just have to learn to incorporate it into your daily living. And work on your ripostes.

On a gentler note ... I've been there; done that. It does get better; I promise. (And I've only broken one promise in my entire life.)


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