A naughty night  

1043 posts
8/3/2006 5:43 am

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A naughty night

I have never wanted to have sex with a married or attatched man. Because i think that its not good karma for me to do so.
yeah im all about morals in that department.

I never could understand why men felt that they had to go out and cheat on their partners. And why they didn't go to a sex therapist instead.

Untill a week ago...

I didn't know untill we were practically fucking that he was married, the thought never occured to me to ask. (which i ussualy do)

God the sex was good though.
I felt a little guilty about it after.

He was nice, and polite, i asked him a few questions about the situation and why he felt the need to look for sex outside the marriage.

i cant disclose all of what was said, but lets just say now i have a fair understanding on both sides of the story.

I dont approve of cheating on a partner, but i guess in some situations there is a fair reason for doing so.

Love and lust are two very different strong feelings.

love to hear anyones thoughts on the matter?
do you think i was naughty?

Heartnsoul768 54M  
362 posts
8/3/2006 6:21 am

Amber .... Everyone has their reason for doing what they do. As long as you are happy with what was discussed, then I would say ... NOT NAUGHTY

rm_dosrev 40M
1991 posts
8/3/2006 6:24 am

Yeah it was naughty but oh well, whatcha gonna do?
Shit happens right?

"Enough of this palaver, lets get the show on the road!"
"The best thing about a day like that is that it can't get any worse. It was a bad day AND a Monday. The rest of the week has to be better." - Hotandsteamygirl

rm_bongo930 58M/57F
2 posts
8/3/2006 6:35 am

interesting question. I see many different sides to this. First it is wrong. The married partner shouldn't deceive their partner. But on the other hand, having been married for a long time (20 yrs) you have a tendency to fall into a pattern. And even thou you love your partner like no one else, it all becomes "the pattern", and then when someone else says something or does something that wakes you up from that pattern, it's new and exciting and you feel alive and not just so and so's wife, and there's a seperate identity.... and then here's this thought, I've known people who were very happy in their marriage, estatic, but I knew their partner fooled around occasionally....question is do you tell them and crush their world or do you let them continue in their happiness.... is her partner wrong for making himself happy, fullfilling a need ? Obviously he's treating her well, she's happy and sated. hmmmmm..... do I think you were wrong ? did you affect his marriage ? did you change their relationship ? did you fall in love ? flings are hollow and short lived gratification...is it worth losing everything you have ? Depends on how much it all means to you. to me love and lust are very differnt things.... lust is physical, love is so much more. I think I would be ok if I found out my husband had a fuck occasionally...it would kill me if he fell in love.

photoslayme 51M

8/3/2006 6:40 am

Being 'a cheater' as we get called I guess I can have my say.
Firstly no you are naughty.
Secondly yes there are two sides to the story and we shouldn't judge.
I won't judge you and what you do so don't judge me, that's all I ask.
I am on here because my wife and I just don't connect anymore not the other way around.
Am I wrong? Probably
Is it your problem? No

thedude7790 38M
12 posts
8/3/2006 7:01 am

Naughty naughty naughty,

But thats not per definition a bad thing.

Sex with married men/woman has always a bit of a "no no" tone to me, but like you said in some cases is understandable that married people do so.(whatever the reason might be )

When i was in a relationship (7 years) i thought about it alot, i sure had the opportunity to do so, i never did though. it just didn't feel right because there was nothing wrong with my relationship.

now im single, (hint hint) and i don't really have a problem fucking married women.

R3ef 36M
1 post
8/3/2006 9:08 am

it's more the guy that should feel guilty !
you didn't know it before ... so you shouldn't blame yourself ... and otherwise when i did know, it's still the guy that cheats, evendough you have a little part in it, if it wasn't with you he would find someone else .... so briefly: not naughty

terramoon 53M
3 posts
8/3/2006 9:59 pm

In my subjective opinion; sexual intercourse has nothing to do with love. It is simply a means to either procreate or to release the tension associated with the same. It is reasonable and probably healthy for a married man and/or woman to love their spouse yet exchange a meaningless rendezvous of sexual gratification with a complete stranger. If one desires to have an extramarital affair they're going to act upon it regardless of the social standards embedded in our minds of what "should be" versus "what is". The desire to get naked with another weather it is planned or spontaneous is simply natural. Marriage is an institution designed to prevent the spread of disease and to promote what society deemed appropriate. I don't plan on permitting society to define what I may do sexually. I'll have sex with another man just as quickly as I would with a female. It's just wet and messy sex, that is all it is.

rm_fadewolf 30M
9 posts
8/3/2006 10:01 pm

Amber, if you enjoyed it and it's not an ongoing thing then you shouldn't feel guilty. After all the guy shoulda told you he was married and you shouldn't have to ask but then again better safe then sorry. As long you're okay with it, he's okay with it and (to a much lesser extent) his wife is okay with it (by not knowing) everything is Sunshine.

Remember the "God the sex was good" and forgot about the "I felt a little guilty about it after" and move on. If it still worries you, just remember plenty of unmarried fish in the sea.

And Amber, you're a naughty girl, just the way we like you.

piercingsrfun4u 47M
277 posts
8/4/2006 5:44 am

I am not making judgement on ANYONE here ok...but I have been on the receiving end of an unfaithful spouse and it really is the pits.. to be lied to by spouse and so-called friends that she was sleeping with and then later to hear the lies that she was saying to them about why she was sleeping around was worse... without going on and on about it, she told them a lot of garbage in order to make them think she was the poor done by wife that I wasn't having sex with her anymore etc etc. ... its difficult to have sex with someone that is never around ...like I said I am not judging anyone all things are different for all people... I do know people that are in relationships and they would be better off with someone else but then don't we all know people like that ..all I am saying is that you can't always believe what is said ... some people will say anything to get someone into bed its not always the truth......... well I will get down off my soapbox now ..but once again I am not judgeing ANYONE ......rols

rm_Vuja1000 40M
22 posts
8/8/2006 8:59 am

Everyone has some kind of reason...

house44444 45M

8/9/2006 5:27 pm

life is to short to worry about what peole will think do what makes you happy

doublegreekpen 43M
6 posts
8/12/2006 1:54 am

You're a savior amber nektar; don't feel guilty at all. there are very few women who are sexually compatable with their partners.

happylover1962 69M
15 posts
8/13/2006 10:41 pm

Given how frequent it is for married couples to be unfaithful I dont think you need to worry its his problem not yours.

ineedlovefromyou 55M
27 posts
8/27/2006 6:48 am

amber if his situation is anything like mine you probebly are doing boath a faver. my wife's farther left when she was young so it screwed her up a little as breakups do and then when she was about 14 she was repeatedly by her boyfriend wich closed the book on her for sex for life. We have been to councling and tried many avenues but none change things, i love sex and she hates it.when we have sex it couses her pain me guilt and to manny arguments and problems. I have stayed with her for over 10 years and love her with all my heart, she is my best friend and i wouldnt wish to be without her. But i have reached a point were i would rather have a discrete afair with someone than to keep cousing her the pain and anxieties that giving me sex couses her. so there are manny reasons why men cheat and some just cant keep it in there pance. Are you naughty, NO he is the one cheating not you, HE is the one who should have stayed home not you, You didnt make him go looking he chose to, so dont take it to heart, it was his fault for not telling you to start with


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