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The scary cheaters  

Sebastyne 48F
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6/11/2017 6:18 pm
The scary cheaters


I cannot exactly say that I am innocent in the cheating area, even though I have only once been the cheater (I was young, stupid, my first boyfriend who I was already thinking of leaving, and the other guy was special to me and the situation unexpected) but most often I'm the person married men cheat with (their business to tell me the truth, not my job to figure out if they do or not), and to my knowledge, I've never been cheated on, but that maybe just my naivety or wish to tell myself pretty tales, but.. Anyway.

The first time I witnessed cheating of the kind I'm talking about, I was gutted. You hear these stories about awful wives and a terrible marriage and what not tales of woe, but when I saw this perfect husband of a perfect wife, their beautiful home and their beautiful 6-months old wedding album turn to dust when he, upon a trip to Australia without his wife, when he, without any sign of embarrassment, need to hide it, explain it, or say a word about it disappear with a woman who was obviously deliberately picking him up knowing he's there, and then reappear again the following morning equally unphased... I think my world grumbled a little. He was the perfect guy, the kind you'd bring to your mother who would embrace him as the wonderful stroke of absolute divine luck and how lucky her was..! Their rationale seems to be that "since I give you my name, my seed, and my money, I am so fucking perfect you should be happy to be called my wife and therefore I'll do whatever I like with my dick. I complete your facade, your beautiful perfect life, and you should be satisfied with that." To my luck, I've never really been into perfect men myself, I like the rough around the edges, honest louses, who go deep into their women, love with their hearts and hold no airs about being "perfect" in any way. If they would cheat, they'd say it's their fault, they cannot stay loyal, they're no good, and that they cannot be tied down, but these picture perfect men... They don't see anything wrong with it...

And I figure, neither do their wives.

Now, having seen a few more marriages between people of my own age, the more perfect the couple the more certain you can be that someone is cheating. The better people seem to be at putting on the perfect face, the perfect front, the better they are at covering up their extramarital affairs.

And they are not the slightest bit remorseful of it, either.

They justify it as "monogamy is not a feasible goal," but instead of adopting an openly polyamorous or polygamous lifestyle, or agree to an open marriage like the louses I like, they go about their cheating behind their wives' or husbands' back as if it was a no biggy.

I am a polyandrist who FULLY believes in monogamy, true love, and ever-lasting love. I know I am PERFECTLY capable of monogamy when I decide to be, provided I am with the right man. I do not value the permanence of the relationship as much as the scary cheaters do, who simply go on with their marriage despite the fact they no longer feel the other is enough to fill their needs, or despite the fact they never thought they would or should.

I know men who have been perfectly trusting of their wives fidelity, only to find that she sleeps around without blinking, essentially thinking her other relationships are no business of her husband's, making it possible for them to even do it. I've known wives of the same kind. And I've known men who are completely turned on by the idea of polyandry and who are still hurt to the core by a cheating wife because honesty is more important in a relationship than monogamy is. MUCH, MUCH more important.

It doesn't matter if you don't think monogamy is a realistic goal if you HONESTLY think that is the case, why not say it out loud you spineless twat? I am a polyandrist, as I said, and I STILL feel monogamy is absolutely a realistic goal, not a goal I want to achieve anymore, but still an absolutely realistic wish to hold for those who want it.

Another thing that boggles my mind... How can people enjoy unemotional, meaningless sex? I bet my sweet ass I love a man I haven't even met before more than some women love their husbands. And how do people explain cheating by saying "it didn't mean anything" like that should make it better! If it didn't mean anything, why do it in the first place and hurt the person who, presumably, actually means something to you? That's absolutely ludicrous. "I didn't really want to do it, but I did it anyway because, you know, whatever?" What the actual fuck, people?!

I'm a polyandrist because men matter to me. Sex matters to me. I am absolutely not a cold-hearted bitch who wants to take advantage of men or who doesn't want to be tied down by a man or any of that nonsense. And as such, I have no idea what people even get out of the unemotional meaningless sex they practice. I mean I've had some before. It is MEANINGLESS. It is stuff I'd NEVER HAVE if I could have something better if there was someone who actually matters, and who I feel something for. Meaningless sex is like... Eating rice cakes. No flavor, no calories, no pleasure. Why the fuck would you want to eat rice cakes when you have calorie-free mud cake at home? Unless you married rice cake and figure because your rice cake has some lettuce on it, it "means something".

Fuck you.

Sebastyne 48F

7/1/2017 12:30 am

Thank you Doe Ra Me.


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