Take The Plunge!  

4biddenlove4us 50F
262 posts
7/19/2006 8:22 pm

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Take The Plunge!

I got this from a very close person in my life and felt the need to share it with everyone who reads my blogs!!


Too many people put off something that brings them joy just because they haven't thought about it, don't have it on their schedule, didn't know it was coming or are too rigid to depart from their routine.
I got to thinking one day about all those women on the Titanic who passed up dessert at dinner that fateful night in an effort to cut back. From then on, I've tried to be a little more flexible.
How many women out there will eat at home because their husband didn't suggest going out to dinner until after something had been thawed? Does the word "refrigeration" mean nothing to you?
How often have your kids dropped in to talk and sat in silence while you watched 'Jeopardy' on television?
I cannot count the times I called my sister and said, "How about going to lunch in a half hour?" She would gas up and stammer, "I can't. I have clothes on the line. My hair is dirty. I wish I had known yesterday, I had a late breakfast, It looks like rain." And my personal favorite: "It's Monday." She died a few years ago. We never did have lunch together.
Because Americans cram so much into their lives, we tend to schedule our headaches.. We live on a sparse diet of promises we make to ourselves when all the conditions are perfect!
We'll go back and visit the grandparents when we get Stevie toilet-trained. We'll entertain when we replace the living-room carpet. We'll go on a second honeymoon when we get two more kids out of college.
Life has a way of accelerating as we get older. The days get shorter, and the list of promises to ourselves gets longer. One morning, we awaken, and all we have to show for our lives is a litany of "I'm going to," "I plan on," and "Someday, when things are settled down a bit."
When anyone calls my 'seize the moment' friend, she is open to adventure and available for trips. She keeps an open mind on new ideas. Her enthusiasm for life is contagious. You talk with her for five minutes, and you're ready to trade your bad feet for a pair of Rollerblades and skip an elevator for a bungee cord.
My lips have not touched ice cream in 10 years. I love ice cream. It's just that I might as well apply it directly to my stomach with a spatula and eliminate the digestive process. The other day, I stopped the car and bought a triple-decker. If my car had hit an iceberg on the way home, I would have died happy.
Now.go on and have a nice day. Do something you WANT to......not something on your SHOULD DO list. If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say? And why are you waiting?

Make sure you read this to the end; you will understand why I sent this to you.

Have you ever watched kids playing on a merry go round or listened to the rain lapping on the ground? Ever followed a butterfly's erratic flight or gazed at the sun into the fading night? Do you run through each day on the fly? When you ask "How are you?" Do you hear the reply?

When the day is done, do you lie in your bed with the next hundred chores running through your head? Ever told your child, "We'll do it tomorrow." And in your haste, not see his sorrow? Ever lost touch? Let a good friendship die? Just call to say "Hi"?

When you worry and hurry through your day, it is like an unopened gift....Thrown away... Life is not a race. Take it slower. Hear the music before the song is over.

To those who have read this ... I LOVE you & cherish our friendship.

"Life may not be the party we hoped for.. but while we are here we might as well dance!"

rm_Benkai7 56M
2358 posts
7/20/2006 8:19 am

Dear "4biddenlove4us".

A lot of these chances people let pass by ... you may believe me ... I got often trouble for doing the other way ... because some of my partner compared it with her own behavior ...


IsThisBetter4u 107M

7/20/2006 11:31 am

Dammit!...you made me cry. Your sister knew that you loved her. I doubt anyone that knows you questions that. I don't.

Have you ever watched kids playing on a merry go round...
I usually join them...and freak the other parents out...lol...I love merry go rounds.

...or listened to the rain lapping on the ground?...
For hours...on my balcony with a glass of wine and fruit...I wish you were here.

Ever followed a butterfly's erratic flight...
It looks more like a dance to me. Would you dance with me and the butterflies?

...or gazed at the sun into the fading night?...
All the time...where were you?

Do you run through each day on the fly?
No...I irritate the hell out of most people I know because my face is buried in the roses half the time. They'll get over it. And I get to smell the roses. I like roses.

When you ask "How are you?" Do you hear the reply?
I do...How are you, angel?

I need to call my mom...

4biddenlove4us 50F

7/20/2006 8:56 pm

{=}{=}{=} I'm sorry IsThisBetter4u, I didn't mean to make you cry. I sit here with a heavy heart thinking about a few people I see as treasures in my life that are out helping with dangers to protect us yet nobody cares or at least most don't about why they do what they do. I will say this " to see my favourite bloggers all together here on this post, makes me happy and tells me that you care and have hearts that I admire and would like to be close to"
and for being who you are!!
Love you {=}

rm_TexasBlue65 53M

7/22/2006 4:54 am

After reading some more of your blog my friend...i am getting a little better insight to some of the way we may connect. First off...I don't read blogs...so..

My oldest sister died 16 years ago...years go by and it amazes me it has been so long. We were always so close groing up and into my early adult years. We both rode horses growing up and that whole lifestyle then later fell into drug use. In 1984 I got clean and she did so in 86. i moved to California in 86 also. She was dignosed with HIV in 1987. Our father had been murdered in 79 and I had no ability to cope....part of my spiral downwards into addiction. As a result I had a total inability then to deal with grief. She came and visited in 88 to California...really my last times with her. I am so glad she got to see my son.

In 1990 around thanksgiving i came back when i got a call from my mother...drove straight through to the hospitaal in longview TX. I was shocked and mortified when i saw her. She came to and spoke to me shortly when I arrived which she hadn't been doing. She was so frail and so sick. She made it through that though. On Xmas day though a month later My she passed...the same day as her oldest daughters b-day.

I never knew how much guilt and blame i harbored toward myself over not moving back to texas when she was sick those years. i went through a program 2 years ago that helped me find redemption from my guilt.If you are interested in checking out there site...www.gopathways.org

Her name was Adele Rose and i loved her deeply. I never share personal info here so take this for what its worth. To pass so young and not see her children,nieces and nephews grow up, to not get to experience her dreams, to not become who she could have been is sad. She will always be my gaurdian though. This is a bit of my heart...so be gentle with it my friend.....

4biddenlove4us replies on 7/22/2006 6:08 pm:
I'm sorry for your loss, truly I am. Gentle I can be, you should know that by now from what you have seen of me in the chatrooms. You will always have a place in my heart and don't worry, I'll cherish it everyday. Thank you for visiting and letting me know what lays behind those barriers you hold so high.
Hope to speak to you soon {=}{=}{=}
take care sweet one!

rm_hotangelstwo 59M/61F
4 posts
7/22/2006 10:24 pm

This article should be read by many, too many people strive to do as much as they can with their schedules and daily routines. Too many of the important things in life are forgotten or eliminated because it may be bad for us. Once you have an experience that takes you closer to death than you choose, makes you realize sights, smells, tastes and even things that you have eliminated for whatever reason are foolish. Live life to the fullest everyday. You never know when those last few moments or words or feelings will truly be your last. Being at this point in my life as opened all kinds of new experiences I want to participate in while I can. Everyone should read and think about this article, it may change the way they see things. Definitely a good idea to open for others in your blog.

4biddenlove4us replies on 7/23/2006 12:08 am:
THank you very much for your kind words. You could always link it to your msgs to others then they can read it too if they haven already

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