Should I be glad?  

49AK 56M
1074 posts
3/15/2006 8:40 pm
Should I be glad?

I spend a fair amount of time in the Alaska chatroom, but for all the time I spend, I don't really have all that much to say. People call me a lurker, but in my mind, lurking implies that you're actually engaged and reading what is happening... Often times I disappear to read the paper online, or work, or any of a dozen activities, and just leave the chatroom window open.

I pipe up to say hello to someone I want to chat with, or if someone new shows up that has caught my interest. But mostly, I am quiet, and often not even there.

So last night, I was in the chatroom and I saw someone that I hadn't talked to in a while. We went to dinner once, and I thought it was pleasant enough... Nothing interesting happened, but I did have a good time, and I thought she had, too. Anyway, I started chatting with her, and she sounded like she really wasn't interested in seeing me again, and she said it was because I hadn't told her that I had a girlfriend (just for the record, my profile is pretty clear on this, and I have no reason to hide it, and I am sure I talked about her at dinner). Before I could say anything, a female acquaintance in the chatroom chimed in and said "49 has lots of women..."

I later asked that woman acquaintance why she said that, and she said that she "knew" I didn't want to be involved with this other woman (I think the phrase was 'a woman like that'). Now it hardly matters, since she made herself clear... and it had been months since I had talked with her at all... But... at least in my acquaintance's mind, she was coming to my rescue.

I wonder if that's good?

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