Forgiveness - Possible or Not???  

2daycowboywanted 46F
866 posts
7/10/2006 8:31 am

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7/18/2006 7:59 am

Forgiveness - Possible or Not???

Okay - we all have a past - some worse than others. If we are truly sorry for the things that we have done the normal thing to do is as for forgiveness. But when is forgiveness not possible? Where is it that you draw the line and say - no more?? I realize we are all different and we all have our boundaries, so no answer is going to be alike.

Here's the problem: Two guys both great in their own way. One have been in touch with for about 14 years. Great guy, life of the party, well rounded but after years and years of drinking and being yelled at, screamed at and smacked around from time to time - life takes a toll and things go down hill.

The other guy, have known for about 9 years. Well rounded, likeable flirt, great person. Trust worthy and likes you for you. Knows all about you and knows what you like and dont like before even saying anything about it. Drinks, but not excessivly and likes to have a good time. Makes you laugh when no one else can.

The guy that you have been seeing for 14 years finds out that you are seeing the other guy. Takes a toll on him. He gets so mad that he attacks the other guy, leaving him bloody and broken bones. First guy goes to jail, but second guy drops charges because of 1st guys friends threats. First guy cant seem to just drop the fact that people make mistakes and second guy cant understand why you arent talking to him anymore.

Have you made the final mistake in cheating or are things forgiveable and workable? Should you just face the fact that you screwed up horribly and move on or should you live with the fact that you made a horrible mistake and have it brought up daily what a wicked person you were for cheating??

So bottom line - is all forgiveable or not? Is there really such a thing as forgiveness or do we all just hope that there is.

Until later XOXO

Pst...To all who view - girlfriend screwed her life up and now wants advise on what to do.

Roper - photos on the way - what about you?? Looking forward to showing that butt with chaps!!

Bullman - Thanks!!! Gonna have to move closer to Texas!

roper_6969 56M

7/10/2006 12:03 pm

Okay honey, that gave me a headache.


Seducing_Phantom 47M

7/13/2006 10:35 am

It is all about trust. When one person cheats on the other trust becomes compromised and restoring that trust is no easy task. “Denying” as Bullman suggests is a waste of time for we humans have an inherent ability to detect and identify those who cheat us. We make decisions and we live with the consequences.



rm_Benkai7 56M
2358 posts
7/17/2006 11:18 am

Hello "2daycowboywanted".

The more important questions seems to be ... what did you learn ... are you able to deal with it ... ??? ...


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