Definitions of Feminism  

2cuteinSantaCruz 47M/39F   
73 posts
7/21/2005 12:30 pm

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9/19/2007 10:38 pm

Definitions of Feminism

In thinking about a lot of the more interesting aspects of being a woman, I've come across some really interesting ideas, usually pertaining to feminism. I've come to the conclusion that the Feminist Movement has done more harm than good, over all.

Yes, it all well and good that we've come as far as we have, but call me a traditionalist, if you will, as I have a slightly old fashioned view of women in society. I love being able to say that I am my own woman, with the right to vote, own property, rule myself and make my own decisions where my life is concerned. But there's more to that than just what I've mentioned. The press of society upon woman to be more than what they are, is amazing. We spent so long under the patriarchal thumb that it's no wonder we've broken out the way we have. But you have to wonder where it stops, and where we just allow ourselves to be women, instead of men . . . with tits.

The way I've seen it, the feminist movement has pushed women into the roles of having to work 10 times harder at be better than men, and it's made it so that it's terrible for men to be gentlemen, anymore. I adore it when a man opens the door for me, or pulls out a seat, or offers me his arm when we walk. To me, that's not something that shows possessive behavior or subservience. All it shows is that the man respects the woman enough to be polite to her, and offer her these niceties. And while it can be taken to an extreme, it's just nice to see men being gentlemen, every now and then, rather than competition.

The crux of my argument is women that feel the need to compete with men on all levels. Job performance, positions, salary, household role, societal . . . and feel the need to strip themselves of the very things that make them women, in order to achieve that which they think that they are due. Yes, we are due respect and acceptance, equal treatment in all things . . . that I will NOT argue. A woman is just as good as a man at many things. True, there are things that men will always be better at, and some things that women will always be better at. It's just the way that we're built. But for goodness' sake, ladies . . . Just because you feel that you have to prove yourself doesn't mean that you can't revel in being a woman.

I'm a tom boy, I'm a lover, I'm a mother, I'm a wife, an actress, a singer, a chef, a chauffeur, a mechanic, a plumber, a nurse, an artist, a carpenter, a nanny . . . but above all, I am a WOMAN, in all senses of the word. I am, by no means, a feminist, as I enjoy being a woman. Most feminists don't seem to enjoy being a woman, as they're too caught up in NOT BEING MEN at all costs. I enjoy my body, I like to dress sexy and show it off, I love it when men appreciate the time I take to make myself look good. And I appreciate other women, as well.

All in all, being a woman is a wonderful thing, but I don't let society dictate what I need to be, or don't need to be. I decide for myself what is best for me, and that's reveling in being exactly what I am, and enjoying every second of it!

lovepet69 53M

7/21/2005 2:12 pm

I agree completly with what you are saying regarding the feminist movement. Yes women need to be treated as equals but not at the cost or lost of chivalry. Women can be what ever they want to be and not be ashame if they are sexy or want to do sexy things. It isn't right to be blame for the explotation of women if a woman want to show off how sexy she feels in side and a man should not have to feel ashame for looking at her.

rm_Bladesong 42F
476 posts
7/21/2005 2:58 pm

I ass well whole heartily agree with you. All I have to say:

I am woman, I am invincible, I am tired!

~It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved!

Be Good to those around you!


rm_mamaneeds_ 61F

7/21/2005 9:01 pm

it seems you have not been exposed to too many woman that have been able to ascend to positions in life where they have attained their goals, lived their lives outside the realm of traditional roles and maintained their feminine mystic.

much of the positive aspects of empowering woman (and anyone, for that matter) have been buried beneath a plethora of inane, meaningless regulations and stipulations on behaviour that focus on petty issues. this has not served any of us well and only serves to increase barriers and animosity instead of advocating tolerate and acceptance of ALL people.

feminism is not simply about being "equal" to men. it is an expectation of being TREATED equally. and those of us who have struggled all of our lives with these issues hope that as we attain positions of parity amoung men that we can bring to society, religion, business and government our own very special viewpoints, gifts, and talents.

this is a process that takes an incredibly long time. and it is the women who are struggling and sacrificing now that will enable us in the long run to be in positions locally, nationally and globally to make the contributions that we would hope could make the world a better place.

the goal would be that everyone could be treated with tolerance, acceptence, equality. because that is the world in which individuals could flourish.

you are your own light. and you have obviously chosen to let it shine. but you might reflect just a little on history and recognize that because of some strong and determined people that have proceeded you, you are able now to pursue the life, the freedom and the choices that you desire with relative acceptence.

but i do always enjoy hearing the opinion of anyone that takes the time to think about such issues and expound on their opinions.

AngelInnocence 42F
1 post
7/22/2005 2:03 pm

Who says its such a bad thing to play damsel in distress sometimes? Or even Damsel in dis dress... granted, I can do most stuff for myself, but, then, why does it feel good when you can get a man to be a gentleman and do it for you? Sometimes I'm a hardass... sometimes I'm a sweetheart... sometimes I want to be competent, sometimes I don't want to be.
I think its all about options... that we as women have the OPTION to be whatever we choose... whether it be mother, sister, friend, lover, executive, manual laborer, silly, serious, sensual, intellectual, etc... we should be allowed to be as many, and as few, of these roles as we so choose. I think that is what we should fight for... the right of self-determination.

rm_priapos93 49M
2 posts
9/27/2005 10:07 pm

"Every man and every woman is a star" -Liber al vel legis

rm_kiltedphx 49M
14 posts
9/19/2007 3:41 pm

"Whenever a woman demands equality, she always gets the short end of the stick"
...Robert A. Heinlein

2cuteinSantaCruz replies on 9/19/2007 10:38 pm:
I hear that! I love being a woman

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