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No Such Thing As Cockblocking?  

MissAnnThrope 63F
7712 posts
4/13/2006 2:00 am

Last Read:
7/17/2007 9:52 pm

No Such Thing As Cockblocking?

There was an interesting topic in chat tonight. One of the women started claiming, there is no such thing as cockblocking, that if someone is actually interested, no amount of persuasion from other people will draw that person's attention away from you. This came from a woman who the rest of the women in the room have told me they consider the queen of the cockblockers. Sometimes it's a good thing, such as the other day when someone tried to talk to me and she told him straight out, I wasn't looking for anything. My mouth did drop open, but instead of telling her off, I asked her what that was about, she said she had to find him a decent woman before the vipers got to him. OK, well, I figured check his profile before saying anything to the contrary about myself. He wasn't my type at all. However, was what she did not cockblocking?

Now, I also have issues with the fact she said, if a person is interested, no one can draw attention away from you. That that's been her experience. The experience of the rest of us however, is a bit different. Then again, we don't inform anyone watching that we're the queen of blow jobs with no reciprocation needed.

It's been my experience, when I'm talking to someone I actually find interesting, who are far and few between, one of the attention queens will start sending said person naked pics of themselves. When you haven't met a person and you're just getting to know each other chatting, what do you think a man is going to do when women start sending naked pics and the person you're talking to isn't? It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure that one out. However, when you have met a person, or you are to the point in getting to know each other that their attention isn't going to wander, they will tell you about the masturbatory material being sent to them. In my last LTR on this site, one woman was furious that he wasn't fawning over her. The next thing he knew, his mailbox was full of her topless pics. He even sent a few of them to me.

But back to my point. When I disagreed with this woman tonight, she told me I was the queen of the whiners. No one else saw me whining and IMed me to tell me so. She informed me that because I'm not in a relationship, I'm finding fault with everyone. That when women do their best to draw attention away from me when I'm talking to someone and it works, that it's me, not them. That obviously I'm not interesting enough or that I am too plain looking. The tit pics they get sent have nothing to do with drawing attention away. When I told this woman, I know I'm no beauty queen, she accused me of projecting. No, I was repeating her words. But when I pointed out that men tell me that once they started talking to me, their mailboxes filled up with naked pics of women who wouldn't give them the time of day before, that's when she compared me to a man that the vast majority of the NYC and Philly rooms have iggied. WTF?

My question for all of you is, do you agree or disagree? Is there such a thing as cockblocking, or is it a myth, made up by those of us too ugly and boring to get laid?


DIVISION77 46M
8325 posts
4/13/2006 2:55 am

Of course there is such a thing as cockblocking.

Women are masters at this, esp when they all want the same guy.

Guys do it as well, but all in all it's a passive-aggressive behaviour regardless of the gender propogating the act.

You've been around long enough to know the games people play, Ann.

DIV

"My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur


MissAnnThrope replies on 4/13/2006 8:52 pm:
Honey, it has nothing to do with actually liking the guy. It has to do with power. I will do it myself. Such as, when I know a woman is a standard member and won't touch married men. She can't see profiles, unless she's had enough profile views. Then it's still limited. I have no qualms about saying to the guy who is hitting on her, "so, (insert name) still married?" That is cockblocking in a very overt form. I let it be known that I'm doing it. I don't do it for power. I do it for other reasons. When guys do it, they're normally after the same piece of meat, er, I mean woman they think they have a chance with. We all make fun of it as we watch that.

Now, that said, I do know the games people play. However, this woman claims there is no such thing as cockblocking. I am playing devil's advocate, not that she will ever read this. She has been mentioned before in my blog, as the woman who went off on me, when I said I wasn't looking for love, a few months ago. I chronicled it in Am I A Slut. She went off on me because she assumes anyone who isn't looking to just get laid is looking for true love.

cuteNEway 48F

4/13/2006 5:30 am

Women do this crap to eachother regardless of whether they want the man or not. It's all about how many men are after HER. How much attention SHE can get. We all know this is the case in the room...for example the women that turn on their cam in the room when they run out of interesting things to say or when their name/brand name dropping and tales of expensive shopping/dining do not interest or have tired the current crowd. This usually happens right away unless of course the other other tacky money flashers are around. Thats when they have to either switch on the cam or if it's on then they say that they're gonna dance/strip/flash or whatever brings every cock in the room to attention.

They're just jealous bitches that could never be as smart as we are and all they have to offer is their cookies. My only hope is that these men will see this eventually and come back for us...but at that point I'll know how stupid they are for falling for it to begin with so we won't want them. You know girl like one of NY's Bravest who shall remain nameless...but he had the good sense to not even come back!


MissAnnThrope replies on 4/13/2006 8:56 pm:
Yep. Normally, it's just for attention whoring. Now, I mostly turn on my cam so I can sit back and not type. I ban anyone who starts trying to be a director. I don't do it for attention. Well, I do turn it on for a certain person in the room, when asked nicely.

But you do know the one of which I speak and the one of which you speak are both trying to depose the room queen, of whom you also speak? It's normally fun to just sit back and watch.

rm_teddybare426 65M
487 posts
4/13/2006 6:24 am

I think it's quite common and I never understood that part of attraction, wanting someone because others do.

Kinda like wanting the latest "tech gadget" mainly because others want it.[you don't need it, just want to have one first]

After the newness wears off, what do you really have?


MissAnnThrope replies on 4/13/2006 9:00 pm:
Yep. There are single men who wear wedding rings, because there are women who derive their power from stealing men away from their wives. It is a power play. I've always found it ridiculous. But it's exactly like having to have what the neighbors just bought. There have been a few guys in the room I've chatted to outside the room, who are hung up on one of the women who love to do this. I tell them, if they want to get her attention, flirt with me in the room. Works like a charm, every single time. I actually joke about it, too. But when I do, this woman above thinks I'm whining. Heh.

rm_CauseISaidSo 55F
182 posts
4/13/2006 10:21 am

"Deep throat my P.O.V., bitch, you know you want it!!"

You know, people can deny it as hard as they want to, they can shove their opinion as fact in your face all they want to, (and keep your mouth shut lest they try to cram it down your throat as well) but I think most of us (including myself) have in fact at some point seen the phenomenon known as cock(or cunt)blocking in action. Takes quite a high level of insecurity to engage in such a thing and nerves of steel and a strong selfesteem to resist it and not let it get to you.

People are what they are, it's peculiar to human nature. Cockblocking is just another variation of schadenfreude, you know.."if he's not interested in me, let me ensure that he's not interested in you either! Or..I'll MAKE him interested in me." I have had a guy write to me about my George Clooney crush, (not that that will ever materialize into anything) telling me that he was gay because they couldn't stand that one more woman found him attractive or sexy.

Just shrug it off, sister, and know that guys do in fact recognize insecurities for what they are and it (desperation, which is basically what cockblocking amounts to) turns them off in most cases.
They aren't as dumb as some women would have you believe, lol.


MissAnnThrope replies on 4/13/2006 9:13 pm:
OMG, I love you. That opening line is so perfect. I never thought of cockblocking as a form of schadenfreude, but you're so right there!

You know I shrug it off when I'm cockblocked. But you saw at least some of the discussion last night and you know she got personal and made a few comments to let me know exactly what she thinks of me. I know it's her insecurity and all of that. However, it wasn't appreciated.

TheLilFondler 40F
2571 posts
4/13/2006 2:15 pm

Yes i think there is... and it is really sad!!!! i often refer to it as the "LOOK AT ME" syndrome... they are afraid they dont have the attention of the total male population in the room... it is really sad really... and Philly Tri-State is full of females like that... i dont know NYC room never been there

i lost my virginity years ago.....
but i still have the box.....


MissAnnThrope replies on 4/13/2006 9:21 pm:
Lil, I know what you mean, I have seen that in action in the Philly room and the people who also put a stop to it when things get out of hand. However, there is mutual respect in that room, something very lacking in the NYC room in most cases. You know as well as I, there is one woman in the Philly room they will all listen to when she says stop it. But she's genuine and it shines through in everything she does. And I'm not just saying that because I'm afraid she'll read this. She never hits the blogs anymore.

WantMoreSex45 67F

4/13/2006 4:39 pm

Missann, since I was in the room at the time, I thought it appropriate that I respond. Not knowing the history, I can only comment on what I saw. Yes, what she said was hurtful. I cringed when I read it and thought, "Was that really necessary?" No, technically, she didn't call you unattractive. She said cockblocking can't happen unless the guy finds one of the women more attractive than the other. Yeah, it was a backhanded way of saying that guys thought you were unattractive. Having said that, while she could have expressed it in a less hurtful way, I think she had a point. It's just a fact of life that the 20-something Barbie dolls are going to get more play than you or I. Yes, 20-something Barbie will most likely succeed in grabbing the fish I'm reeling in by throwing her tits out as shinier bait. Probably the same can be said if 40-something Barbie Mom did the same thing. You know what? There's nothing we can do about it. In a chatroom, a lot of the women have rules about not getting involved with room regulars. They do it for what I refer to as the feeding frenzy when sharks smell blood -- the equivalent of women watching one of their own walking off with a keeper. That might be the solution. In my case, I'm starting to see that the best way to handle things is to just to keep my mouth shut, and talk to a guy that I'm really interested in, through email.

Bottom line: Cockblocking exists, but it takes willing participants to play.


MissAnnThrope replies on 4/13/2006 10:01 pm:
WantMore, yes, it does take willing participants to play. Then again, how many guys are just horny fucks? It is a true test of is he a guy or a man? 99% are guys. As I am fond of saying, men are rare on this site.

Now, as far as the Barbie dolls, they aren't the cockblockers. It's normally unintelligent women who don't have a lot to say, other than how they can suck a golf ball through a garden hose. The twenty somethings? You know damned well when they start throwing attitude at me, all the men in the room take my side. The Barbie moms? I can only think of one, she is genuine, she is insecure and she's actually a halfway decent person and isn't cockblocking, but needs the attention her cam brings her. Validation that people want to look at her. Now, the women who claim to have rules about not getting involved with the guys from the room? Most are lying.

You know I can't keep my mouth shut when I see flawed logic. I did see you defending me last night along with a few other people, so I had to read when you said she had a point a few times. I thought you were agreeing that I am uninteresting and unattractive.

But there is something we can do about it. We can say, stop cockblocking me, which I have said to a few people, both men and women. A few men I've turned down in the past will do it big time. You know, a lot of them don't even realize they're doing it and do apologize.

rm_DaphneR 65F
8019 posts
4/13/2006 5:02 pm

Yeah, it's alive and well and something women should have grown out of in high school and haven't. I hope you ripped her a new one.

Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.


MissAnnThrope replies on 4/13/2006 10:03 pm:
Thanks Daphne. I did do my best. But it's true. The rooms are very high school at times, especially when it's an area like NYC and we all know each other outside the room. It turns into cliques, just like in high school.

digdug41 56M

4/13/2006 5:37 pm

oh hell yeah I have been blocked in the past by other peeps from the crew I ran with coz the chick was feelin me and wanted to fuck these clowns would get tight and try and throw salt all in the game but it did tn matter still got to play with themn anyways

roaming the cyber streets of blogland


MissAnnThrope replies on 4/13/2006 10:05 pm:
Heh. See, the reasoning is, if you aren't blocked, then it wasn't cockblocking to begin with.

NickRules999 46M
9458 posts
4/13/2006 6:53 pm

I've heard the term, but I never understood what it meant.

I'm glad you're still here.

Come into my realm! You aren't afraid...are you?


MissAnnThrope replies on 4/13/2006 10:05 pm:
Thanks Nick. I am surprised you've never seen it in action in the room you hang out in. I thought it was universal on the site.

cuteNEway 48F

4/13/2006 7:32 pm

Want I gotta say that the 20 something barbie dolls aren't the ones doing the cockblocking hun. In fact there are rarely if ever 20 something women in the room and when they are there they leave fast because they can't keep up with the conversation...it's the grown ass women who at this point of their lives should have more confidence in their ability to attract men. The biggest cock blockers are the ones that claim to be A-happy or B-not looking for anything or C-just there to chat. If they're so happy/not looking/just chattiing, why do they feel the need to have all attention on them or just not on other women??


MissAnnThrope replies on 4/13/2006 10:08 pm:
Cute, this is very true. The biggest offenders are the ones who claim they aren't looking for anyone, but while insecure, have a narcissistic complex and in some cases, they border on delusions of grandeur. They feel they know what's best, so they'll block, because that person wasn't right for you in the first place.

flagg134 43M
1582 posts
4/13/2006 9:13 pm

Well when it is done with the intention of saving the people time I don't consider it cockblocking. As cuteNeway said people will do this to each other just to steal some spotlight. Besides isn't it always the case that we want what is taken if only for the challenge of it. Is that wrong of course but the logic is sound if someone shows interest there must be something there. Is it done maliciously sometimes yeah there are some messed up people out there who get jealous or angry and will try to bring you down. I've dealt with some on here myself that go to great lengths to tell elaborate lies.

From reading your BLOG I know you have alot of intelligence an awesomely twisted sense of humor. What do you expect them to combat that with. Just don't let them get to you its seriously not worth it if the guys go after them for their pics and whatnot they are obviously not what you are looking for.


MissAnnThrope replies on 4/15/2006 4:46 pm:
Normally, it is done maliciously. That is the main trouble with it. Yes, I know if someone is cockblocked effectively, then they're not worth my time at all, as they're dumb enough to fall for all the bullshit.

rm_1hotwahine 70F
21089 posts
4/14/2006 2:39 am

I've never heard this term before (SUCH an educational blog ya got, Ann) but I've certainly experienced something that came to mind as I read this. Also, (and I think you said this as well), it feels power based, not sexual/emotional.

As far as the outcome - and this little saying is way too double entendre for this site but the only one I can think of - the cream rises to the top.

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]


MissAnnThrope replies on 4/15/2006 4:49 pm:
You know, I wouldn't have taken it as a double entendre. Which is odd, considering the amount of time my mind spends in the gutter.

NickRules999 46M
9458 posts
4/14/2006 4:32 pm

Well, I took a hiatus from the chat room, only stopping in for brief moments here and there. I'm not sure about cockblocking. I've never seen women fight over a guy in the room. Though, the guys have no problem mixing it up. That's one of the reasons I took a break. I focused my time on my blog, the Trump Towers site, and a few other things in my life. I came back to the chat room officially this week.

Come into my realm! You aren't afraid...are you?


MissAnnThrope replies on 4/15/2006 5:01 pm:
Nick, women fighting for any given reason is normal in the NYC Room anymore. Personality conflicts, someone got to fuck the prized pig first, etc. But when women cockblock, they normally do it out of site, sending emails and IMs, backstabbing women they are otherwise civil to.

TurnLock 67M
577 posts
4/15/2006 5:48 am

Yes there is cockblocking a term we men know so well. In the chat room it may be hard to see. More men then women and we're all trying to make that connection. I don't see that as cockblocking. When it's an attempt to make the other suitor look bad, then you have to find the motive. I don't want to write a story. You know what you've experience and you know when to expect the next episode. It would be nice if you could just ignore the person doing this to you and continue your conversation.


MissAnnThrope replies on 4/15/2006 5:07 pm:
Yes, it would be nice to just ignore the other person and continue the conversation. However, in most cases, the other person won't let up at all.

MissAnnThrope 63F
11481 posts
4/15/2006 4:44 pm

OK, I think a number of you missed the point here. My question was, does cockblocking exist? Yes, I know from what I've been told since I posted this that the person in question doesn't miss a chance to get people into IMs and tell them how bitter I am and how they should stay away from me, while being mostly civil to my face. She's been telling one of my best friends from the site to stay away from me, she doesn't like her hanging out with me, that my "bitterness" will rub off on her. I've also been told, this woman has become obsessed with me in her dislike. Basically, this is a woman who wouldn't know sarcasm if it was all she was exposed to all her life. This is all beside the point.

I wanted opinions to my question, does cockblocking exist. From what I'm gathering, from those of you who got the point, she is way off the mark. Which is what I wanted to know.


rm_jackbelias75 48M
1 post
7/2/2007 2:05 pm

Yes they exist. Female cockblockers are easy to deal with though. I make it a point to be friendly with female friends and that usually does the trick. Male cockblockers are the real problem.

I have a friend that can destroy a night out for everyone in any given setting. Bars, parties, it doesnt matter, he cant deal with the idea of other men having sex and considers all women on earth to be his exclusive property. The first time I went out with him he sat down at a table and stared at people in the club. I didnt want to sit around so I started introducing myself to women. My friend then came right up behind me and came on real strong to every woman I spoke to. Most of them got really pissed off and stopped talking to both of us. I got tired of this, found a decent looking blond that was real drunk and introduced him to her. By the time they started hitting it off it was last call so I had to scramble. The bouncers started kicking everyone out and I was left to hit on women in the parking lot. I lucked out and met fairly horny woman that wanted to go to a private party. I went and found my friend with the blond and told him we were going to a hot tub party. He asked her if she would go and she accepted. For some reason he got angry and said "Then hurry your little ass up". She got mad and walked away. He is now alone and I have someone. He jumps into her friends car and she jumps into mine. When we get there I discover that he has been spending the ride over hitting on the girlfriend of my dates brother. He has enemies before he gets there and procedes to cockblock every male at the party by running up and immediatly groping women he hasnt even spoken to, even while they are making out with someone else. I went off to the hot tub with my date and we decided that it would be better to go to my place. I have to ride my friend home with my date because everyone at the party is taking turns telling me that I really need to take his ass home before someone hurts him. He spent the entire ride home groping my date, and she had to keep pushing him away untill I got to his house. After dropping him off things went great.

This past Saturday I had a brainless moment and decided to go out with him again. Sure enough he displayed the same behaviors. Instead of introducing himself to women he used me as a probe to find which women were open to being approached. I started hitting on women I didnt want so he would chase after them and maybe hit it off, while I would be free to go after what I wanted. That didnt work too well as he pissed them off, by last call a woman walked up hit on him. I immediatly started talking to the woman I wanted to talk to all night and started doing well. We talked as we were being shoed out and she decided to take me home. We had to walk maybe 50 feet to her cousins car and I thought I was homefree. I looked back and noticed he had screwed it up with the woman he was with and was now groping women going home with other men. Upon getting to the door he ran up, threw himself between us, kissed her, gropped her, and told her she was going to fuck the biggest cock she had ever seen. She pushed him away and he got real angry and dove in at her again. This time she allowed him to remove half of her clothing right there in the parking lot and ended up getting her to go to his place. I went home with my hand and he now feels like a god, I say this because he cant stop talking about how all of the women in the bar want him real bad and how he might have to carry a stick to beat them all off. I have learned that the best way to avoid being blocked by that guy is to avoid any public place he hangs out in. That goes for every male in this whole area, not just me.

Cockblockers do these things because they have massive inferiority complexes, and tend to feel small upon seeing any man anywhere with a woman. On top of that they cant guage when to approach women on their own. Bars are full of them around here so there really is no avoiding them.


redmustang91 64M
9760 posts
7/8/2007 3:04 am

The more I learn about human nature, the better I like dogs and horses... I never go into chat rooms. I don't like chaotic competitive stupidity... I prefer simple stupidity...


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