1playfulgal 40F
7112 posts
6/25/2005 11:02 pm

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Do we ever really tell people that we love what they mean to us?

I know i sure don't express it enough and i do my fair share of pushing people away...

A good friend of mine is moving away and although i know that he knows he means a lot to me it would have been nice if i had told him that more often...

Three weeks and he'll be just hit me tonight at a party we were at...he was telling people about his new job and it felt like i ran into a brick wall...

Its not like he is dying or something but in a way it feels like he is...when my life was an uncontrollable whirlwind of change, he was the one constant...

I will miss him...

K i feel a bit better now...

rm_dracco64 53M
34 posts
6/26/2005 12:23 am

It is never easy dealing with change and having to cope with a loss ... the one positive, you already touched on and that is that he is only moving away ... you will still be able to keep in contact with him, but there will be no overcoming the hurdle of time and distance.

I was hoping to say something meaningful ... but it is apparent that I will not be able to, so I just wish you well and hope that you always have a reason to keep a smile shining.

TDandH1960 57M

6/26/2005 6:58 am

Its never to late to tell him how much he means to you,as a man we arn't as good at reading women as they think, it's very hard to distinguish a womans degree of feelings, whether its friendship, love, or just lust. Even if we do know we like and need to hear it said, in that we are just like you girls, so tell him how you feel,though it sounds like you just really found out yourself how much he really means to you. Take care.

plzingUwhenever 68M

6/26/2005 7:35 am

I know that I had a girl friend that meant much more to me than I ever told her. I loved her very much and certainly did not tell her how much I appreciated her and what she really did to help me as a person and how much I really loved her. Even though it is too late now, I still wish I had said the things to her that you are talking about. Still miss her and love her for the things she did for me. So, don't waste time, they will be gone and you will still be wishing you had told them.

problklover 54M/F

6/26/2005 7:35 am

It is too easy to take someone or to be taken for granted. I have learned to tell someone who I feel about htem. I lost a good frend years ago and ever since then I make it a point to speak up. It may scare a few, but in the end, they are happy that I spoke so freely. At least you can keep in touch and that it not the "final goodbye" Just remember that there are quite a few who can not handle the open feelings, do not let that scare you away.

mnfun952 103M

6/26/2005 12:22 pm

It's a wonderful thing when I hear from friends who appreciate my time, my thoughts, my friendship... appreciate me. I also try to take the time to let them know how I feel. LIfe is far too short to assume that people know how you feel. Spread the word....


NewJackSwing 44M

6/26/2005 1:09 pm

For me, I love to say "hello" and I hate more than anything having to say "good bye". I don't do "good bye" very well because I love having people around me, especially if it's those I love and care for very much.

I am the same as you, I have my best friend, he's been a big part of my life or the past 10yrs .. when I was down .. he was there to pick me up and say "it'll all be fine .. don't worry". I don't get to see him much these days because of his girlfriend and all but if I do need advice he's always there to lend a hand.

Those people are so valuable .. we shoud treasure them always and recognize that!

I hope for you though that everything works out just fine. And I have a good feeling it will!

Stay poitive and smile always!

rm_matt9722005 31M
1 post
6/27/2005 2:49 am

tré sexy

1playfulgal 40F
1828 posts
6/27/2005 9:34 am

dracco64 thankyou for your thoughts...i will always have reasons to keep smiling...but momentary sadness does over power those reasons ever once in a while...

TDandH1960 true enough...i have told him before but i am better at writing my thoughts and feelings down...i get all tongue tied when i try to talk of such things...

1playfulgal 40F
1828 posts
6/27/2005 9:39 am

plzingUwhenever I am sorry that you had to go through such a is horrible having regrets of any nature...but regrets like that tend to skewer the heart...i feel for you...

problklover thank you for sharing your experience...i grew up in a very stoic that we kept our feelings all bottle up inside...i am trying very hard to get past that and feel comfortable expressing myself...

1playfulgal 40F
1828 posts
6/27/2005 9:41 am

mnfun952 i agree...things left unsaid when a life comes to an end can be the biggest regret...

NewJackSwing yes, things will work out...thankyou...

EroticallyRapt 56M
336 posts
6/27/2005 10:43 pm

Hiya, 1playfulgal! You're absolutely right about not letting those we care about how we feel often enough. I think that we all do it. I also understand what you are saying about growing up in a stoic household. I experienced a similar thing when I was growing up. But, I've always been an expressive person when it comes to my feelings and it can put some people off. I've had my ups and downs with it. One thing I've learned, though is to let the ones that you care about, know that you do and why. If you are better at doing it in writing, do it that way.


1playfulgal 40F
1828 posts
6/27/2005 11:36 pm

EroticallyRapt good to see you back...i missed you...i so enjoyed our little comment chats...Thanks for the advice...i think i is such a great thing isn't it...

rm_DDL007 40M

6/29/2005 7:00 am

Im sure you will both keep in touch, and one day who knows what hand fait will deal you. Im sure that he know how you feel and how much he means to you and im sure that he knows he is a very lucky man, and that maybe he feels just as sad about leaving you. You might think that you dont let the ones you know how much they mean to you but from my experiance men keepit lock away and put on a brave front. I know I do. Ive just lost a close friend. She returned yesterday to Spain forever, and I did nothing to stop her. I thought it was what she really wanted. But there is always messenger and spain is a hope skip and a jump over the pond so we will still be friends. Cheer up. If you need a chat you know where I am.

1playfulgal 40F
1828 posts
6/29/2005 8:50 am

DDL007 you are a sweetheart...thanks for your words of encouragment...

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