The Art of Letting Go  

1girlrevolution 48F
314 posts
4/30/2006 11:58 am

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5/1/2006 10:31 pm

The Art of Letting Go

Letting go is one of the hardest things to do. Whether it is a death, a relationship or watching our children grow up and leave the nest . . . we all have to learn to let go. Our first reaction is to cling to every last thread because it feels good, and we’re secure. Don’t leave! What will I do without you? Life won’t be the same! But guess what? Life does go on and things will be better as soon as you let go and move forward with your life.

Letting go shows maturity and acceptance. It allows you to continue living. It opens new doors as one is closing, however, many of us spend too much time looking back at the closed door childishly trying to keep our foot in the way so it won’t close which in turn doesn’t allow us to look forward to new rays of light leading us in new directions.

Learn from letting go. Do not forget the experience, plant the memories, but keep going on life’s journey. Stop coming up with excuses as to why you can’t let go and start living a meaningful life. If you won't let go, be prepared for a part of you to be destroyed. This is an even more difficult lesson to learn.

I’ve spent too much time clinging on to what I believed was good and secure and what I thought made me happy. It’s what I wanted to last forever, or so part of my brain thinks so. Maybe I just felt comfortable and didn’t want to deal with change. With change comes the unknown, which is followed and reinforced with fear. I still have those moments, but I also have this little thing called reality that creeps in. We all know deep inside when it’s time to let go and move on.

The trick is to keep exploring, not bail out of life, and not become stagnant even when we find out that something is not what we thought. Nothing is what we thought. Emptiness is not what we thought. Neither is mindfulness or fear. Compassion – not what we thought.

Love. Courage. These are words that point to what life really is when we let things fall apart and let ourselves be nailed to the present moment . . . and let go.

goodguysneedit2 57M

4/30/2006 4:47 pm

Wow,am I ever glad I stumbled onto your blog, 1girl.

Not only was that beautifully said, but impressively!
I needed your coaching over the last couple of years,but I found it elsewhere...learned the samelessons you have.

Your wisdom is profound,dear...and wisdom doesn't come easy, does it?

But the kewl part about it builds CHARACTER.


eroticcartoonist 38M
50 posts
4/30/2006 9:30 pm

oh you're right. but i'm really fucked up fight now.

1Girl, you know me. you know who I'm longing for. that person i can never have, and I apologize for utilizing you for my outlet for expressing my wantonness for her. but today....

you are right.

it's just a matter of will and persaverance.


i wish you and V. were in the same town as me. I could so use physical ( non-sexual ) comfort from you both right now.

pps: you can see how drunk i am by my willingness to let this post come up on the forums.

1girlrevolution 48F

5/1/2006 12:22 pm

Thanks, G-guy. Those words of experience didn't come without a price. We all go thru it, some of us learn, some don't. And you're right, it does build character!

E - Never say never. In the meantime, be good to yourself. Life doesn't revolve around any one person, remember that. I wish you lived about 5 blocks closer! Vgirl and I would give you a big boobie-hug, but it will have to be virtual for now.


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