Disposable Life  

1girlrevolution 48F
314 posts
4/3/2006 6:37 pm

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4/4/2006 8:34 pm

Disposable Life

My life has consisted of:
• paper plates and plastic utensils
• toss out the cloth napkins
• marriage vows not worth the paper the license is printed on
• disposable diapers and wet wipes to make life easier
• acrylic and gel nails that we think look real and pretty
• fake hair you can buy in the mall (haven't done this yet)
• with a credit/debit card you don’t even need paper money
• Passion.com bots, unrealistic photos and wanna-be’s

Relationships? REALationships? What’s real about it?

Some of us go through men/women like Kleenix and discard them after one use.
What happened to romance? What happened to true desire, passion, intimacy, dedication, honesty and integrity? Did we toss these qualities out with everything else that’s disposable?

Do we know what’s real anymore?

What are we looking for?

1girlrevolution 48F

4/4/2006 11:03 am

I'm afraid too and I'll admit that I'm right there doing all those things I'm complaining about. I need to consciously do something about that.

UrFuckBud 62M
328 posts
4/4/2006 4:14 pm

Let me get you some cheese for that.

You're looking for these things from men on this website? The opening page proclaims loudly that this is worlds largest adult swinger site.

The only ones with integrity are the sluts like me with an open relationship, or the perpetually single hoping for a relationship like this. The rest are cheating on their wives or looking for their next victim. (cynical me)

Romance can happen here. But its usually in a completely different context than what you seem to be looking for. (optimistic me)

What are YOUR values? Why are you honestly here?
Is your profile sprinkled with the customary phrases that most womanizers will ignore or play upon?
How much correspondence before you meet someone? Is 3-6 months of writing leading to a few phone calls too much to invest before a meeting?

If what you say is important to you, then walk the talk.

(end of annoying stuff)
I really am sorry if you haven't had a good experience here.
How long have you been trying? 3 years? 5? It took me 7 years of Internet dating to meet my wife. And we're still here, looking for like minded friends.

Persist. Try rewriting your profile a dozen times.
One good book that was recommended to me "How to Marry the Man of Your Dreams". Yeah, funny title for a guy to read. But the author had some insights on finding you match in the most efficient way possible that might be a better fit. She also had some ideas that I thought were a bit cynical.

Good luck, have fun, play safe.

1girlrevolution 48F

4/4/2006 5:36 pm

You have a lot of really good statements here (UFBud) and I agree with much of what you say. Here's the deal though . . . I'm not looking for a serious relationship, I don't want to be married, I've actually had a fairly good experience on AdultFriendFinder, and I've chosen my life to be pretty disposable. The reason I wrote this was for other people to examine their lives as I have my own. I openly admit that mine has been disposable. This was not a wish list for me.

I find romance in many places (even some on this site) WHEN I want it. I don't actively look but once in a while, it rears it's beautiful little head. Life is what we make of it. I don't expect to find it anywhere but hope that these qualities still exist in people, even deep inside me. Thanks for the book recommendation. I lost my marriage gene years ago and it hasn't grown back yet. I think I should be studied by scientists . . . cute ones.
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