Dating a Fixer-Upper  

1girlrevolution 47F
314 posts
5/25/2006 1:31 pm

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5/26/2006 4:43 pm

Dating a Fixer-Upper

I found this cute little fixer-upper. I’m not sure I’m up for all the work it takes to make things just right for me, but sometimes putting in a little elbow grease can reap good results. Of course this takes time that I really don’t have, so is it worth it? Would it be easier if I just waited for a nice, top-notch, hot-on-the market one that’s in move-in condition?

Many times if you fix things up to your liking, you lose the character of the original. This isn’t always good unless it’s falling apart, and that’s not good either. So what do you do? Do you make something with incredible potential your own or do you search for the right thing and wait, watch, listen . . . hoping it eventually comes along? Hope is nice and can carry a person for a looonnnngggg way but it’s not secure.

But, I think I’ll wait. After all, he's a man, not a brownstone.


Kristofer32 47M

5/25/2006 2:25 pm

"Honey, I love You Just the Way You Are...Now Change" or something to that effect. 1girl, I keep telling you how insightful you are and how I think, maybe this is the operative portion, you are well rounded and know what you want. Why settle for a fixer upper? In light of my situation, and maybe I am too new at the looking for a new adult relationship thing, I have promised myself never to settle for some person I hope will change into what I think she can be. If it is the right person, neither will have to change and ideally you will each evolve together. Together is the operative part of that situation. As far as your fixer upper, you have needs that need to be met and he could probably do for now...my opinion is leave it there...use him for the now. What does it hurt to have a little fun, smell the roses so to say, along the way to finding that guy you don't have/want to change.

Kris...


rm_Ellenback 59F
966 posts
5/26/2006 4:10 pm

If the foundation is solid, but the cosmetic stuff needs fixing, then it's viable...however, mould, rotten septic pipes, and bad air can definitely make you run in the other direction....

Does he have any of those? LOL

What a surprise your last line was, love the way you do that!

(((squishyboobyhugs)))

Elle


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