pulling the plug  

1LovelyBrunette 42F
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3/28/2006 7:10 pm

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4/24/2006 6:28 pm

pulling the plug

I was skimming through my MSN news earlier for anything that would catch my eye, when my eye caught an article on Michael Schiavo and his side of the story on his wife's death and the negative attention and remarks he's gotten because of his decision. Like everything, there's 2 sides to every story, and no matter how much you read about it, you never really know the true story unless you're the actual people involved. He says when he woke up from his sleep at the sound of a thud, to find his wife on the floor, he immediately called 911. His family said he waited, he didnt want her to get the help needed, they were having problems, he probably did something to her, etc... He says their marriage was perfect, they had no problems. The only thing I have to say about all that that is certain, "there's no such thing as a perfect marriage". What this topic brings me to is, how many people would be capable of doing what he did, making that decision, ending your loved ones life? Everyone is always so ready to condemn and crucify without walking a mile in that persons shoes first. I couldnt imagine what I would do. I'd barely be in the right state of mind, if that was a loved one in that bed, to make a decision like that. I would want to hang on to every living thread of that person for as long as I could. Just to be able to touch, and talk, and look at my loved one: my child, my mother, a significant other. But, would that be selfish of me? Thinking about what I need? I need to see that person, I need to be able to touch and hold her/him, to alleviate some of MY suffering. What about that person? Is that how she would want to live her life? What life? Thats no way to live. Isn't it more torture to see the one you love in such state of existence? And the last thing I want to hear is "god gave life, and he's the only one that can take it away." Screw that! That's not life, that's no way to live. I think the wisest decisions one can make are often the hardest. It would tare my heart apart, and I would wish I would die as well, but I think I would have to say my goodbyes, cry till I passed out and wish the earth would swallow me, and then let that person rest in peace.

rm_alotofPlzr4U 107M

3/29/2006 5:33 am

LB... you do indeed bring up such interesting topics, I comend you for that! Shows your deep and introspective side.

I too, can't imagine making that decision, however, I've had that conversation with those closest to me, what to do - when it's time, how things happen when quality of life no longer exists.

This is such a touchy subject, reflecting personal thoughts and feelings from one individual to another...

We can all only hope for a good long life and pass away during a hot steamy love making session at 90 years old... of course, in a perfect world!!!!

WildWon1982 35M

3/29/2006 7:44 am

I fear the void above all other things, and yet, I would ask to be let go, and I would do the same to any who asked me. Yes, it's hard, but every life-changing (or ending as the case may be) is hard. But in the end, it's for the best. The other thing to remember in the Schiavo case was that, Terry was braindead, and blind to boot (discovered in the autopsy). Despite the desparation of her family, there was nothing that could be done to save her, because she was basically dead already.

1LovelyBrunette replies on 3/29/2006 6:53 pm:
Yeah, thats something I read in the article that I didn't know. Apparently she started losing some weight after she got married, which she was very happy about. But they said it seemed she was actually suffering from bulimia, and the lack of oxygen to her brain from all that caused her the collapse. I was reading a health article a while back about eating things that help give oxygen to the brain, like blueberries, to keep the brain from deteriorating. Potassium is another one that is extremely important to the body. I dont think some ppl realize how important, the lack of it can have deadly side effects. I'm planning to add a banana with my breakfast from now on. Hmmm, I should start a health column.

rm_alotofPlzr4U 107M

3/29/2006 5:18 pm

TO lighten this up...just a bit...

What if it was just a Butt "Plug" to pull out???

1LovelyBrunette replies on 3/29/2006 6:45 pm:
LMAO... well, thank you for taking us out of that depressing, and gloomy state of being I put us all in. Well a butt plug is an entirely different matter. Next post... how to pull a butt plug out, LOL

rm_alotofPlzr4U 107M

3/30/2006 4:17 am

LB... I have a banana to add to your diet!!!!

I don't know the calcium content... might be more protein... not so sure!

Have a great day! And I'll keep an eye open for the butt plug blog!

mycin62 55F

4/3/2006 1:33 am

LB, I have been in this situation, with my mother. It was a very hard thing to do, to let her go, but it was the best thing to do, the right thing to do. It's not a decision I would wish on anyone.

My husband have had many conversations about this since then. We are both well aware of each others wishes, should we ever be faced with the decision. We both have living wills. I think it's important for married couples to talk about these things, however unpleasant they may be.


1LovelyBrunette replies on 4/3/2006 6:27 pm:
thank you for sharing Cin. I would definitely want the same thing for me if I were the one in that bed. It is a wise idea to have these things taken care of before and (god forbid)if they ever do happen. Another good idea is the children and who will they be entrusted to if both parents are in some tragic accident. The last thing they would need is a bunch of family members fighting over them at a time when there is so much emotional and psychological turmoil for them to deal with already.

romanticwithin 58M

4/24/2006 1:23 pm

For some of us who have shared the passing of a loved one, we have witnessed a time when there is no "life" left to save, only suffering to relieve. At that point, and it is ordinarily pretty clear to the dying and the friend, the only remaining choice is to end the suffering. At that point, choice and debate have vanished.

1LovelyBrunette replies on 4/24/2006 6:22 pm:
I consider myself very lucky that I've never lost any loved ones that were close to me. Both my parents are still alive and healthy. I do have a family member in my life that is pretty ill though, too many medical problems, constant doctor visits, lots of hospitalizations, surgical procedures, medications, etc...never ending. This person often wishes life would end already and has repeatedly told me so and would've taken it already if it wasnt for the effect it would have on the children involved. Its not an easy thing to have to hear, but at the same time, can you blame them for feeling that way, for wanting to end the suffering and finally have some peace?

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