sexloverocknroll 58M
282 posts
5/14/2006 4:01 pm

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5/21/2006 4:33 am

A comedian once said “Anyone can fuck a skinny chick but it takes a man to make love to a big woman.” Matter of preference, I suppose. Does a skinny woman make a better lover? Not in my experiences. In fact, the opposite, at least, that has been my experiences and those who have made a comment one way or the other to me. Is skinny woman’s vagina tighter or smaller? Not necessarily. My father told us once at the dinner table a saying his father used to say, “Big girl big pussy, little girl all pussy.” So then it must be matter of looks and the outward appearances. Again, a matter of preference.

Hot, good looking, “Twiggy” looking, supermodel type women seem to me to have too many issues and quirks and holier than though attitudes. Again, just my experiences. Who wants to look at bones and saggy skin when having sex? Not much of turn on for me. So why date them? Why such a fuss? Got me.

“Pretty is as pretty does.”

Around 10 years ago, I felt it necessary to tell everyone who was interested about my plight with drug and alcohol addictions. I shared my addictive personality with all who listened, especially in my college psychology courses. Just a part of my healing and growth. Not so today, but I will tell the story if asked. One night, a certain "big" woman from my class followed me out to my car. I say "big'"because she was 6’8” and around 230. She had a very pretty face and was your typical Scandinavian/American woman: blonde hair, fair skin, lots of freckles when she tans, light blue eyes, full figured. Very full! She was just incredibly sexy to me, but the second or forth thing I noticed about her was the huge rock on her left hand. She was always so sweet and kind and happy and a joy to be around. Normally, no one accompanied me to my car or even out of the class room, but she kept up with my rapid pace, talking at me until I stopped in the street at my car door. For a reason I can not remember now, I was in a hurry to get home or somewhere else. I took a deep breath and told myself that maybe she was had something to say.

This lovely lady told me that she had at one time weighed over 480 pounds. She had began to gain weight after high school and sports were over. In-activity, she had supposed. After she got over 250, all of her live time friends stopped calling her, stopped asking her to go out with them, stopped being her friend. They all appeared to her embarrassed to be seen with her. Can any of you imagine that? Imagine how that must feel? I sure can becuase I have been there. I began to see this beautiful soul that stood before me in a whole new light. Inside, she did not feel different and wondered why they were being so cruel and unfair to her. Friends she had and knew for all of her childhood, even before school. All they had shared and been though and then all of a sudden, since had become “fat,“ they did not want her around any more. She kept gaining weight and she lost her job and her family began to ridicule her. She became depressed and dropped out of life, hiding away at home in her room and ate and ate and ate. Not much different than a junkie or drug addict or alcoholic. She got very depressed and became addicted to eating. She got help and lost half of her weight and got married to a guy who treated her with respect and made new friends. The old ones came back, but she just did not respect them anymore after that. I felt so bad for her and put myself in her place. With my drinking and drug addiction, I just stopped. One can not just stop eating. I had a hard time fathoming how I could continuing drinking beer and not be a drunk.

Our society has placed an abnormally high value on looks and being thin. Yes, being over-weight has health issues, but so does binging and purging. “Fat” people are ridiculed and judged and ostracized everyday of their life. Why? No good reason. I gained a whole new respect for people in her situation and re-doubled my efforts to find the good in any person, even when it is very hard to find.

Therefore, you will have to try and understand that I have a hard time appreciating “fat” jokes.

SexAngel615 33F

5/14/2006 4:41 pm

I agree w/ you. I wish everyone would realize that bbw's are The same as skinny women. We have feelings too. Thanxs for sharing.

sexloverocknroll replies on 5/14/2006 6:56 pm:
In my expericnes, BBW are better than skinny women in many ways, epscially sexually.

absolutelynormal 57F
6563 posts
5/14/2006 4:59 pm

You're absolutely right. I work in an ER, I have to weigh the pediatric patients because the meds that I give are based on how much they weigh. I often hear moms saying the most assanine things to their kids. You don't tell a 5 year old that they're getting fat. They will think they're fat every day for the rest of their life because they weigh more than 47 lbs like they did when mom told them they were fat a million years ago.

I'm fat, I don't like being fat but not because I am judged by others but because I judge me so harshly, plus it's uncomfortable especially in the hot southern summers.

Great post. First time I've been here I do believe. Mac

sexloverocknroll replies on 5/14/2006 7:00 pm:
Thanks for stopping by!!!! I have worked with troubled youths. Most issues are due to low self-esteem and making poor choices due to it. As you mentioned, parents have a big part in that. Being over-weight can be a helath issue, but telling a kid they are fat is very damaging.

rm_wetfingeraz 55F
3012 posts
5/14/2006 7:15 pm

Will you marry me? Figures you live in WY. Sigh, I wish more men and just people in general were as enlightened as you.

Thank you for sharing that.

sexloverocknroll replies on 5/14/2006 8:09 pm:
WOW! That is a first for me: a woman's proposal for marriage. Thank you for the offer.

rm_metalmama69 43F
3878 posts
5/15/2006 5:57 am

Thank you!!! Amazing, how society looks down upon bbw as if they are less then human. As a former bbw, I can tell you that it's not easy living in Twiggy's world. Remember the good ol' days when Marilyn Monroe's size 16 was considered beautiful? ~sigh~

sexloverocknroll replies on 5/15/2006 6:15 am:
I liked Rochell (sorry, spelling) Welsh and Barbra Edan back in the day. I ask myself the same question, what happened?

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