I realize that my profile is ridiculously long, but please at least read the next paragraph.

I have friends with benefits, so I'm not looking very hard for more. My life is busy, but there is always room for more if there's chemistry. Physical attraction is very important, naturally. For me that means a lean, fit body. (I'm not talking about a beefy, overly muscular bod. Just toned and lean.) The "look" that appeals to me defies simple description, but I know it when I see it. Intelligence, personality and attitude are next, and sometimes that's obvious just by reading a profile. I have no age limitations, although I have never met a guy my age who has the kind of build that I crave, so ultimately younger guys become my playmates. 420 friendly is my preference. I love the heightened sensations that come with it. Face to face conversations are the way that I like to get to know somebody. Chatting online is so superficial; talk is cheap. If the initial attraction is there, I like to cut to the chase and meet for a drink or coffee and conversation to gauge chemistry. If we're a good match, what's the point in chatting and emailing endlessly when we could be having fun? I'm completely mellow and happy, so drama is unthinkable to me. Please send a picture of your face when you write. Otherwise, how am I to know if I'm interested? I will always respond to emails, (common courtesy seems to go out the window on this site) so don't hesitate to write.

I'm not at all shy when it comes to sex, but there's got to be a connection.

What you see is what you get with me. I don't try to impress anybody and I am turned off by guys who work hard at trying to impress. Please just be yourself. I can see through b.s.

I have several pet peeves about guys who write, but maybe the most annoying is when guys write and tout their sexual prowess and make claims with the assumption that all I've ever had are lousy lovers. That couldn't be less true. I've been "blessed" with many excellent lovers. This isn't a contest, guys. If I like you and am attracted to you, the sex will be hot!

Here's the long(er) version:

I am seeking * fit * lovers who are also friends. The friendship component of "friends with benefits" is essential to me. Something beyond the physical/sexual attraction. Sex for the sake of sex is too shallow for me and easy to find . I want more. I have to like who you are and feel affection for you. I want to have interesting conversation. Trust me - I'm not needy, possessive, clingy or jealous - I've got a very full life of my own and I'm not asking for any commitments beyond a friendship - but there has to be more than just getting naked. NSA? The strings that I want attached are the same that I want attached to any friendship; honesty and respect. In other words, it's possible to have NSA AND a friendship that includes sex. The two concepts are not mutually exclusive in my world.

Please send a photo of your face if you write to me and hope to meet. Looks do matter, of course. Body type matters. (See below - in bold print) But just as important as your physical appearance is what you have to say and how you say it. I'm far from bored, and I'm not lonely, so I reserve the right to be choosy. I have to feel a connection. Your personality makes a huge difference to me, as noted above. What you see is what you get with me. I won't work at trying to impress anybody.

Sex is always better with repeat performances! If we enjoy each other and we're good together, then let's do it again and again. I'm extremely sexual and passionate, but it's never going to happen unless there's a strong mental connection for me that develops after the initial physical attraction. I know what I like and I know it when I see it! CHEMISTRY, ya know? Sex is one of the most delicious celebrations in life and one of the best ways in which I express myself, but it takes the right combination of looks, brains, and personality to ignite that fire in me. I have a very wild side, but I reserve details for guys who become my lovers. I crave the intensity of real intimacy that comes with discovery, friendship and affection..... Oh, and did I mention that I absolutely love to kiss?

I am physically fit (5'7", 130 lbs.) and work at remaining so, as it's part of my gratitude for enjoying good health. However, I'm not a gym person and I'm not hard core about my routines, nor do I deny myself food indulgences when I want them. I stay fit by hiking, walking and biking and always remaining active. It's very important to me that my partners are also fit and conscientious about their health. My body is not exactly model material, and I don't expect yours to be either, but I respect someone who makes an attempt to be healthy and fit. I am not attracted to a man who has a big belly or "extra padding." I've tried to overlook that in the past, and it just doesn't do it for me. I don't care how big your penis is, (...although I gotta say......!!!) or how rich you are, or how tall you are, or how much hair you have, or what you drive, but I do care very much about your body type. I am a complete and utter sucker for a man with a lean belly; all other things considered. Grazing and licking a beautiful male belly turns me on beyond belief! Truly, the sight of a hard cock against a lean belly is irresistible to me. I will devour you if the chemistry is right. (Who says women aren't visual?!?!?)

Lastly, I will answer all mail that I receive, even to say "no thanks." I think that's just common courtesy.

My Ideal Person: Happy, healthy, intelligent, easy-going, emotionally secure men who take good care of themselves (a LEAN build, please!) who would like to meet an unconventional, smart, happy, sane, sassy, smart-ass, financially independent woman, who has been fortunate enough that there is no heavy baggage weighing me down. I've had a great life and have no chips on my shoulder regarding the men in my life. Men are my absolute favorite creatures!

If you are "420 friendly" that's great!

Please be able to spell and punctuate and write complete sentences. Texting lingo is fine for texting, but if you can't write an email sentence without using shortcuts for words, I probably won't be interested. Say something more than how much you'd like to (fill in the blanks) me. That's not very original! (C'mon, guys...seriously....you write and say that you want to fuck me? That's supposed to make me feel different from every other woman with female body parts?!?!)

Extra points if you don't use "lol" in your correspondence!