zencop 46 / M
"I need to have my mind blown and my toes curled"
Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, United States
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zencop 46/M
Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
Need sex so good that when I get up I will temporarily go blind and be whoozy
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Note: I am not a cop, though I have worked in law enforcement. Zencop is short for Zen Policeman, which is a zen tale of a man who finds out his true purpose in life is to derive order out of chaos.

The most important confessions that a man could make are:
1) I am not the best lover;
2) I do not have the biggest dick; and
3) I can not make every woman orgasm.

I once shocked a friend with this when he purchased my first book and was amazed that I wrote the book; it dealt with love and he only saw me as the warrior.

The reality is that unless you are the master of the bedroom, or you simply exist only at a certain level where you really don't take in other forms of input and analysis, then this is your reality. Many men don't realize -- or won't admit -- that every opportunity with a woman that you don't know can be scary as if you are interested in satisfying her, you never know what it really takes to do that. The reality is that most women's orgasms are controlled by their mind, and even if you have the skills that most of the world would be envious of, the slightest thoughts going through her mind might make her ability to let go and orgasm impossible.

Sex is sex, and you never know whose going to rock your world until you enter that domain. The true secret of being happy is to give more than you take; if everyone did that, we'd all be satisfied. Sex is about the connection, and if you can't stimulate my mind, then you won't get the best out of me. Don't expect me to go on four hours if you can't even jog for fifteen minutes. I know what I am capable of, and it depends on what the other person brings to the table as well. This is not a guarantee either [as I don't sell wolf tickets] because sometimes people are not compatible sexually at first, and sometimes never.

Me? A renaissance man completely; mind, body and soul. Artist, musician, athlete, thinker. My tastes run the whole gamut, pretty much because I believe that the equation of attraction and intersection changes with each person that you throw into the mix. Either you add more variables and constants, or you subtract them. I believe that each woman has her own beauty and just needs to realize what it is and bring it out, that is if she hasn't done it already.

I am looking and am not looking for a relationship. That' an interesting limbo right there. If it fits, then fine, and if it doesn't, then I am cool with that as well. Sometimes we can come into people's lives for a reason other than the one that we intended. And just because it might not be for what you intended, it might be a beautiful friendship or association nonetheless.

I can go from jeans and a pullover to black tie within the drop of a hat. I can't say that I am looking for one particular relationship over another, because who knows what type of relationship it would be destined to be (the Chinese believe that there are ten types of friendships).

I am attracted to women of all races, and mainly date in the 40s and 50s range. Believe it, or not, I have been dating in this range, and at least ten years older than me, since I was 24. I prefer the wine of a well-ripened grape.

Pretty much my enjoyment revolves around wine, women and song. This means that I enjoy a great glass/bottle, an interesting woman and great music. I have no interests in going to strip clubs, watching porn, or trolling bars. That's not my style. I am also a voracious reader.

Weekend nights you will usually find me home by nine, watching a favorite show or two and drinking a nice glass/bottle of wine. I have no problem sharing that with another. Weekend mornings might have me catching the matinee at the movies or maybe having brunch on Sunday.

While I am not a gourmet, I do cook and it gets interesting as I learn more and more things and get into them. For the past two years, I have been experimenting with ceviche as well as stir fry. Currently, I am messing around with duck. I just got a new range with all the bells and whistles so I am excited.

I also play steward/protector of three female cats who live me [and who each can't stand one another -- they're so damned catty], two male cats who live outside, and three squirrels who inhabit the block. If I hit the lottery, I already have a wonderful house picked out that will accommodate everyone except for the squirrels. Yes, I am an animal person and between clients and ex-girlfriends, I am also loved by a bevy of dogs who won't leave me alone for at least thirty minutes when they see me.

I have no compunction to spends oodles of money going out traipsing around, though I will do things with the right person. The reason why is that I have my goals as well, and I intend to visit Portugal and Italy this year, and maybe also Spain, Sicily and Sardinia.

Oh, I do like cuddling but I will be honest that I also snore. Thinking about getting one of those mouth guards for that.

My Ideal Person I have met some wonderful people on this site, some of whom I have known for years and we have become friends outside of the dynamic of sex. However, no matter how enjoyable the sex was, they were not the ones to become my significant other, but respect is still there.

There are people whom I have met here whom I have yet to connect with because of distance and responsibility, but hopefully that will change soon.

Size, shape, race and age doesn't matter as much as mind, spirit and attitude. A confident woman with class and respect will wow me more than a stereotypically stunning women with a bad attitude and who also can't cook. And there are a ton of women in this world who have no class; it's what my mom calls "uncouth." Oh, and I also have to add that for those people trying to stay what they deem as relevant with the younger generation by writing emails that look like the text messages of a teenager, you can just pass me by.

I am looking for someone who has some stimulating conversation and possibly some great sexual chemistry. If you're an idiot, bigot, asshole, can't speak English without sounding like a hoodrat, are a gold-digger, can't spell, or get off on being something like "the baddest bitch," then it just won't work at all. Please have a brain, please be into doing more than the norm, please have some interests, please be challenging.

If you're not into Black males, I can understand that. I am not into them either, or any other males for that matter. I can sympathize with the continual pleas from men who simply look at you as some prized sexual contest/conquest and don't see you for you, because I don't want it to happen to me. And, having been around I can understand not wanting to be around certain attitudes which might be less than civilized; I am not a fan of rednecks myself.

I am not into being filmed or having sex with you while your hubby watches. On the former I am not into capturing the moment or being part of someone's memorial collection and on the latter I just find it damned creepy. And while I can respect people wanting sex their way, I am not interested in being part of a group of men who engage you.

I would love to find someone who I connect with in the bedroom and maybe even outside of it. Hell, I have a lot going on right now professionally and between getting back into working out like crazy, learning Italian, freelance projects, work and my own creative projects, I just need some great/phenomenal sexual releases.

At your core, be yourself. I am not interested in the accumulation of tattoos, piercings, wigs/weaves, and/or material things that might make you feel like you are all that. Life is struggle, and we all have things that we go through and experience.

For me, on a deeper level [and this goes for those people looking for someone more permanent], there are two parts of me that really matter; my brain is the first and my penis is the second. If the sex is totally satisfying but my brain doesn't agree with your thought process and actions in your life, it won't work. If my brain loves you, but I am not sexually satisfied, that's a strikeout as well. I can easily fall in love, but staying there is something else. Trust me, I have looked at situations at each end and wondered for days on end if I could commit to the other person and be happy. The final answer was always no.

What location do you fantasize about for a sexual encounter?:
No particular place

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Threesomes, Mutual Masturbation

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Sexual experience, Physical attraction, Ability to be discreet, Sexual appetite

Ever fantasized about having sex with a celebrity? Who? What turns you on about them?:
Judith Light, Vesta Williams, Stockard Channing, Jeri
Ryan, Marina Sirtis

Have you ever had cybersex?:
No way. I only want skin on skin.

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  • 46 / male
  • Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, United States
Sexual Orientation:
Looking For:  Women or Couples (2 women)
Birthdate: July 31, 1970
Travels to: Lisbon, Lisboa, Portugal
Hometown: Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, United States
Relocate?: Maybe/Yes
Marital Status: Single
Height: 5 ft 9 in / 175-177 cm
Body Type: Athletic
Smoking: I'm a non-smoker
Drinking: I'm a light/social drinker
Drugs: I don't use drugs
Education: Some college
Occupation: IT
Race: Black
Religion: Agnostic
Have Children: No
Want Children: No
Male Endowment: Long/Average
Circumcised: Yes
Speaks: English, studiedMandarinChinese, French, SpanishandGerman;abouttolearnItalian
Hair Color: Black
Hair Length: Crewcut
Eye Color: Brown
Glasses or Contacts: None
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